Ubomi bentsapho buqulethe i-cocktail yonke yeziganeko: apha kunye kunye nokunyuka kwamanyathelo okusebenza, kunye namaqela etiyi ehlwaya, kunye neengxabano ezincinane ngenxa yeesokisi ezihlakazekile kwindawo engafanelekanga. Kodwa zonke ezi nwabisa ziphela kwiintsapho zendabuko, ezingenakutsholwa ngento enjalo njengomtshato weendwendwe, apho kungenakwenzeka ukudala imeko elolo hlobo.
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ngaphandle kweenkcukacha ezichazwe ngasentla, intsapho ayikwazi ukuba khona, kwaye ngoko umtshato wesityeti asinakubizwa ngokuba yinyani. Abantu abanobudlelwane obunjalo, kwaye bazama ukuhlasela inyaniso, bethetha ukuba intsapho ephumelelayo yinto ephambili yomsebenzi, kwaye yabonisa ukuba unokuphepha ukuhamba rhoqo, ushiye iholide elingapheliyo ebomini bakho.
Abatshati abavuma ngokuvakalayo ukuba basemtshatweni weendwendwe bayaqiniseka ukuba kukho indawo eyabelwe ngokuthe ngqo yomsebenzi, oko kukuthi iofisi, kwaye wonke umntu kufuneka ahlaziye, ngaphandle kokuguqula ibe ngumkhwa kunye nokuba ngumsebenzi. Oku kusebenza nakubusini bobulili, kuba uthando luyimfuneko kuphela xa umphefumlo unqwenela, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba unesisenzo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo. Ukunyamekela iqabane kufuneka lenze uvuyo kwaye lugxininise umyeni okanye umfazi ukuze ekuguga kube nzima ukukhathazeka ngokuhlwa.
Inkolelo yinto enamandla
Kuyinto engaqhelekanga ukuva kubasemagunyeni bentsapho bendabuko ukuba akekho oza kunika isiselo kubantu abahlala emtshatweni weendwendwe ekuguga, ozele amanzi. Kuthiwani ukuba awuyidingi le glasi?
Ingxabano esilandelayo, ukuvakala ekuxhaseni izithethe, kuyimfuneko yokuzala kwaye ivelise abantwana abaya kuba nzima ukuchaza isizathu sokuba umama nobaba bangahlali kunye naso sonke ixesha, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi bavakashele umngane. Yaye ngubani na onitshele ukuba oku kulungile? Ewe, kwilizwe lethu abafazi abaninzi bahlala nabantu abangathandwa kuphela kuba abantwana kufuneka baphile kuwo wonke umntu, apho abazali bobabini baqeshwe khona.
Abancedisi abaninzi bemitshato yendabuko, phakathi kwazo apho kukho amadoda, bakholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane beendwendwe abukwazi kuthiwa yintsapho. Ewe, kunenzuzo ukuba indoda ifike kanye ngeveki kumntu obizwa ngokuba ngumlingane, fumana inkxaso yemoya kunye nokuphumula ngokwesondo, umfazi ukhululekile ukuba angakhokheli indlu, musa ukupheka rhoqo kwaye ulindele umyeni wakhe emsebenzini. Kodwa ukuba umntu uthatha isigqibo sokutshata, kufuneka ahlale ekulungele zonke iintlobo zawo.
Kukho ukucinga ukuba kwiintsapho ezineemvelaphi zemveli, ingcamango yombingelelo ixhomeke, kwaye abantu batshata nje ukuba umntu ahlale naye aze afe ngosuku olulodwa. Njengokuba umtshato uyisiqinisekiso sokuba ineminyaka yobudala uya kuba nesigxina esisithandayo, ukuthembela nothando, esikufaneleyo kulutsha lwethu. Kuya kuthi emva kokuba uphila kwiminyaka yobudala, unokuthembela kuphela kumlingane wakho. Kodwa kuthekani ngabanye abantu, umzekelo, abantwana, izihlobo?
Ukuqiniseka
Ukuba sibheka umtshato wendabuko kwindawo yokujonga ukuzinza, ngoko abantu abahlala kwiintlalontle zentsapho banokubonisa ukuba umanyano wabo unaphakade, kwaye iqabane elithembayo liza kuhlala nathi kulo lonke usuku. Ukuhlala emtshatweni womninimzi, amaqabane ayazi ukuba njenge-nikruti, kwaye kulobu bomi kufuneka bathembele kakhulu kumntu othandekayo kwaye siza kweli hlabathi lodwa, kwaye sishiye singenasiphelo. Vumelana, kuba kukho imizekelo emininzi apho kungekho nendlu eqhelekileyo, kwaye nabantwana abasindiswa ekungcatshweni, ukugula okubulalayo okanye ingozi.
Enyanisweni, akufanele sifihla ukuba imitshato yokuvakasha ixhaswa ngabantu abaneengcinga ezikhethekileyo kunye nendlela yokuphila: abaxhomekekanga, bazimeleyo ukuba bathembele kumntu ngaphandle kwabo, bathembeke ngokwenene, bevuma ukuba abanakuphila ubomi babo kunye nomlingani wabo. Iingcali zengqondo zithi ngabantu abakuzo ziindidi ezixhasa imibono ngomtshato wesityezelo. Bonke abanye, bengenalo ulwalamano oluzinzile kwaye ubuncinci abathile ngokuqinisekileyo kwixesha elizayo, baya kubandezeleka kweli meko.
Thetha ngokumelene nomtshato wesityezelo kunye nalabo bawela kule meko banyanzeliswa. Ezi zigaba zibandakanya imibhangqwana, obani ifunyenwe, ifumene isithuba esithakazelisayo kwesinye isixeko kwaye sinokubona kuphela isiqingatha sesibini kwiintsuku ezingaqhelekanga zeeholide. Akonelelwanga yimeko kunye nomtshato wesiganeko kunye nabangenakuthengwa okanye baqeshise indlu, apho intsapho ihlala khona.
Kodwa umntu akakwazi ukucinga ukuba bonke abantu abahlala emtshatweni wendwendwe ukususela ekuqaleni bavunyelwene kwezobuhlobo. Ngokuqhelekileyo le meko iyaphoqeleka. Umzekelo ocacileyo, esikhankanywe ngasentla. Kuthe xa omnye wabafazi kufuneka asebenze okanye afunde kwenye idolophu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umtshato onjalo ulunkululeko engenamkhawulo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abafazi bafuna ukugodla umyeni wabo ngento enandi, bhakanyuka ebhedeni elibandayo, balungise isidlo sakusasa baze batye phambi komsebenzi. Amadoda nawo ahlupheka, kuba ekude kubasetyhini, abanalo uthando olwaneleyo kunye nenkxaso.
Yenza izigqibo
Abo banomdla wokuhlala rhoqo kwinqanaba elinesibini elisondeleyo, abakulungele ukwabelana nabo bonke ulonwabo nosizi, abafuna ukudibanisa abantwana babo abathandekayo, abayi kuze bavumelane nokuhlala nomtshato wesityezelo. Ukuphela kweyona nto ifanelekileyo, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bazalise umsebenzi wabo wesikolo, okanye othandekayo, ngokokuba uya kubuya emsebenzini, evela kumama okanye kwi-gym.
Ukuba awunabantwana okwamanje kwaye ukulungele ukuvavanya, kuya kuba kukuba umtshato wesitye nento oyifunayo. Kuloo ndlela uya kuba nomtshato weklastiki kunye nengubo emhlophe, isitampu kwipasipoti kunye nokuqonda ukuba unomlingane.
Unomtshato wesityezelo kunye nemisebenzi yazo ekhethekileyo. Ngoko ke, ngamnye umfazi ufumana ixesha elininzi lokuzikhethela, afuna ukuzikhethela: ukuba ufuna ukuqhuba umsebenzi, ufuna ukuphucula kwi-skating skating okanye i-motocross. Omnye umzuzu omnandi okhoyo kwiimeko ezinjalo zihlala zihlala zithandana, zigcinwa ngexesha loqhagamshelwano lomtshato.
Umngcipheko omkhulu womtshato weendwendwe unokuqwalaselwa, njenge-nistranno, imbono engalunganga yabanye, abaninzi babo bajonga ukuba isibini esinjalo siyiziphambeko, ubuhlobo babo buza kupheliswa emva koko.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi umtshato weendwendwe ungathathwa njengendlela yokutshintshana yesikhashana kunye nohlobo lokuvavanya ubudlelwane obunamandla. Ukongeza koko, kunzima kakhulu ukuba abantwana bakhuliswe kwimiba yezinto kwaye abafazi abathatha isigqibo sokuba nomntwana bazalwa kungekudala okanye kamva, kwaye iintsapho zabo zibuyela kwindlela yobomi bendabuko.