Kodwa, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abantu badibanise uthando nothando (umonde, ukukhanga).
Unyaka wonke, izigidi zeembini ezitshatileyo ziza kwiofisi yokubhalisa ukuba zitshatile kwaye zibophe iintlobo zazo ngokubethelwa kunye nokutywinwa kwipasipoti yazo.Kodwa, ezinye izibini ziza kwiingcamango zokutshata ngenxa yokuba zithandana ngokwenene. Kwaye abanye ... kwaye abanye bavakalelwa kukuba iimvakalelo zabo zomnye zithando lokwenene. Kwaye, njengokuba uyazi, nganye yale mitshato inesiqhelo esinengqiqo: nokuba ubomi obude kunye novuyo kunye.
Ukuvavanya uthando lokwenene? Ungaziqonda njani kwaye ungazikhuseli kwiiphoso?
Enyanisweni, kunzima ukuqaphela uthando lokwenene. Ngaphezulu, siza kukhankanya izinto ezinokukunceda ukuba uqonde lo mbuzo obalulekileyo kodwa obalulekileyo.
Ukujonga ukuba uthando lokwenene okanye uthando kuphela entliziyweni yakho, phendula uluhlu lwemibuzo.
Kutheni uthanda lo mntu? Ukuba ukhankanywa kuphela ngokubonakala kwakhe, ukukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, ngoko unokutsho ngokuphepha ukuba awunalo uthando kuye. Yinto nje yokuzilibazisa ekugqibeleni. Xa uthanda umntu ebomini bokwenene, awuyithandi ubuso obunjani okanye umzimba oqwengayo. Okokuqala, uyakhangelwa kuyo ngeempawu zayo zangaphakathi kunye neempawu zayo, nangona kukho ukukhangwa kwesondo.
Khumbula indlela ozive ngayo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uluthando ekuqaleni, ngoko ukhawuleza ukuthukuthela. Uthando ekubonweni kokuqala aluyenzeki - yinto yokuzilibazisa nje. Uthando lokwenene luza kancane, ngokuthe ngcembe.
Ukongeza, umdla ubonakaliswa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: uhlala ufumana isithwathwa sengqondo. Uyakuthanda, ngoko uyayithiya. Uthando lokwenene lubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezilinganayo, ezixhomekeke ngononophelo kunye novelwano.
Ukususela kumzuzwana odibana naloo mntu, ukhohliwe zonke izicwangciso zakho? Ngaba kuwe ihlabathi elilodwa kuphela - insizwa yakho? Oku kunokwentshiseko nje. Xa uthanda, ziphela iimpawu zakho ezibonakalayo kuwe-ufuna ukudala nokudala. Ewe, kuwe unomntu oyedwa, ozithandayo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ubudlelwane nabazali, abazalwana kunye noodade, abahlobo abayi kuhlahloka, kodwa baya kwizinga elingcono.
Ndixelele, ndinokuvavanya njani ulwalamano kunye neemvakalelo? Ukwahlukana! Xa ukuhlukana ngokukhawuleza kuyacaca - uyakuthanda okanye unomdla. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba awunalo uthando, emva kwexesha, zonke iinkumbulo zakho zomntu ziya kushiya iingcamango zakho. Ngokwemvelo, ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene, ukuzahlukana kuya kuguqula zonke iimvakalelo zakho kule nsizwa. Ubomi ngaphandle kwalo abuyi kuzisa uvuyo.
Ngomdla wokuqhelekileyo, uhlala uxabana, wenze uxolo. Mhlawumbi, ukuxabana okukunceda kukunandipha. Ukungavumelani okuqhubekayo kuyindlela yokuvuselela iimvakalelo.
Xa uthanda, uthanda ngokwenene, phakathi kwakho ngaphantsi nangaphantsi kukho ukuxabana nokungavumelani. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uqala ukukhangela ukutshatyalaliswa nokunikezela omnye nomnye. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukwenza oku ukuze ulondoloze iimvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane bakho.
Kunzima ukujonga uthando lokwenene, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Uthando luvakalelo olungenabugovu nolungqambileyo komnye umntu. Uthando lokwenene alukhuthazeli ukuzingca.
Ugqirha ogqwesileyo kuzo zonke iingxaki ixesha. Ngako oko, musa ukuqhuba amahashe, ulinde, wena ngokwakho uya kuqonda ukuba uluphi uhlobo lwentliziyo ehlala entliziyweni yakho, uya kuqonda ukuba olu luthando lokwenene okanye nje into yokuzilibazisa engenalo ikamva. Kwaye, nangona ufike kwizigqibo zokuthi ungathandani ngokwenene, cinga ngamakhulu amawaka ngaphambi kokuba uphule ubuhlobo. Ngokukhawuleza, ulahlekile kwaye unokwenza impazamo ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho.