Ixesha libaleka ngokukhawuleza kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha awunaso ixesha lokubona ukuba kungekudala nje abantwana bodwa abakhulayo. Kubonakala ngathi kutshanje bathatha indodakazi esibhedlele, kodwa namhlanje umntu wambiza intombazana. Ngaba sele sele ekhule kangaka? Okanye mhlawumbi lixesha lokuthetha ngalezo zinguqu eziye okanye ziza kuqala ukuza kwenzeka kuye. Abazali bayayiphindaphinda kangakanani le ngxoxo, ngokubhekiselele ekungabikho kwexesha, ngoko kungabikho kolwazi, ngoko kwimeko engafanelekanga. Kodwa ixesha libaleka neempukane, kodwa umzuzu awuze ufike. Oku kunokuba yingxaki enkulu, kuba ukuba abazali abaxeli ulwazi, abantwana baya kufumana. Kwaye akusoloko kulungile kwaye kuyimfuneko.
Akulungele ukuqala incoko enjalo, ingakumbi ukuba akuzange kubekho ulwalamano oluthembekileyo ngaphambili. Kodwa kuyimfuneko kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko. Kwaqala nini? Ukudweba izigqibo ezivela kwizifundo zanamhlanje, ukuguquka kwexesha kumantombazana kwiimeko zanamhlanje kuqala kwiminyaka eyi-8-9. Kule minyaka, iipesenti ezilishumi zamantombazana sele esesikhathini. Kulo nyaka ufanele uwaxelele ngeenguqu ezinokuthi zenzeke. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuba intombi yakhe ingene kwiingxenye ezilishumi, kwaye yatshitshiswa, ekubeni yimeko enokungazi ngokupheleleyo.Yintoni omele uyixelele intombi yakho? Impawu zesini ezibonakalayo ngexesha lokukhula komntwana zibandakanya: ukutshintsha kwimilo, ukwanda kweengcambu zeemfesane, ukubonakala kwimijikelezo yokuya esikhathini, iinwele ze-pubic kunye nezikhongo. Indlela kunye nokokuthethayo kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane bomntwana kunye nabazali, kwakunye nokuziphatha kunye nesimo se ntombazana. Kodwa oku akufanele kugwenywe, kuba akukho nto ihlaziyikayo kwaye ingcolileyo kwimisebenzi kunye nesakhiwo sezitho zenkqubo yokuzala. Ukungafanelekanga kunye neentloni kuphela ukubandlulula okuthintela abazali ukuba bangathethi kwezihloko ezinjalo nabantwana babo.
Unokuqala incoko enjalo ngokutshintsha isimo somzimba nesifuba. Amantombazana atsala ukulinda eli thuba kwaye akhathazeke kakhulu ngale nto. Kwiminyaka yenguqu, abantwana bangenza iindawo eziyinkimbinkimbi ngokuma kwazo, eziza kuba nzima kakhulu ukuzinqumla. Ngako oko, kufuneka kucaciswe ukuba umzimba uya kutshintsha, iifom ezininzi ziza kubonakala, kodwa oku akufanele kuthintele ubukhulu bonke. Isifuba sisengozini kakhulu ngeli xesha, kwaye akukho nanye inokuthi ikhutshwe okanye ifakwe. Kanye kunye nokubonakala kweenwele kwi-axilla kunye ne-pubic sebaceous glands ziqala ukusebenza, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza inkqubo yokucoceka.
Ukuthetha malunga nokuqala komjikelezo wesini kuthethwa ngabazali abaninzi ukuba babe nzima kakhulu. Ukuba kunzima ukuqala, ke indlela elula yokuphuma kule meko inokuthengwa kwencwadi ekhethekileyo yabaselula. Ichaza nje ulwimi lolwazi malunga nokukhulelwa. Ukuba ufuna ukuphepha ukudibanisa ngqo, kwaye ungakhangeli kwintetho enjalo, unokufunda le ncwadi kunye nokuphendula imibuzo evelele. Kule meko, kuya kuba lula ukunqoba umqobo. Okokuqala, kule ngxoxo kubalulekile ukucacisa isizathu sokuba njani ukuya kwinyanga. Sifanele sikwenze kucace ukuba oku akusiyo i-pathology, kwenzeka kumntu wonke, kwaye oku kungokuqala kokuguquka kwentombazana ibe ngumfazi.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuqala komjikelezo wesini akuthethi ukukhula, kwaye iminyaka ngaphambi kokulala ngokwesini kunye nokubeleka kungaqala. Okwesibini, intombazana kufuneka ikwazi ukugcina kakuhle ukucoceka. Ukuze wenze oku, kungcono ukuthenga i-gaskets kusengaphambili, xelela, ubonise indlela yokuwasebenzisa kwaye uyishiye nentombi yakho. Kubalulekile ukuchaza ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukugcina ikhalenda uze ubhale imihla yemijikelezo. Ewe, ukuze ugxininise ukubaluleka nokubaluleka kwalo mzuzwana, ukwenzela ukuba intombi ikwazi ukubona ngokucacileyo esi siganeko, ungamenza isipho.
Bazali abathandekayo, musa ukushiya le ngxoxo, nethemba lokuba umntu uyazi umntwana wakho kumntu. Fumana ithuba kunye namandla okuthetha nentombi yakho malunga nesi sihloko. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba isiqalo siqala ngokungalindelekanga, intombazana inokutshatyalaliswa, kwaye esi siganeko siya kuhlala sihlala sikhumbula njengenye yexesha elibi ebomini. Nangona unako ukuyenza ilinde ixesha elide, kwaye imemori yokuqala kokukhula iyamnandi.