Ngaba le nyaniso?
Abazali bafuna umntwana ukuba athethe njalo inyaniso kuphela. Yaye, ngokwabo, ukutshatyalaliswa komdlalo, empeleni, bamkhohlise. Kodwa lo buxoki lukulungele: ukuba umntu omdala kunye nomntwana udlala ngokulingana, inyana ayisayi kuphinda iphumelele (emva koko, izakhono kunye nobuchule bomntu omdala azinakufaniswa namakhono omntwana), ngoko ke, akayi kuzuza amava amaninzi obunzima kwaye akayi kufumana "inoculation" ".
Ukhuphiswano lunikeza?
- Ukungqinelana. Enyanisweni, abadala abakuthandi ukudlala ngamadonki okanye kwi-designer. Imisebenzi elula kakhulu, iyakhathaza. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukudlala nomntwana! Apha, kwaye uze uncede umdlalo-ukhuphiswano olungenakuqikelela kunye nolonwabo.
- Ukuzimela. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuphela ukhuphiswano lomntwana unyanzelekile ukuba wenze nantoni na. Umzekelo, ukususa amathoyizi ukuza kuhlamba okanye ukuhlamba izandla phambi kokutya: ngubani okhawuleza?
- Uluhlu lweengxaki. Ingane ayinako ukuhlala etafileni okwesibini okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ayisebenzi kakhulu? Yiza nomncintiswano wezemidlalo oya kuba lunomdla kwi-crumb kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uncedisa ukunqoba ukungaphumeleli.
Imithetho yokunikezela
- Ukunikezela kuphela ekuqaleni. Ngethuba lexesha loqeqesho, isabelo somzali esingabonakaliyo siya kubonisa umntwana ukuba umgaqo-siseko unokukwazi ukujamelana nomsebenzi. Kodwa xa umntwana ekwazi ukuqonda izakhono eziyimfuneko, ngokunikezela kufuneka ufeze - ubunzima bamele bube nenyaniso.
- Yimvelo. Inkolelo ayifanele ibe lula kwaye ibonakale, ngoko iyancipha. Ukuba inkwenkwe iyaqonda ukuba idlala kunye naye, inokukhubeka-kwaye ilahlekelwa ngakumbi ngokholo kwizakhono zakhe.
- Ukufuna ubuninzi. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba kumdlalo weemvuthu wenza yonke imizamo - kuphela oku kuphumelela kuya kufundisa umxholo wenjongo kwaye uya kuphumelela. Ingane, ejwayele ukunika konke okusemgangathweni, iya kuphelelwa lula, ikwazi ukuba yenza konke akwaziyo.
- Khetha umzuzu. Ukunikezela akuyimfuneko ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kusondele ekupheleni komdlalo, kwaye ukwenze ngokungathi ngengozi. "Yenza iphutha," mvumele umntwana asebenzise ithuba lokuwina.
Ukuhlambalaza, kuphela ukuzola
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuvavanya kakhulu ukulahlekelwa kukuthetha uloyiko olunzulu: "Ukuba andiyena mhle, akukho mntu uya kundithanda." Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana azi ukuba uthando lwakho lungenammiselo kwaye ukulahlekelwa akukwenzekanga kubi. Xa inkwenkwe ihlangabezana neemvakalelo ezimbi, qiniseka ukuba uyayibona kwaye ukhuthaze. Musa ukuvuma. Inkwenkwe akufanele ikhumbule inkohliso inxalenye yakho.
Ayikho inzuzo, kodwa inzuzo
- Smile ngefowuni. Kukho imidlalo, ukunqoba apho kuxhomekeke kwinqaba-kwaye oku kufuneka kugxininiswe. Ingane kufuneka ifunde ukuba akuyiyo yonke intlawulo isithelo sesiqhelo sakhe. Ukuba ngabadlali baninzi kunye nabo bonke malunga nobudala obufanayo, qiniseka ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba abancinci banokuziva ngathi bafana. Okanye ilungu leqela elinobubele elifaka isandla ekuphumeleleni.
- Umdala kunye nomntwana. Ukudlala umdlalo weqela kunye nentsapho yonke, ungalokothi uhlangane ngokomgaqo "wabazali kubantwana". Uvumele iqabane likayise libe yintombi, kunye nomlingane wam umama - unyana.
- Imigaqo. Ukuba abadlali baneminyaka ehlukeneyo, kufuneka ulingane namathuba abo. Umzekelo, okwethutyana uqalise imigaqo emitsha, ukunikezela ukuzithobela abantwana. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana asebekhulile baqonde ukuba kutheni iimvuthu zinikezwa ukukhubazeka, kwaye zivunyiwe. Zama ukungadlala imidlalo apho umntu olahlekileyo kufuneka alahleke kumdlalo. Uvakalelwa kungekuphela nje ukuphazamiseka ngenxa yokulahlekelwa, kodwa kwakhona uphonswa ngaphandle kweholide jikelele.
- Musa ukulibala malunga namabhaso. Kodwa musa ukwenza inkolo ngaphandle kwabo. Umvuzo unokudumisa, kungekhona nje ithokoleta.
Dlala neontanga
Ukunikezela kuya kugqitywa xa inkwenkwe iqala ukudlala noontanga, ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba koomama noyise. Kwaye imidlalo enjalo inomdla kakhulu. Oontanga abayi kuvelisa ukunqoba ngaphandle kokulwa. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba, ngokuphumelela, umntwana ngoku uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo-ngeli xesha ulungile kakhulu. Ukulahleka kwiinkampani zontanga kunyanisekile, kwaye abantu abadala yonke iminqweno abanakukwazi ukunika ithuba elinjalo kumntwana wabo. Kodwa lowo ophula imithetho, akayi kubalwa neminqweno yabanye kwaye engazi indlela yokulahlekelwa ngokwaneleyo, abantwana abayi kwamkela umdlalo nje. Ngoko, amandla okulahleka, kwakhona, kufuneka ufundise.
Akazi ukuba alahlekelwe njani
• Hlalani nisondele. Yaye ukuba ubona ukuba intsana iqala ukuba neentloni, ziphose izipho okanye iinkcukacha, kungekudala into ethile ingahambi kakuhle, -nceda. Kungcono ukuphazamisa umntwana, lungisa imeko ngeli xesha, kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba aqedele oko aqalise kwaye adumise ngokungathi ngaba yimpumelelo yakhe kuphela. Kule meko, umoya wokhuphiswano uya kuqhubeka, kwaye umnqweno wokufezekisa ngakumbi uya kwanda.
• Musa ukuthuthuzela. Ukuzisola nokuthuthuzela "ihlwempu kunye nehlwempu" akufanelekanga: umntwana kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba umntu olahlekileyo akayixhoba.
• Akukho mphumo, kodwa inkqubo. Xoxa ngomdlalo, ugxininise ukungaphumeli okanye ukulahleka, kodwa ukuzonwabisa kwakho wachitha ixesha.