Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, abazali bajamelana nesimo esinjalo njengengxaki yomntwana. Kwaye abazali bahlala beyazi ukuba bangayiyeka njani. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abakhohlakeleyo bavela kwiindawo ezixhamlekileyo kwaye abazali kufuneka 'badibanise'. Umbuzo uvela, yintoni oyenzayo ukuba kukho ukunyaniseka kwabantwana abancinci kunye nendlela yokumisa.
Uhlobo olusakhula ngayo kwiintsana
Ukuqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqha komoya okubonakalayo kwindlela yokuvutha umsindo, ukucaphukisa, ukunyaniseka, ukuphelelwa lithemba ngumngcipheko wengane. Xa kwenzeka umxhasi, umntwana omncinci uqala ukuguqa, khala uze umemeza kakhulu. Ngalolu hlobo kwintsana, imisebenzi yezakhono zezithuthi iyaxutywa phantsi, inokubetha nayiphi na into kwaye ingakhathazeki. Kwezinye iimeko kunye nentukuthelo engalawulwayo, umntwana unokufumana: ukungabi nomoya (umntwana uswele emoyeni), ukudibanisa okungazibandakanyi, kwaye ngezinye izikhathi i-syncope emfutshane. Emva kokupheka kwamandla amaninzi, inkqubo ye-nervous ifuna ukuphumla. Emva kokuphela kokuhlaselwa, umntwana uyalala okanye awele kwi-stupor.
Yiyiphi imbangela yezo zizwe
Ngokutsho kweengqondo zengqondo, ukudabuka kwabantwana abangaphantsi komnyaka omnye kunqabile kwaye kubangelwa zizifo ezahlukahlukeneyo. Amaqhinga aqhelekileyo kubantwana emva kweminyaka yobudala ubudala. Inyaniso kukuba ukusuka ngonyaka omnye umntwana usuqala ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwayo. I-Hysteria kule minyaka ihlala isabela, ukungaphumeleli, okwakungalindelekanga yinkomo. Uze ukhale kulo mzekelo, umntwana akaqalanga ngokukodwa, kodwa ngenxa yentukuthelo. Ngaloo nto, abazali, ngenxa yenceba yabantwana babo, bazame ukuzinzisa kwaye banelise iimfuno zakhe nangayiphi indlela. Kodwa engqondweni yengqungquthela, sele ihlehlisiwe ukuba xa ukhala kwaye ukhale, ungayifumana.
Waqhelana nelokuba uncedo lwaloo mbhikisho luyakwazi ukufezekisa injongo yalo, umntwana uqala ukulungiselela izenzo ezinjalo nangaluphi na ukugatya ngabazali bakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuhlaziywa kubonakala kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka engama-4, ekubeni emva kwalo nyaka umntwana usuqonda ukuba eso sijeziso siya kulandela. Ngokukodwa izenzo ezinyane ziyakuthanda ukuba zilungiselele kwiindawo ezixubileyo, apho abazali, ukuze bangahlaziyi, bathenga le nto okanye i-toy, i-candy, njl njl njl. Okanye ngaba kukho abantu abaya kuzisola "inkohliso" encinci, abazali abahlambalazayo nabazali baya kuzalisa imfuno. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ezinjalo izenzo zomntwana ziya kuba ziqhelekileyo.
Kwakhona, ezinye izinto zingaphukisa abantwana abancinci. Ngokomzekelo, nasiphi na isifo, ngokukodwa esenzeka ngokushisa, ukukhathala, ukungaphumeleli kulawulo lomntwana. Kwakhona uhlala ixesha elide kwiindawo ezixubileyo, ukuphumla ixesha elide, apho kwakuvunyelwe khona, indlala nokoma. Ukongezelela, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo eyahlukahlukeneyo kunokukhupha umsindo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuba umntwana wakho uhlasele amaxesha amaninzi - qhagamshelana neengcali.
Indlela yokujongana nokugquma okunjalo
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka uqalise ngayo "ukulwa" kunye nokuhlaziywa kukukhusela. Ngaphambi kokuba uye kwindawo exubileyo, ngakumbi ukuyothenga, unakekele ezinye zeengxaki. Ingane kufuneka izele, ibeke ixesha, fumana ukulala ngokwaneleyo. Naluphi na ukuphazamiseka kunokukhupha umsindo. Ukongezelela, musa ukulibala ukuba ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali, ukunyanzelisa umntwana kungabangela loo mqathango kwiimvuthu.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ama-hysteric of baby adala ukungavumi ukuthenga nayiphi na imathoyilo, i-candy, njl njl. Nangona umntwana eselula, inokutshintshwa "ziziphazamiso." Umzekelo, "imoto iyahamba", "indiza yahamba", njl njl. Ungatshintshela ingqalelo yebhokhwe kumdlalo.
Ukuba abahlaziyi bazinakuphepheka, kungcono ukuba ungayi kuphucula umntwana wakho. Ukuba ulahla naye, akasayi kukhawuleza le "ntetho". Into ephambili, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuhlungu kangakanani, ungayinikeli imvakalelo yakho, kungcono ukuba ungayithobeli ingqalelo. Ingane iya kuqonda ukuba ilahlekile kwaye iza kuzinza. Ukuba ukwenza oku amaxesha amaninzi, ukudabuka komntwana kuya kumisa. Awukwazi ukuhlwaya umntwana ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe, ngakumbi kuwo wonke umntu. Ngokukhawuleza xa incinci ihlala phantsi, fumana isizathu sokunganeliseki kwakhe. Chaza ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu. Emva kokuba ufunde ukunganaki umqobo wengane yakho, ekugqibeleni baya kumisa, njengoko umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba oku akayi kuzuza nantoni na.