Uthando luyintsikelelo, inikwe abantu abavela phezulu. Phakathi kwezithandani zihlala zikhona izimo zengqondo kunye nemijelo. Nokuba ukuthintana okuncane kwesandla kunokubangela ukuhamba ngesisa kunye nokuvuswa kwesondo. Isiphumo sokulala ngesondo kuphela sanda xa kwenzeka phakathi kwabathandekayo ababini. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uvakalelo lwothando luyekeka kwaye kukho nokuba nomvakalelo wokuthandana, okanye akukho nto, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba xa ufunda ukuvalelwa kwintsha, akufanele uyilibale malunga nokuhlukahluka kwesini. Indlela yokwenza umntu obathandayo abe mnandi ngesini? Funda ngale nto kwinqaku lethu lanamhlanje.
Xa umntu ekhula, unempembelelo yomzimba emzimbeni, kukho ukukhangwa kwesini esahlukileyo. Ngelo xesha kubaluleke kakhulu ukudibana nomlingane ohlakaniphile kunye nolwazi oluninzi oza kufundisa isini esilungileyo nekhuselekileyo, esiza kuba nefuthe elifanelekileyo ekuphuculweni koxhatshazo lwabantu.
Ngokwezesondo, yonke into ibalulekile, kwaye ukuba iqabane liyithandekile, iimvakalelo zakhe neemvakalelo, ngoko kufuneka ubeke ingqalelo kuyo yonke into encinane. Kule nqaku ndifuna ukuqwalasela imiba enxulumene nesondo ngokusebenzisa amehlo ebhinqa. Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuba iqabane lingenelisekile ngokupheleleyo?
Okokuqala, kufuneka silungiselele kwangaphambili le mfihlakalo kwaye sicinge ngako konke into encinane. Qala ngokukhanyisa. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba ubude buqinisa umnqweno. Isigaba esilandelayo kwisilungiselelo singaphantsi kweengubo. Ngaphantsi kweempahla kufuneka kugxininise zonke iingenelo kwaye zifihle imiphumo yesibalo. Isigaba esilandelayo sikhohliswa kwaye apha onke amabhinqa aneendlela zakhe. Abasetyhini abaninzi baqeqeshwa ngokukodwa kwi-striptease, emideni yaseMpumalanga kunye nezinye iindlela zokukhohlisa. Kufuneka kuthathele ingqalelo nayiphi na into encinane, nokuba ukuvumba komfazi othandekayo kunokunyusa umnqweno, ngoko kufuneka usebenzise imimoya efanelekileyo kule ndawo. Ngexesha lesini, kufuneka usebenzise iziganeko ezahlukeneyo ezifanelekileyo kumalingani. Ngokuqhelekileyo, eyona nto iyona yinto "yokuthunywa kwabavangeli" yendabuko, i-pose "yomgibeli" kunye ne "postal" isikhundla. Ukufumana iimvakalelo ezintsha, kufuneka usebenzise izicelo ezintsha. Abalingani abaninzi banomuva wokufuna ukufumana uxanduva oluqhagamshelana namalungu kunye nethuba lokubona amehlo omlingane. Ngenxa yale njongo, "umthunywa wevangeli", i-yoga yesini, kunye nokuma ecaleni kwodonga okanye ipenitshala yefenitshala, zifanelekile. Ukusebenzisa "umgibeli" ukuvumela ukuba iqabane likwazi ukulawula le meko, kodwa apha ungasebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezifana ne "starfish" okanye "umkhombe". Ukuphucula impembelelo, unokubhenela kwizinto ezahlukeneyo, ezifana nobubanzi obukhulu, amathoyizi avela kwivenkile yesini kunye nemifuno. Ukususela ekudibanisaneni kwamakhaza okubandayo kunye namalungu omzimba afudumeleyo, iqabane liza kuqinisa umnqweno wezesondo malunga nemvelaphi yokungafani. Ungasebenzisa amakamelo ahlukeneyo ngesondo, kunye nokuhlela imidlalo yokudlala indima. Ngokomzekelo, umfazi ongumfazi wesinkwa kwisinye seengubo zangaphantsi, kunye nenkosi yindoda eyifumene "inceku" yesoya kwindawo yokuhlambela imyisa kumatshini wokuhlamba. Okugqithiseleyo ibali, ibonwabisayo amaqabane aza kufumana. Inendima ebalulekileyo kwizonxibelelwano zesondo inikezelwa kwizibuko, xa abathandi banokuzibona oko kwenzekayo kwicala, eliphinde liphucule umphumo. Yingakho rhoqo kwiindawo zokulala zilungiselelwe izibuko kunye nokufakwe kwe-chrome.
Ngokwaziyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ukulala ngesondo kubizwa ngokuba kwenza uthando. Unokwazi ukuchaza ezininzi iingxaki ezahlukeneyo kunye nesicelo sabo, kodwa akufanele uyilibale malunga nokukhuselwa kwesondo. Okokuqala, isondo kufuneka sibe kunye nomlingane wakho othandekayo. Kwiimeko zanamhlanje kukho iindlela ezininzi zokukhulelwa nokukhusela, kwaye ukuze uphephe impembelelo engathandekiyo kukulungele ukuyisebenzisa. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba ulwalamano luqala nje kwaye amaqabane awaziwazanga, ke ungayikhohlwa ngezifo ezingabonakala emva koko, ngoko ke kwiintlanganiso zokuqala, iikhondom zifanelekile.
Kukho amathuba amaninzi, indlela yokwenza umntu wakho othandekayo enqabileyo ngesini, sinokucebisa ukuba ucingisise kwaye uzame!