Izifundo ezahlukahlukeneyo zithi abasebenzi ababonanga nantoni na eyoyikisayo ekusebenzeni ngothando kwiindawo zokusebenza, kodwa ulawulo luhlala luloyiko lokuba i-office entlondi iya kuba nefuthe elibi kwimveliso kunye nemoya kwiqela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo emsebenzini buba bufutshane kwaye abuqhelanga ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane obukhulu kunye nomtshato, ingakumbi ukuba omnye okanye bobabini abathathi-nxaxheba kule ncwadana sele sele batshatile.
Inveli inomxholo "ophezulu-ophantsi" - ukhetho oluqhelekileyo nolungenakuchukumisisana nolwalamano lwothando. Unqabile kakhulu, ubudlelwane obunjalo buphela emtshatweni. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo emva kokuphazamiseka kobudlelwane obuncinci kufuneka bahambe.
Ngaphambi kokungena kumnxibelelwano ongenakuxhaswa, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ngokucophelela kwaye uqaphele zonke iifom zolu dlelwane, kunye neengxaki ezinokuthi zibandakanyeke. Okokuqala, umphathi uhlala esitshatileyo, kwaye ukuba umfazi wakhe uyazibona, akayena nje kuphela ukuba akavumelani nento yokuba unomlingani, kodwa unokuba nzima ukuphikisa ubomi bomdlali. Okwesibini, ukuba ingqalelo yintloko ingatshintshela komnye umqeshwa, ngoko umfazi wokuqala unokuwa ngokukhawuleza phantsi koqhekeko. Okwesithathu, umntu ongaphantsi kwakhe ochitha i-affair kunye nomphathi uya kuba lixhoba lokuhleba kunye nokugwetywa ukuba olu dlelwane olungavumelekanga lube yipropati yoluntu. Ukuphuka kwezobudlelwane kunokukhokelela ekuhleni komsebenzi ophantsi.
Kuba umphathi, kwakhona, banokuhlaselwa phantsi kwezi meko. Ukuba uhlawula iveli kunye nomntu ongaphantsi, akanakuze aqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ngokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zakhe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uya kuza neengcamango yokuba umntu ongaphantsi nje ufuna ukunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi.
Kwenzeka ngenye indlela ngeenxa zonke - ubudlelwane kwifomathi "umphathi-phantsi". Ngobudlelwane obunjalo, uninzi lweengcingo. Ibhinqa liya kukhankanya ukuba, mhlawumbi, umntu uyisebenzisela iinjongo zabo. Umphathi unokulahlekelwa ukuthembeka. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho kwakhona isongelo kumsebenzi.
Kwakhona, kukho iireveli zenkonzo rhoqo rhoqo phakathi koogxa. Kuyinto elula apha, kuba ulwalamano oluthandana luvela phakathi. Kodwa apha ayikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kweengxaki. Okokuqala, inkqubo yomsebenzi inokubandezeleka. Okwesibini, ulwalamano olunjalo luvame ukugweba abaphathi, ukuba inombolo iyaziwa. Kwindlela abaphathi abasabela ngayo kwiindaba zentando yenkonzo yakho, kuxhomekeke kumsebenzi wakho kunye nomsebenzi weqabane lakho.
Kwaye nabasebenzi bakho basebenzi baya kuphantsi ithuba lokuhleba nokuhleba ngawe, bakugwebe, ngakumbi xa ngamnye utshatile. Abasebenzi basebenzisane kwaye "abayikuthabatha inkunkuma ngaphakathi kwindlu" (nangona abantu behlukile), kodwa ukuba zonke iinkcukacha zobudlelwane bakho ziya kuba sisihloko sengxoxo ezingenangqondo kunye nokuhleba kungenangqiqo, kuba yonke into iyabonakala. Kwaye, ke, uya kugwetywa. Emva koko, eqinisweni, awunayo nje inkonzo yothando yabantu ababini abakhululekile, unabathandi, kuba kukho iinqunithi ezisemthethweni ezikhohlisiwe, abazitshintshayo. Ininzi yamanveveli enkonzo kamva kamva ibe yintlalo, nangona uzama kanzima ukufihla olu dlelwane.
Ukongezelela, iqela alisoloko lihlala, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokukho umntu ophethe ukuziphatha okanye abafuna ukungafuni kakuhle ukucinga ukuba ngumsebenzi wabo wokubika umtshato onqatshelwe ngumfazi okanye umyeni.
Kukho ezinye iintsilelo ezinjalo. Ukuba awunayo inxaxheba ngendlela engcono, bobabili niya kuba nzima kwaye kufuneka nihlawule uxolo. Ngokomzekelo, waqhekeza isikhalazo. Yintoni eya kubakho ukubonana kwiveki yonke, imihla ngemizuzu eyi-8, yabona umsindo phakathi kwamehlo? Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha isifuba sangaphambili sinokuqalisa ukuphindisela into ethile, ukuhleka ngawe, ukuhlahlela iindlebe, zama ukuphazamisa umsebenzi wakho njalonjalo. Izikratshi, iintlanzi, iindlebe, iingxaki, uluhlu luyaqhubeka kwaye luqhubeke. Kwaye kuya kunzima kuwe, kwaye oku akunakwenzeka ukukholisa abaphathi.
Abanye banokukhetha ukuyeka xa iingxaki ezinjalo ziqala kunye nabathandekayo bexesha langaphambili. Kungcono ukugcina udumo, fumana isiluleko esihle kwaye ufumane omnye umsebenzi ohloniphekileyo kunokuba ulinde de kube imeko ifike kumda. Ukuziphatha ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nokuphulwa komsebenzi wokuqeqesha kuya kunciphisa kakhulu udumo lwakho emehlweni abo baphathi kunye nabalingane, kwaye iziphakamiso ke zingenakulungile. Kutheni i ingxaki Inkonzo yothando - ubudlelwane obusondele kwi-neurosis. Yaye unjani lo msebenzi? Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu unokudibanisa ngempumelelo inombolo yenkonzo kunye nemveliso ephezulu yezabasebenzi.
Ukuba ungabikho abantu abakhululekile, kutheni ufuna le ngxaki? Iingxaki ziya kuba emsebenzini, kwintsapho, nangobomi bodwa. Nangona isilingo sikhulu, kungcono ukubambelela, kungekhona ukuhamba phezu komtya wesicu, akufanelekile ukubeka ingozi kwintsapho yakho kunye nomsebenzi, kuba ukuvezwa kweyona nto iyinyani. Kwaye, njengoko sele kukhankanywe, ininzi yamanveveli enkonzo iphelela ekuhlukaneni, kungekhona ngobudlelwane obukhulu kunye nemitshato. Kukhuselekile ukushiya ukuxhamla ukuxhomekeka. Kutheni udala ubunzima apho uchitha iiyure ezili-8 ngosuku?
Konke oku kunokugwenywa ukuba awukhangeli i-adventure, kwaye ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokuziphatha ngokusemthethweni emsebenzini, musa ukuvumela iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno engapheliyo yokubamba ingqondo yakho nokuqonda. Kufuneka sicinge ngemiphumo.
Ukongeza, xa i-romance inkonzo kunye neengxaki ezibangelwa yiyo, abaninzi abantu bayazisola ngokuba baqala "ukuguqula i-shash" kwindawo yokusebenzela.
Sonke asikho sikhululekile, i-romance yenkonzo itywala ... njani? Yiba neengqiqo, ulinganise i-pros and cons cons, cinga malunga neengxaki ezinokuvela kumntu othandana naye emsebenzini, nangenxa yentlungu enokubangela ukuba uvale abantu. Jabule!