Unomsebenzi omhle kunye nabahlobo abaninzi. Unomtsalane kwaye unomtsalane. Ngelizwi uphumelele kuyo yonke into. Yintoni ongayilahleka ebomini bakho? Uthando? Kutheni kungekho mntu kuphela onokuthanda ukuba uphile ubomi? Indlela kwaye ungayifumana phi indawo yokufumana umphefumlo wakho?
Makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Kwaye kukho izizathu ezininzi kule meko.
1. Abahlobo bakho bahamba nawe yonke indawo.
Uziva ungakhululekile kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo okanye kwindawo ezininzi. Enyanisweni, kuyancipha xa kukho abahlobo abasondeleyo kufuphi. Kodwa ke kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ubukho babo buyanciphisa amathuba akho olwazi olunomdla. Ewe, abahlobo banokubhenela ngakumbi umfana ongeyena, kodwa akusilo nto. Akuyena wonke umntu oza kukwazi ukuqhelana nentombazana phantsi kombono womntu. Kuhlala kungathandeki ukulahlwa esidlangalaleni, kuba engayazi kwangaphambili ukuba ingxoxo yakho iya kuphuhliswa njani.
Ngoko isisombululo esihle kunazo zonke kukuya kwiklabhu ngaphandle kweentombi zakho okanye uzama ukusebenzisa ixesha elide ngaphandle koluntu lwabo.
2. Uhluke kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa.
Ngaba uyayithanda le ngqungquthela ejikeleze ikona, kodwa kweli qela lihlala lihle ngomculo? Ngoko ufuna ukubuyela kwiindawo ozithandayo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuhamba apha kwinkampani yabangane bakho abakhulu. Kodwa awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha, ukutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kumaziko afanayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukwandisa isangqa soqhagamshelwano, wandise uluhlu lweminqweno yakho. Ingaba kukho imidanso yaseLatin yaseMelika, i-origami okanye ukunyuka kwamatye, nayiphi na into yokuzilibazisa entsha iya kukuzisa inani elininzi labantu abanomdla.
3. Unqine kakhulu nabantu.
Ukhononda ukuba awufumani umntu ofanelekileyo, kodwa akukho namadoda alungileyo aseleyo. Ngaba uyazibona wena? Ukuba kunjalo, kungcono ukuba ucinge kwakhona indlela ojonga ngayo abantu. Abantu abaninzi bazama kanzima ukugcizelela ukuba bayaphatha kwaye baziphatha ngendlela engavumelekanga, ngokugqithisileyo okanye ngokugqithiseleyo. Musa ukugweba ngombono wokuqala, unike loo mfana ithuba lokuzibonakalisa.
Musa ukukhawulela indawo okanye indlela yokuthandana, musa ukuziphosa kwimida eqinile. Indawo apho udibana nayo i-destin yakho ingaba yinto engalindelekanga, kwaye ixesha lifanelekileyo kakhulu.
4. Ubonisa inzondelelo.
Intombazana kufuneka isebenze. Ewe, yinyani, musa ukuhlala kwaye ulinde isikhulu sakho. Kodwa jonga ngokwakho ngamehlo endoda. Ngaba iminqweno namaphupha akho zibonakala kuye? Ngaba ukhangelekile, unqabileyo ngomtshato okhethekileyo, uzama ukuwufumana? Nangona unomdla ngaye kwaye ekuqaleni wabona ukuba nguye kuphela, musa ukukhawuleza ubeke onke amakhadi etafileni.
Ufanele uthathe umoya okhulu, ukuba uzuze intloko yakho yonke ingcinga yakho malunga nekamva lakho elihle kunye kunye kwaye ujabulele ukuthetha.
Kodwa mhlawumbi ungomnye walabo obakho ubunzima obunzima endleleni eya kulonwabo. Uyabona umfana okhangayo kwaye akayi kucinga ukumazi kangcono. Kodwa njani ukwenza abahlobo? Indlela yokuqala incoko, indlela yokumthabatha? Ibinzana zokuqala kufuneka ziqheleke ngokwaneleyo ukuba zimdla, kodwa ngelo xesha unobtrusive kwaye akubopheli ukuba uqhubeke nencoko, ukuba unqumle ukuba uthathe umhlalaphantsi. Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa ezivivinywayo kunye nokuvavanywa, kwaye unokuzifaka ngaphandle kwesazela sesazela uze uvelise ngokwakho.
Ngoko, ukusuka ngaphesheya ukuya kwinto.
1. Zama ukuxoxa naye ngomcimbi okhoyo kuwo.
Ingaba ngumbukiso okanye umthendeleko wobugcisa bemihla ngemihla? Bhengeza uluvo lwakho kwimisebenzi yombhali. Ukuba udibene kwikhonsathi, xubusha ukusebenza kwabaculi. Unayo kwindawo enye, oku kuthetha ukuba sele unesithakazelo esifanayo kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, izihloko ezingenamkhawulo zengxoxo.
Ungesabi xa kuvela ukuba unakho ngokufanelekileyo kwisihloko sentetho yakho. Buza imibuzo, mamela ngokunyameko, uya kuziva eqinisekile kwaye oku, mhlawumbi, uya kunika indawo yakhe ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ukuba ngaba malunga neengqungquthela "zendoda," ke unako u-slukavit, uzenzele i-dilettante uze ucele iingcebiso.
2. Mnike uncomo.
Kukho uluvo lokuba amadoda akhathalele ngokubonakala kwawo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, akunjalo. Naka ingqalelo kwi-T-sheikh okanye i-shirt sneakers, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho isiqwenga seengubo ezinokudunyiswa ngaphandle kwesazela. Ngokuqinisekileyo uqikelele oko kubhaliweyo kwi shirt yakhe okanye apho bathengisa khona ijee ezipholile, unokuqala ukumazi.
3. Mhlawumbi udibene naye kwindawo ethile?
Ibinzana leBanal, kodwa, ngokungaqhelekanga, lisebenza. Yenza ubuso obunzulu, njengokungathi uzama ukukhumbula apho unokubonana khona. Ungakwazi ukucinga ngento encinane kwesi sihloko. Masithi, umzekelo, ukuba ukhangeleka ngokukhathalayo kwinkwenkwe oye wabhukuda kuyo kwibanga lesihlanu. Wena, ngokuqinisekileyo, ufumanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba akuyena yena, kodwa isiqalo sele sisekwe kwaye akuyi kuba nzima ukuqhubeka nencoko.
Kodwa nangona ungeke ukwazi ukuza kunye naliphi na ibinzana elifanelekileyo, unokufumana lula "Sawubona!". Futhi ungalibali ngokumamatheka. Umntu omomothekayo ukhangeleka ngakumbi kwabanye kwaye ubangela iimvakalelo ezintle.
UDary uyamkrazula, owaziyo, mhlawumbi omnye wabo uya kuba yinto ezayo. Siyathemba ukuba uyaqonda kwaye wazigqiba apho ufumana khona umphefumlo wakho umlingane.