Okokuqala, khumbula kanye kunye nento yonke: ukubuyisela umntu ngumsebenzi ongathokozisiyo, ongenamsebenzi kunye nobudenge. Oku kusebenza kubo bobabini ngokubanzi kunye nendoda ye-egoist ngokukodwa.
Okwesibini, ukuhlala nendoda egoist akuyona nzima kunokuba nayiphi na enye indoda. Bonke abantu, kunye nabasetyhini, ngokukhawuleza bazingca. Mhlawumbi i-invader egoist idinga isikhala esiphezulu sikhulu kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ingqalelo kwaye ayidingi ukuba ilayishwe iingxaki zakhe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba awuhambisani kakuhle nokuphila kwaye abanako ukujamelana neengxaki zokuqala, ngoko ubomi kunye nendoda egoist inqatshitshiswa kuwe, njengeziqu eziphezulu. Indoda igosa elizingcazelayo ebomini bakhe lixakeke kunye naye kwaye uya kunyamezela ngaphandle kwayo kuphela nje xa unelungelo lokusingqongileyo, unelise iimfuno zakhe kwaye ungayigxina yakho.
Kwaye, kuya kuba kuhle ukusuka ekuqaleni ukucacisa ukuba uluphi uhlobo lokuzibamba kwakho othembekileyo. Egoists eziqhelekileyo zihlukaniswe zibe:
- Uhlala kwaye unike abanye;
- Uhlala, kodwa akanikeli abanye;
- kwaye akahlali kwaye akawunikeli abanye.
Uhlobo olubi kakhulu lwe-egoist ngowokugqibela. Ngenxa yokuba kwimeko yesibini, akunjalo ukuba i-egoist ingavumeli abanye ukuba baphile, bangaphi abanye abangenalo ithuba lokukholisa ubomi obungakhathaliyo kunye ne-egoist. Uhlobo lo kuqala luhlobo lwento ebizwa ngokuthi "ingqiqo" egoist. Kuye, ngokuqinisekileyo yena ngokwakhe uya kuqala, kodwa akafikeli abantu ngqo. Yena, ngokusoloko, akayi kucinga ngoluvo lwakhe xa ephikisana naye.
Ngenxa yoko isiphetho: ufuna ukuphila ubomi nendoda egoist - ayiphikisana nayo, igweme iingxabano, icacise ubuhlobo. I-egoist iya kwenza njengoko ithanda. Kwaye kuncinci kubo bonke baya kuzinyamekela. Ngenxa yoko uzingca.
Ngoko, khwaza, ingubani wena, umntu ongalonwabo akanakuthanda, ube nomdla, uthanda, ungenangqondo? Ewe, nayiphi na inamba. Ngowokuqala nguye othandekayo nantoni na, kwaye umfazi owamnandipha ngayo, wavuma ebomini bakhe, lowo wahlula naye indawo yokukhusela, uya kuhlala esesibini. Kwaye maye kuye ukuba uyazama ukubonisa ukunganeliseki.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uvumelekile ukuba uhlale nendoda egoist, sifunde ukuba ube ngasemva. Kodwa ukuba uhlala uhamba ngeenyawo kwaye awukwazi ukuhlukana nalo mkhuba, ngoko kufuneka ubalekele ukusebenzisana nendoda egoist, umtshato wakho uya kulahlwa. Ngeke ukwazi ukuhlala ngokuzonwabisa kunye nendoda egoist nantoni na ngaphandle kokuzonwabisa, xa ufaka iimfuno zabanye ngaphezu kwezinto ezifunwa ngumlingane wakho.
Ukuphila kunye nendoda engummeli okwazi ukubonelela yena kunye nabathandekayo bakhe ngokuphila ngendlela efanelekileyo kunokuyamkeleka. Ungakulibali ukuyixabisa lakho iqabane (ngakumbi ebusweni babanye), ukuba uthetha inhlanhla kangakanani naye, kodwa ukwenza nenazoylivo. Gwema ukufumanisa ulwalamano, ngezinye izihlandlo unokukhala, konke okufanayo indoda yenzondelelo ayiyi kuqaphela iinyembezi zakho. Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo akaze enze isigqibo sokuthi uyindlela yokwenza ityala. Ngoko ke kukufanelekile ukuchitha amandla.
Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko, ukuba ufuna ukuphila ubomi kunye nendoda egosa, yenza ubomi bakhe bube buyimfuneko, ukwenzela ukuseka ubomi ukuze umntu ozithandayo angenakukwazi ukucinga ubomi obuninzi, ngokokuphela kwendlu yakho kwintsapho. Mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka ukhuthazelele ixesha lokubanda, ukungalindelekanga, mhlawumbi ukungcatsha komyeni wakhe. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuhlala nomntu, kukuloo mntu, ubomi bakho bonke, kufuneka ulungele nantoni na. Kwaye zonke iinyaniso kunye neengqungquthela ziphephe i-scandals. Indoda ngokubanzi, kunye ne-egoist ngokukodwa, ayigxeki kwidilesi yakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuhlala emtshatweni, khumbula zonke iziphakamiso kule nqanaba uze uziphindise kabini, ujongane nendoda egoist.
Ngaloo ndlela, siza kwisigqibo sokuphila ubomi nendoda njengento egoist kwaye sonwabe ngexesha elifanayo, kodwa kunokwenzeka.