Ukujongana nale ngxaki, kufuneka uqonde kuqala: ngubani na yena - indoda yangempela? Kwintombazana kunye nentombazana, ezi ngcamango zinokuhluke kakhulu. Kwaye kunzima ukwenza indoda ishintshe isimo sengqondo kule ngcamango. Kulula ukufumana loo mntu enze sengathi uyavuma, kunokuba amenze acinge kwakhona into yonke. Kodwa, ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba unyanzele umfana ukuba abonise ukuba ufanelekile ukuba "yindoda yangempela", makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba le ngqiqo ithetha ntoni kuwe.
Wonke umntu ubona intsingiselo yobomi ngendlela yakhe. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, uyayiqonda ukuba indoda yangempela ngumntu ongcono kunabo bahlobo bakhe. Kwaye kunzima kumfana osemnye ukubonakalisa ngenye indlela. Ukwenza umfana ukuba akholelwe kwenye into akuyona ingxaki yemiphunga. Xa sele eselula, oku akunakwenzeka. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, umfana usatshintsha iigama kunye nemilinganiselo, nangona, ngokukodwa, iinjongo ezithintekayo ebuntwaneni bakhe kunye neembono ziyaqhubeka zidlala indima ehamba phambili ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Yingakho amantombazana amaninzi anomdla kakhulu kwindlela yokufumana abafana ukuba babonise ukuba bangamadoda okwenene, kwabasetyhini, kungekhona kwimiba yindoda?
Ngoko, yintoni ebalulekileyo kunoma yimuphi umfana? Yintoni enokufanelwa yintlonelo kwinkampani yamadoda? Yintoni ebonisa ukuba ungumntu wokwenene? Kakade, kwindawo yokuqala - oku kukukwazi ukukhusela iimvakalelo, ukuxazulula iingxaki ngoncedo lwenqindi, abesetyhini kunye namanga. Ewe, kuyamangalisa, kodwa amadoda amaninzi adumisana rhoqo ngenxa yokukwazi ukulala ngokuchanekileyo kubafazi ukuba baphume kwimeko. . Inomdla kakhulu kukuba abaninzi babo abawucinge ukuba lo mgangatho unyanisekileyo, kodwa uloyiko ukuvuma omnye komnye, ngaloo ndlela uqhubeke udlala le ndawo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba umfazi, "ukunyaniseka" kubonakalisa kwelinye. Unako ukuthetha. Kwaye kwahlukileyo. Indoda yokwenene inegunya lokuthetha inyaniso, unokukhusela. Kodwa okokuqala uya kuzama ukulungisa yonke into ngegama, uhlonipha umfazi wakhe ngokwaneleyo ukuba angabonisi namanye amantombazana ngakwesokunene nakwesobunxele, kwaye, ngokubalulekayo, aluxhomekeke kwiimbono zabahlobo, izihlwele kunye noluntu lonke. Yilokho sifuna ukukubona kumadoda ethu, kodwa, ngelishwa, sichasene kakhulu. Ewe, amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba abafana babo bayinkampani embi. Kakade ke, ngamanye amaxesha oku kuneneni ingxaki, kodwa kungekho njalo. Kodwa enyanisweni, insizwa ingaba nabahlobo bokwenene. Ngokulula, kwiminyaka emininzi, baqhubana entloko ukuba kufuneka ukuba baziphathe ngale ndlela, kwaye ngoku, abakwazi ukuyeka imikhwa emibi. Ngoko ke, akukho mntu kufuneka asolwe. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba indoda enomntu uyilinga njengomntwana. Ngendlela, ungalokothi uqaphele oko okuthethwa ngabafana kwinkampani yamadoda. Okokuqala, sibaxubusha nabo, kwaye kungekhona rhoqo, ngamazwi aphathayo. Kodwa siyamthanda. Nabaselula. Ukongezelela, babesetyenziselwa ukubonisana ukuba iimvakalelo aziyi kubakho ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuze insizwa yakho iqonde into oyifunayo kuye, kufuneka uxoxe ngokunyanisekileyo. Chaza uhlobo luni lokuziphatha ongazithandiyo, kwaye ungathanda ukuba enze ntoni kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Musa nje ukumphoqa loo nto ukuba enze into ethile. Oku akuyi kukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into entle, kodwa kubangele ukuphendula okungalunganga. Akukho mntu uthanda ukuxelelwa kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwaye rhoqo, ngokuqaphela okanye engaqondi, ezama ukulwa.
Indoda yokwenene ngumntu owaziyo ukukhusela, ukukhusela nokubonelela. Yintoni eyenziwa ngumfana wakho? Ngoku ungayithobeli ingqalelo yokuba unokunyanzela okanye ahlambele kuwe kwiinkampani zabahlobo, ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayidluli ngaphaya komda. Amadoda okwenene awayikuhlazisa abafazi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba iimeko zinjani. Kodwa ke, kungekhona ngoku. Ngoko, uziva ukhululekile xa uhamba kunye nekhenkethi yakho kwiindawo ezimnyama? Ukuba uyamcela uncedo, ngaba uyavuma? Ukuba uyaphendula, uyakhumbula ukuba wenza isithembiso kwaye uyayenza loo nto? Ingaba unayo iinjongo kwaye uzama ukufezekisa into ebomini? Ngaba uzama ukuqaphela into oyithandayo, kwaye uphupha ntoni, uze wenze izinto ezintle ezintle? Ngaba uziva ukhululekile kunye naye?
Ukuba uphendule ngokuqinisekileyo kule mibuzo, kuthetha ukuba emva kwakho sele sele uyiyo ngokwenene kwaye akadingi ukubonisa nantoni na. Qonda ukuba inkcazelo yenkcubeko ihluke kakhulu kubomi boqobo. Ngenxa yoko, akuyimfuneko ukuba insizwa ikusindise kwiintambo zedrako kwaye ingoma phantsi kweefestile zeefestile ukubonisa ukuba ungumntu wokwenene onentliziyo yakho. Kodwa, ukuba kunjalo, ukuba naye uyacula iingqungquthela - kuthetha ukuba umfana wakho akanayo ixabiso.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuphendula ezininzi ze mibuzo eziqinisekisiweyo, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukusombulula le ngxaki kunye nentsha yakho. Ukuthetha ngokuthobeka kuye, xubusha loo ngongoma ongayithandiyo ekuziphatheni kwakhe uze uzame ukuchaza ukuba ungathanda ukubona isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Ukuba incinci inomthandayo kwaye ayiyiyo i-rag, ayiyi kubonisa ukuba uyindoda yangempela. Akunalo igama okanye umboniso, kodwa kulawo maxesha xa kuyimfuneko. Kungenjalo-zigqibelele ukuba uyafuna umntu ofana naye, okanye ufanele ukukhangela umntu ofanelana nesigaba "sesigxina".