Amantombazana athathaka kakhulu, izidalwa zenyama ezingenakuphikiswa, ngezinye iimeko ezinzima kunzima ukuhlala ziphikisana, izikhalazo nokungaqondani nomntu othandekayo. Ngamanye abo amaphupha ukuba abe yintombi yakhe ethandekayo, intombazana enhle kwihlabathi. Kodwa bavame ukubuza imibuzo: "kutheni wacaphuka?", "Yintoni endiyenze ukuba ndiyenze?", "Unokuyichazela njani ukuba oku akubiyo?", Njalo. Kukho amakhulu okanye amawaka emibuzo enjalo.
Kodwa kunjalo, imihla ngemihla umbuzo ofanayo ubuzwa amaxesha amaninzi: njani ukuba ube yintombazana enhle kakhulu kumfana wakho?
Mhlawumbi, yonke intombazana isoloko icinga ukuba nayiphina impazamo yakho, iimpazamo ezincinci okanye ukungaqondi kakuhle ngamazwi omfana wakho kubangele iingxabano ezingathandekiyo nezikhalazo. Kodwa cinga: ngaphezu kwama-53% wamadoda azama ukuhlola iingxaki zobudlelwane babo, kodwa afike kwisigqibo sokuba kulula kakhulu ukuba umfazi aphume kwimeko ngokumomotheka ebusweni bakhe ngokukhawuleza. Ungabonisi iqabane lakho isikhalazo malunga nokuba uyakuphulaphula okanye ayiqondi kakuhle amagama akho.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba amagama ambalwa esathetha kumntu esimthandayo akenzi nantoni na, ngelixa umntu enokucaphukisa kakhulu, okanye unokunciphisa kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakhe. Zama ukuphepha amagama angamaqhinga ekucaciseni ingxaki, kodwa kunoko, ngokuqhelekileyo, ulinde indawo efudumeleyo, ezolile, ezizinzileyo, ezingayi kuba, xa kucacisa izizathu nezikhalazo, kukukhuphaza ukuxabana. Amadoda ayithandayo xa behlawula ingqalelo, baxabise, bahloniphe baze babonise ukuba bayamthanda kangakanani. Into ephambili ayiyikuyidlula. Emva koko, ukuba intombazana ibonisa ukuba ulwalamano uyayigqiba yonke into, kuya kuba nzima ukuza kunye naye kwinto enye, gcina le engqondweni xa uphendula umbuzo othi: "njani ukuba ube yintombazana enhle kumfana wakho."
Amadoda amaninzi kakhulu, kodwa abaninzi abantu, bakholelwa ukuba baya kunika intombazana eninzi, imfesane kunye nothando, bangaphi na abaya kufumana inzuzo (oku kufana negama elidumileyo "wena kum mna" mna "). Ngokukodwa, oku kwenzeka kwiimeko ezininzi kuba umfana wakho wayenamava ombi ekujonganeni namantombazana. Xa ezama kunye nokwenza konke akwaziyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza njengoko akwaziyo, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo akafumani nto, okanye uyayifumana, kodwa, njengoko ebona ngokungenasiphelo nangomphefumlo opheleleyo wokungakhathaleli iimvakalelo zakhe. Emva kweemeko ezinjalo, abantu banokutshintsha kakhulu. Bonke abantombazana bayazixela ngale ndlela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: abanye abafuni ukucinga ngokubanzi kwaye baneengxaki ezininzi kunye nokuphazamiseka, kwaye abanye bafuna ukunceda esinye isiqingatha bafumane kwakhona, nokuba ngaba kuthatha ixesha elingenammiselo. Xa kukho intombazana enothando kufuphi, unokutshintsha yonke into. Oku akunakukhunjulwa, kuba ukuba umntu omncinane uyamthanda-akakwazi ukuyeka intanda yakhe okanye ucinge ukuba uya kuba nomnye umntu.
Umbuzo ofanayo uvame ukuphakanyiswa: Kutheni engazange ambizele, kwaye asinakubonana? Kodwa akusoloko kusemntwini wakho kuphela. Cinga ngako, okanye mhlawumbi wenza into engalunganga? Nangona intsha eqhelekileyo neyothando inokukwazi ukufumana amaxesha amaninzi xa kukho intlanganiso uqala ukusombulula nayiphi na ingxaki okanye ufumene ubukhulu behlabathi lonke kwiinkalo zakho.
Ngaloo ndlela, ukwenzela ukuba ugweme inkunkuma engadingekile, amadoda afuna nje izihlandlo, nokuba zizithulu, nje ukuba ungahlangane nawe ngexesha elinye. Ewe, kukho ezinye izizathu. Indoda inokucaphukisa iingxaki kunye nabahlobo okanye imeko engelusizi emsebenzini. Indlela engcono ngaphandle kokucaphukisa umhlobo wakho kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni enye eyenzekayo kuye kwaye kukukhathaza ntoni ukuphumla kunye (akudingekile ukuba uququze uhambo olukhulu olwandle, ngokuhlwa okanye ukuhamba ngeeyure ezimbini epakini kwanele). Kwezinye iimeko, loo mfana kufuneka axhaswe. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza akuxelele ukuba ingxaki yakhe yintoni kwaye yintoni eyikhathazayo - uyathemba ngokupheleleyo kwaye ulindele inkxaso kuphela kuwe. Musa ukucinga ngento yokuba indoda kufuneka ibe nzima kwaye ikwazi ukucombulula iingxaki zayo. Lo ngumntu kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe aziyizimbi. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuba isiqingatha sakho sesibini asinayo imvakalelo kwintlanganiso yakho okanye ujika nje nawaphi na amagama-akuyona imeko apho ufuna ukuyicombulula iingxaki zakho ubuhlobo. Ungazami ukufumanisa nayiphi na into - iya kuba yimbi kakhulu kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, ayikwazi ukuba yintoni eyokuphela.
Ngaba ufuna ukuba yintombazana engcono kakhulu kumfana wakho? Funda ukuyiqonda. Emva koko, nangona emva kweenyanga ezintathu zokunxibelelana, unokubeka isishwankathelo esicacileyo nesicacile sesimo sakhe, izinto azifunayo kunye nemigca, izinto ezithandayo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, isangqa soqhagamshelwano nesimo sengqondo kuwe. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuba ngumntu ongenanto yonke into: umama, utata, umhlobo osondeleyo noqondayo, unxibelelwano ovuyayo kunye nentombazana kuphela. Uyakwazi ukuxhasa ngexesha elilukhuni, ukuhleka ubuqhetseba bakho kunye nokuxabana, kwaye unciphise zonke izikhalazo ngokumomotheka kunye nomnqweno wokuba uhlale khona.