Iyintoni isiqingatha sam sesibini? Ngaba kukho into efanelekileyo okanye ingumzekelo? Ngaba umele ngokucacileyo kunye ofuna ukuhlala ubomi? Kwaye abantu bacinga ntoni ngabasetyhini kunye na? Masizame ukuphendula le mibuzo.
"Imfihlakalo engaxazululwa", okanye iphupha lamadoda malunga nabasetyhini.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kubamadoda kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kube nomsebenzi (i-shishini kunye nezinto ezifanayo), kwaye umfazi unyanzelekile ukuba abancede ekufudumeni kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, ekwakheni ukuzithoba nokuzala abantwana ... Yintoni le ntokazi ifanele ibe yinto yobomi? Ngaba kukho umfazi ococekileyo ekumelelweni komntu? Okanye ingaba inkolelo? Masizame ukufumanisa.
Umfundi oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala u-Andrei waphendula umbuzo malunga nomfazi ofanelekileyo ukuba ukhona, kodwa wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe yinto efanelekileyo, kuxhomekeka kwimfundo, kwimeko, njl njl. Njengaye, into ebaluleke kakhulu, "ihlabathi elingaphakathi, kwaye imbonakalo kufanele ibe yinto emnandi, ukuze kungabikho nto. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngokuqinisekileyo, utshintsho lwangaphandle, kunye nehlabathi langaphakathi kunye nomntu lihlala lihlala njalo, kwaye uvakalelwa.
U-Vasily, oneminyaka engama-21, amaphupha "loo ntombazana, kwaye emva koko umfazi wayeyindoda ebanzi eninzi eneenwele ezinde, enomusa, enobungqina obuhle, enyanisekileyo, ukuze uyamthemba, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - kunye nehlabathi elithe tye." Njengoko uVasily athetha, uhlala eqhelana namantombazana athandayo, ukunyamekela ukubonakala.
U-Andrey oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala, onamava kunye nabasetyhini, uyaqiniseka ukuba "okokuqala, kufuneka kube nokuqonda phakathi komyeni nomfazi." (Ewe, ukuqonda ngokubambisana - kubalulekile kwizibini eziye zahlala ndawonye iminyaka eli-1 ukuya kweyesi-7). Umfazi ofanelekileyo, "umfana ukholelwa ukuba," kufanele apheke ngokumnandi, acinge ukuba umnqweno womntu, ukuqhuba imoto, kunye nokubonakala-kulungile. Kwaye ngokubanzi, ukuba indoda ihlale ingummangaliso, i-zest. "
- Nesinye isiqingatha sam, - wajoyina omnye uAndreya, - kufuneka abe nomzimba ka-Aphrodite, ukumomotheka - Mona Lisa, amehlo - uCleopatra, kunye nomlingiswa - uMargaret Thatcher. (Ngokuqinisekileyo, umlingiswa "we-Iron Lady" kunokuba uloyikise amadoda akhe kunokutsala).
Amadoda athetha ngokucacileyo iingcamango zabo malunga nomfazi ofanelekileyo. U-Valery, 53, wathi ngokufutshane kwaye ngokucacileyo: "Andikholelwa kubafazi abafanelekileyo. Ibhinqa kufuneka ibe nayo yonke into ekumodareyithweni, kodwa into ebalulekileyo kukuba uthando kunye nolwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kufuneka lube namandla, ukuze loo mfazi athembeke. "
Ewe, ukuba indoda yonke ibhinqa elihle liyingxenye yesibini. Kwaye uphando olutshanje lwamadoda amaninzi lwalukwazi ukwenza umfanekiso oqhelekileyo wesifazane ofanelekileyo. Ngoko, uyinto ekhangayo, kunye nehlabathi elithe tye, kufuneka upheke ngokumnandi, ucinge ukuba umnqweno womntu, uyinyaniso, uyakwazi ukuqhuba imoto, ngelixa uhlala ngesondo esiqinileyo into engafihliweyo.
Iingcamango zabasetyhini nge "intsimi eqinile", okanye "abafazi bayakhetha".
Banjani abafazi abasweleyo? Phakathi neMinyaka Ephakathi, kwakukholelwa ukuba indoda kufuneka ibe yinto enobungqina - i-blond eyamehlo eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka okanye i-brown eyamehlo enombala obomvu kunye neenwele ezinde, ezinesibindi, ezinamandla, ezikhuthazelayo kunye nelokuba ibhinqa liziva lisondele kuye "emva kweendonga zamatye". Amaxesha ayeshintsha, kodwa i-heroine ye-handsome yahlala kwiinkulungwane, kodwa kwakukho amaqhawe kunye nombonakalo ongeyithandabuzo ... Ngoko ngokuthe ngcembe kwiingqondo zabasetyhini kwindoda enokwenene yaqulunqwa - yomelele, ikhaliphe kwaye ikhangele. Kamva, eli lihle lihanjiswe kwizikrini zethelevishini ... Kukho ukubonakaliswa kwabasetyhini kwaye ngoku, kuphela kwinkulungwane yethu incediswa ngamanye amanqaku: ukongeza kwindoda efundisiwe, enamandla, enenjongo, eyaneleyo, loo ntokazi ifuna ukubona kuye iqabane elihlakaniphileyo, elinobubele, umva kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Kwaye utshintsho oluhle ngoneminyaka.
UJulia oneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu ubudala, adibana naye epakini, uphupha ukuhlangabezana nabantwana abaya kubonakala ngathi bafana neentlobo zentsholongwane ekhoyo ngokusuka kumaphephancwadi. Nangona iimpawu okanye iimpawu zabo azibonakalisi zintombazana. Kuyinyaniso ukuba kule minyaka baqwalasela ukubonakala.
U-Elvira, oneminyaka engama-23 ubudala: "Andiyakholelwa kwiminqweno, kuba ndikholelwa ukuba wonke umntu unemiphumo, kodwa siwa thandana nabantu, (kubonakali kuthi) ukuba sivale amehlo ethu kubo. Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka abe nesisa, uqikelele kwaye unomdla. Intombazana nganye inempilo yakhe yindoda yangempela, kodwa yonke into iyahluke kangangokuba iinjongo ziyahluka. "
U-Alena, oneminyaka engama-40 ubudala: "Ebudeni bethu, umntu kufuneka abe ngumhlobo onokuthetha naye, ngubani onokuba nomnqweno wokuncedisa, ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukuva inkxaso yakhe, ukuze abeke ihlombe lakhe ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Kodwa musa ukulibala ngokuthandana, kuba imfuneko yale nto nangeminyaka engama-40 ayizange iphele, ndifuna ukunika iintyatyambo. Kule minyaka, ixabiso litshintsha. Ngokomzekelo, ukubonakala kungabonakali indima ebalulekileyo, kwaye ingqwalaselo engakumbi ibhekiswe kulwalamano. "
Ngako oko, i-Ideal Uyiyo: indoda ebonakalayo yindoda ebomvu evela kwiphepha le-magazine elicwebezelayo, oko kukuthi, ekhangayo, enobubele, enobuqili, eneengcinga ezihlekisayo, ezithandanayo, ezinokwethenjelwa, ezinokunceda intsapho kwaye ixabise umfazi wayo.
Iingcamango zengqondo.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi ngokuphuhliswa kwezenzululwazi zenzululwazi kunye nezobuchwepheshe, inkcubeko yengqondo iye yaphazamiseka, kwaye umfanekiso wabantu abalungileyo ushintshile ukuphucula. Ngaphambili, umfanekiso wathonyelwa yimpawu zokuziphatha zomntu, kwaye sele sele ikhona imali namhlanje. Phantse kwiminyaka eyi-10 edlulileyo yonke into yayingama-50 ukuya kuma-50. Ingcamango yabantu abalungileyo iyahlukileyo kuwo wonke umntu. Ewe, ulwalamano phakathi kwabatshatileyo luyahluka kunye nexesha, kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Ewe, ukuba umyeni nomfazi bangaboni kakuhle iimpazamo zomnye. Ukuba akukho nto idibanisa phakathi kwabo, ukuxabana kuvela apho kunokukhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato. "
Isazi seengqondo saseMelika uWilliam sifunda iminyaka emininzi yezibini ezitshatileyo waza wafika kwesi sigqibo ngokumalunga nokulindela komlingani ngamnye. Ukulindela amadoda kumabhinqa: ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo, umfazi okhangayo, ukugcina indlu, ukuxhasa umyeni wakhe. Ukulindela kwabasetyhini ngokumalunga namadoda: ukunyamekela, ukuthandana, ukunyamekela, ukunxibelelana, ukunyaniseka, ukuvuleka, inkxaso-mali, ukunyaniseka kweentsapho, ukuthatha inxaxheba ekukhulisweni kwabantwana. Ngokutsho kuka-Harley, ngokuqhelekileyo ukungaphumeleli kwamadoda nabasetyhini ekwakheni intsapho ngenxa yokungazi iimfuno zomnye nomnye.
Ngoko, kuvela, ukuba i-Ideal isekelwe, okokuqala, ukwanelisa iimfuno zakho? Okanye ngaba ulungelelaniso lweemvelo zangaphakathi nezangaphandle? Kwaye ukuba ukuvisisana akunjalo kwindalo, kuthekani ngomntu! Imibuzo ihlala isingqinisiso.