Indlela yokugubungela itafile ngosuku lokuqala lokuzalwa komntwana?

Usuku lokuzalwa liholide yentsana. Xa umntwana evela kwintsapho, usuku lokuqala lokuzalwa kwakhe luya kugujwa ukuze iholide ikhunjulwe ngumntu wonke. Ngaphezu koko, kule holide, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuza abantwana behlobo nabahlobo, ngoko ke, ukuba bahlele ngokuhlwa kwaye babeke itafile. Abazali abaninzi bacinga ngendlela yokuseta itafile ngosuku lokuqala lokuzalwa komntwana.

Enyanisweni, malunga nendlela yokuseta itafile yokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, kwaye ngokwenene indlela yokulungisa iholidi, abantu abaninzi babhala bathi. Ngoko yonke into eyenziwe ngokufanelekileyo ukukholisa umntwana wakho kunye nabanye abantwana babantu, akunzima nhlobo. Into ephambili kukuba iholide yokuqala ikhunjulwa. Ngaloo mini kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba lo mbhiyozo. Ukongezelela, ungakhohlwa ukuba abantwana abancinci baya kwinkqubo yokuzalwa kwintsana yakho, oko kuthetha ukuba awuyi kukulinda uxolo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokuzibekela kuphela abantu abadala kwaye uqaphele. Kodwa ke, lo mhla uzahlukana njani nabanye? Emva koko, unyaka wokuqala, umcimbi wokuzalwa wokuqala kufuneka ukhunjulwe ngumntu wonke. Ewe, umntwana wakho akanalo ithuba lokulikhumbula, kodwa ke, izihlobo kunye nabahlobo baya kuyikhumbula ixesha elide bamxelele amabali kuye.

Ngoko, kulungele njani ukubhiyozela le holide yokuqala? Indlela yokubeka itafile, yintoni ocinga ngayo abantwana? Okokuqala, lungele ukuba abantwana beze kuwe kwaye yonke into iyayeka ukujonga njengento engenakonakala njengoko ufuna. Ewe, ekuqaleni baya kuhlala phantsi kwetafula, kuba bakhumbula imimiselo yabazali babo kwaye bazama ukuziphatha. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa beqala ukuziva bekhaya, bajonge, badle baze badle, ngoko kuya kuba nzima kakhulu kubantu abadala ukuba bazise kwiingqondo zabo kwaye baqinisekise ukuba emva kwemidlalo yabo endlini kukho yonke ifenitshala nezinto ezisele.

Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, kufuneka nje ucinge ngazo zonke iinkcukacha ukususela ekuqaleni kwaye ulungiselele inkqubo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wena, bazali, kufuneka nenze oku. Ukongezelela, nguwe oza kuhamba phambili. Ukuba uya kulungelelanisa iholide kwaye ulonge bonke abantwana, unokulawula unonophelo, kwaye unamahloni, ujoyina ukhuphiswano uze ukhululwe.

Ngoku ke masithethe ngeendlela zokudibana neendwendwe ezincinane. Okokuqala, musa ukulibala ukuba usuku lokuzalwa komntwana lwakho liholide. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuyikhetha ukuba kube yimini. Zama ukuba nexesha lokwenza konke ngaphambi kokufika kweendwendwe. Aba bantu banokulinda ngokulumkileyo, basele ubhiya baze bathethe ekhitshini, kwaye abantwana badinga ukubhiyozelwa, ngoko musa ukubalinda. Ukudibanisa abantwana kunye nomntwana ezandleni zabo. Bafanele baqonde ukuba beza kwiholide ngqo kumntwana wakho kwaye akunandaba ukuba usemncinci kakhulu. Ukuba wenza yonke into, ngoko, abantwana bafumana ingcinga yokuba umntwana wakho akabandakanyeki kwiholide, kwaye baya kuyeka ukunikela ingqalelo kuye. Ukuba baya kubona kwaye bakhumbule ukuba le yinkwenkwe yokuzalwa, ke abantwana baya kudlala kunye, bamncedise umntwana kwaye bamnake.

Ngokubhekiselele kwitheyibhi yokuzonwabisa, kufuneka ikhutshwe ukuze abantwana babe neendawo zokudlala umdlalo. Ukuba unendawo yokuhlala enkulu, kukulungele ukubeka itafile kwelinye igumbi, kwaye okwesibini ukuba uthathele imidlalo. Ngaloo ndlela, abantu abadala baya kukwazi ukuthetha ubuncinci ngokukhawuleza, kwaye abantwana baya kudlala badlale kunye. Kuphela, kuyinqweneleka ukuba amagumbi asondele. Ngoko, akudingeki ugijime malunga nendlu yonke ixesha ukujonga. Ngaba konke kulungile nabantwana. Kodwa uhlala unokwenza oku, kuba, njengokuba uyazi, aba bantwana abanakuze bahlale bengalindelanga ixesha elide.

Ukuba ummandla awuvumeli, zama ukubeka itafile kwindawo ethile kufuphi nodonga ukushiya isikhala esikhulu kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana badinga indawo. Ukuba unyanzela igumbi ngezihlalo kunye nezinye iifenitshala, ukudlala, abantwana bangalimala. Basayazi indlela yokuzilawula, ngoko ke, ngexesha lo mdlalo banokungena kwiihlalo, bazibeke iimvimbo baze bafumaneke. Kwaye ngokwemvelo andifuni nhlobo. Ngoko ke, zama ukulungiselela indawo ngokuchanekileyo.

Ngoku ke masihambe ngqo kumbandela wetafile kunye nokuphatha. Khumbula ukuba iindwendwe zakho zingabantwana, ngoko zonke izitya akufanele zenzeke nje ezihlwaya, kodwa zinomdla kwaye zintle. Ukuba ulandela imithetho embalwa nje elula, bonke abantwana bayavuya kwaye banoliseko. Ngoko, ukubeka itafile kunye nezihlalo, qiniseka ukuba abantwana akudingeki bakhwele. Ukuba itheyibhile ayikude ukusuka kwibhodi ye-sideboard, khawuleza ufumane zonke izitya ezifunekayo, ngoko akufanele uphazanyise iindwendwe ngexesha lokubhiyozela. Xa abantwana bevuka etafileni badlala, basuse iiplate kunye neifoloko. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana bayasebenza kakhulu, ngoko ke, banokuyiphula into ethile okanye bayiphonsa. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kubakhusela abantwana kunye neenkonzo. Yaye xa befuna ukutya, gcina izinto zokusebenza ezicoca.

Imenyu yeeholide ihlelwe kakuhle kwiindawo eziliqela. Umzekelo, ekuqaleni, unako ukukhonza ama-saladi kunye nokutya okubandayo. Emva koko, thabatha ikhefu apho ungabamba imincintiswano eyahlukeneyo emnandi kubantwana. Emva koko, unako ukukhonza ushushu. Emva kokutshisa, vumela abantwana badlale ngokwaneleyo baze baqhube ukwenza ukutya kuhlale phantsi, kwaye indawo yokudada ibonakala kwisisu. Ewe, emva kokutya, unokubamba iqela lembambano, ulungiselele ikhonkethi, ngokubanzi, ujonge abantwana kwaye ubashiye ngeenkumbulo ezintle zeeholide.

Ngendlela, ngaphambi kokuba ulungise izitya, kuya kuba kuhle ukukwazi ukuba abantwana banokwenyuka kwemveliso ethile. Ukuba kukho ingxaki enjalo, kungcono ukuba ungabandakanyi ezi zitya ukusuka kwimenyu ngokupheleleyo. Kwabantwana kwakungekho ukuhlambalaza ukuba abanye abantu bangadla into ethile, abanye abazange bakwazi.

Kwaye ekugqibeleni, kwiholide yezingane akudingekile ukuba ukhathazeke kakhulu ngenxa yokuziphatha kunye nokusabalalisa izixhobo ngokwemiqathango yonke. Abantwana baya kuba neepatile ezaneleyo, iipuni kunye neifoloko. Yonke into ofuna ukuyinqumla iyinqumle wena kuqala. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kubakhusela abantwana uze ungabesabisi ngokukhethwa kwezixhobo ezinkulu abakwazi ukuzenza.