Olu luhlu alukwazi ukubalwa kuze kube sekupheleni. Kuzo zonke iintsapho kukho "iimpikiswano zabo" kunye nokuxabana. Kodwa sizathu sini na ixesha elivuyisayo lobomi bakho elihlanganiswe "ngelifu lokungaboni"? Indlela yokugcina uxolo phakathi kwentsapho. Harmony "Mna + Myeni = Ingane = Uthando.
Okokuqala, sonke sinabantu, kwaye nayiphi na inguqu (nokuba yindoda eninzi ekulindeleke kwaye ivuya) ithintela ingqondo yethu. Sinexesha lokuzilungelelanisa. Ixesha elinika ithuba lokuba sisetyenziswe kwiimeko ezintsha zokuhlala (kulo mzekelo, umntwana ozelweyo) ukuba azivumelanise nazo. Umyeni wakho akanakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, ngelinye ilanga, usetyenziswe ukuba awusekho kabini, ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwaye ukamema iindwendwe nanini na emini, awukwazi ukubukela ithelevishini phakathi kobusuku, kwaye ulala nawe ngokukhawuleza phakathi kobusuku, uvumelane. Ungaze ulibale malunga nalo. Le "xesha lokuziphatha" lwenzeka kuzo zonke iindlela ezahlukeneyo ixesha elide kwaye ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunzima. Kule meko, umfazi uhlala elula ukulungelelanisa. Wayenxibe phantsi kwentliziyo yakhe ngeenyanga ezilisithoba. Wayesetyenziselwe ukuhlangabezana nokuphazamiseka okuthe ngqo kunye nokunciphisa ngendlela ethile. Yaye le ndoda? Kuye, yonke imisebenzi kunye nokuphazamiseka kuza kuphela emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Unesangqa soxanduva, apho kufuneka asebenzise khona. Kwaye ngeli xesha uMama kufuneka abekezele ngakumbi umyeni wakhe. Kucacile ukuba ngoku unzima kakhulu-ukondla ubusuku nokugula kwesibhambathiso, kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ukungabikho kokulala. Kodwa wonke umntu uyazi ukuba inkqubo yeentlanzi zamadoda ibuthathaka ngakumbi kunabesifazane kwaye yenza isaphulelo kuyo.
Funda ukusabalalisa amatyala kunye noxanduva ukuze ungakhathazeki, kodwa umyeni akahluphekanga (kodwa ufanele asebenze ukuze ahlangabezane neemfuno zakho). Umzekelo, ukuba i-crumb iqalile ukukhala, zilawule. Kukho, kunjalo, oobawo abanokukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zeentlungu zezingane, kodwa ngokuyinxalenye, amadoda ayinyamezeli iinyembezi zezingane (kunokuba ziqonda ukungazinzi kwabo ekupheliseni izizathu zokukhala). Ukuthatha kulo msebenzi omnandi, uya kwenza inkonzo enkulu kakhulu kubo bobabini kunye nosana. Wena usana akuyi kuba nako ukukholisa iiyure ezintathu "ukuba ungalili." Ungamnika ibele kwaye bonke baya kulala ngokuthula.
Ngaba wayedla izambatho zomyeni wakho, upheke ukutya okutsha rhoqo imihla, uhlambuluke rhoqo? Ngoku ngoku nje kunzima ukuchitha ixesha. Indoda iyacaphuka. Akasetyenziselwa ukupheka kunye nokungazi ukuba ungayifaka njani indlela oyenzayo. Musa ukukhathazeka. Akukho mfuneko yokufungela kwaye ube neentloni malunga nezihlwele. Kukho rhoqo indlela yokuphuma. Ngokomzekelo, pheka ukutya kungekudala njengoko ulungiselele kwangaphambili, kodwa ngobungakanani obuninzi. Ukwanela iintsuku ezimbalwa. Ngaba kuza kufudumala (kwaye oku, umyeni wakho uya kwenza ngaphandle kweengxaki, ngokusebenzisa izixhobo zasekhaya zanamhlanje). Ukucoca? Kalula! Musa ukuphosa yonke into ecaleni kwakho - kwaye akudingeki uhlambulule. Njengobulumko bendoda uthi: "Akunjalo apho bahlambulula khona, kodwa apho bengafihli khona." Kwaye unokuhlamba iiplanga ngeveki. Ngaba awunaso ixesha lokufuya? Umyeni kule sifundo kuya kuba nzima ukufundisa. Ufuna ubuchule kunye nomonde, nokuba udibanise imikhono yemikhono. Kodwa kubonakala ngathi sikhohliwe ngoogogo oomkhulu kwaye bachitha ubusuku nathi? Kutheni benganikeli ukukunceda ngexesha oya kulusa? Ndicinga ukuba baya kuvuyela ukukukhangela kunye nayo yonke into oyifunayo (kwaye baya kuvuyiswa yintoni uhlobo lweemikhono ezincinci ezincinane kwiintsimbi).
Kodwa! Asimele sikhohlwe ukuba "unomdla" "oogogo bafuna kwakhona ukuphumla kuwe (kwaye uvela kubo). Baza kuthetha njani ukuba ukhathele ngeendwendwe kwaye ufuna ukuhlala kunye nosapho lwakho, kangangokuthi ungacasuli? Mema ukuba uhambe, hambani kunye, ndivumele ukuba ndikhokele i-carriage, ndixelele indlela enombulelo ngayo ngoncedo lwakhe, kwaye xa kufike ixesha lokuya ekhaya, nikela ukuba uye esitobhini sebhasi uze ume. Yaye ukhumbuze ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kumlinda xa utyelela ngomnye umhla. Ngoko wonke umntu uya kuneliswa omnye nomnye (kunye nogogo, kunye nawe nomyeni wakho).
Andikwazi ukunceda kodwa ndithintela kwisifundo esifana nesondo. Oku kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yonxulumano lwentsapho. Umyeni wakho uya kufumana kunzima ukwenza ngaphandle kwesondo (kwaye nawe, ndicinga). Kodwa kuthekani xa umntwana elele ngasemva? Unciphisa iingalo zakho, buyela emuva kwaye ... zama ukulala. Yeka! Kwaye ufuna ntoni imfesane? Unethuba elihle kwisicelo sakho. Ngaba ukhohliwe ukuba isondo asibophelelwanga embhedeni? Fantasize - ngoko uza kufumana ukuvumelana phakathi kwakho nakwintsapho.
Kwaye khumbula ukuba akukho nto ibiza ngaphezu kwentsapho yakho yolonwabo. Ungavumeli ukuba i-idyll idibanwe ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwekhaya kunye nokuxabana. Khangela ukutshatyalaliswa. Naluphi na, kodwa thina thina-abafazi "kufuneka siphumelele nayiphi na indawo.