Ukuze wonke umfazi aqale ukuqonda inzululwazi phantsi kwesihloko esithi: "Indlela yokunqoba nayiphi na indoda," siya kunika imigaqo embalwa ephambili.
1. Ngaba lo "nguNkosana"?
Ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise upelo lwakho, khetha isigqibo sokuba ngaba le ndoda yamaphupha akho ? Emva kwakho konke, awudingi nantoni na? Qinisekisa ukuba ufumanisa malunga nexesha lakhe elidlulileyo, ugcine izenzo zakhe, ufunde imikhwa. Mhlawumbi kwinkqubo yokuqokelela ulwazi, "ingqiqo" engalindelekanga iya kwenzeka. Kungenzeka ukuba awuzange uphuphe ngendoda enjalo. Emva koko yima, uthathe umoya, uphinde uphinde uphendule inkosana kwelinye icala. Emva koko, nto ebaluleke kakhulu kukuthula kwengqondo.
2. Fundisisa iimfuno zakhe.
Qinisekisa ukuba ufumene umdaka wakho okhethiweyo. Funda kabanzi malunga nesifundo somdla wakhe. Ukuqokelela ulwazi oluvela kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo: iincwadi, amaphephancwadi, i-Intanethi. Yifunde ngokukhawuleza kwaye ulwe. Zive ukhululekile ukuqala incoko ngesihloko esithandekayo. Uya kugxotha indoda ngomdla ngokubanzi kunye nobuchule bakho kulo mbandela. Kuya kubangela umdla kwaye kuya kubangela inhlonipho kuwe. Iminqweno eqhelekileyo ibumbene njengento enye.
3. Hlonipha kubahlobo bakhe.
Ngokuphathelele ubuhlobo bomntu iindinyana ezininzi kunye neengoma zenziwe. Yonke into ibonisa ukuba umntu ohlobo lwakhe ngumhlobo wakhe wesibini. Uqhelana nabahlobo bakhe kwaye beqonda ukuba "abayikukhwela ephosa," bathathe njengenyaniso. Musa ukuphazamisa indoda ekuphumeni kunye nenkampani kwindawo yokuhlambela okanye kwibholo yebhiya - hlonela uthando lwakhe. Bonisa ubumnandi ngokusindiswa kwabahlobo kunye nosizi lokulwa kwabo kunye nokhethiweyo, sibe novelwano oluvakalayo. Uya kunqoba nayiphi na indoda ngale ndlela kwaye uphakamise ukulinganiswa kwakho kwamehlo akhe kummandla ophezulu. Ngaloo ndlela, ufumana ilungelo lokunyaniseka kwiintombi zakhe kunye namaqela amabhinqa.
4. Ubukhwele obuhle.
Abasetyhini, kunye nabo, njengabo kwi-swamp, bafudumele kwaye bahlaziyekile, abameleli besini esomeleleyo abanomdla. Indoda ithandwa ngumxhelo wobudlelwane. Intshukumo emaphethelweni kunye nokungakwazi ukuqikelela oko kukulindela kumzuzwana olandelayo ngu-adrenaline kuye, ngaphandle kokungenako. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko ukuba 'ahlobise' ubomi bakhe ngokuhlala ehlaziyileyo kunye nentukuthelo. Bobabini niza kuthuba ngoku. Kwaye uThixo akavumelekanga, iinqanawa ziya kukhangela ichweba elithulileyo, nokuba ludityana.
Ukubonakalisa ngomona wokuzithemba, gxi ninisa isikhalazo esikhulu somntu, kodwa ... ngokumodareyitha. Ngoko ukuba akayeke ukuzibonela ngokwenene, akholelwa ngamazwi akho.
5. Funda ukuphulaphula.
Uhlobo lusinike iindlebe ezimbini kunye nomlomo omnye. Bafazi abathandekayo, khumbula oku. Naphezu kweentlekele zendalo, zama ukungawutyi ngokugqithiseleyo umntu okhethiweyo ngeengxoxo kunye nengxolo eqhubekayo. Amadoda ngokukhawuleza akhathala ngeyona nto enhle, kodwa uthabatha inkohliso yentliziyo yabo. Mamela umhlobo wakho ngokucophelela nangokuzithoba. Ungamphazamisi ngexesha lentetho. Buza imibuzo ehamba phambili, umkhuthaze ukuba akhulume ngaye, ukuphumelela kwakhe, ukunqoba kunye nempumelelo. Oku kuya kukwanelisa "ubunzima bokubaluleka" kwanoma yimuphi umntu. Kungenxa yokuba unomdla kubuntu bakhe, uya kukuphatha ngezandla. Apha, inyaniso enye "kodwa". Oku kuya kwenzeka xa engekho isilumko esingeyenaye kwaye akuyiyo intlonelo e-turkey, ongenakukwazi ukuyixabisa.