Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama abaselula kunye nabazayo baya kucinga ngezindlu kweli lizwe ngokubhekiselele kwimiba yezinto eziphathekayo kunye neengxaki. Iimeko apho kufuneka zikhulise abantwana kulo mzi kukungabikho kwendawo yokudlala okanye ukufana kwayo okubi (kwaye awuyi kufumana ama-nightmares!)
Ubunzima bokuhlala esixekweni, iimeko (okanye kunokuba, ukungabikho kwazo) ukuhamba kwaye akukho ndlela yokushiya abantwana abangalindelanga egcekeni lekhaya labo ukwenza ukuba ucinge ngokuhlala kweli lizwe.
Kwaye akufuneki ukuba ibe yindlu enobuqhophololo - nje indlu epholileyo, eya kufudumala ebusika kwaye apho imiba yokuhlamba, ukuhlamba okanye yokuhlamba, indlu yangasese kunye nokuthuthwa kwamanzi kulungisiwe. Kwi-dacha okanye kwiindawo zokuhlala ezingekho kude nomzi, i-"duty" yesitoreji kunye ne-Intanethi sele sele yinto evamile yobomi. Ngokubanzi, kubonakala ukuba kukho ininzi yezidibaniso. Kodwa kukho ukuphazamiseka ...
Indawo yokuhlala kweli lizwe: ukuba okanye kungekhona?
Ukunceda umntwana kwiimeko eziphuthumayo, ezenzeka ngokungafanekanga, ngaphandle kwesi sixeko kunzima kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba ungacacisi kusengaphambili ukubandakanywa kommandla wendawo yokuhlala yasezidolophini, unakho "ukugungqa" nomntwana omncinci kwisibhedlele sesithili kude neendawo zokuhlala, apho, njengoko ixesha elidala lithetha, akukho nto ngaphandle koboya kunye nohlaza ...
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amaphupho angabonakaliyo azenza bazive. Phila ngaphandle kwesixeko, uphefumle umoya ngaphandle kokungcola kunye nokungcola kwezezimboni, ujabulele ukucula iintaka kusasa kwaye ukhangelelwe ngumoya oduma phezu kwehlathi ... Awunakufumana umfanekiso ongcono. Kwaye ngoku, ukucinga ngezinto eziphilayo kunye nodumo, iintsapho ezincinci zivame ukukhetha ukhetho lwamadolophu.
Ngamanye amaxesha bacinga kakhulu malunga nendlela iindlela zokubonelela kwamanzi ezinokuthi zilungiswe ngayo, ingaba umbane uya kusebenza kakuhle, njani ukuba ungene endlwini yakho ukuba imoto iphantsi, kunye nokuba kuya kwenzeka ukuba ufikelele ekwindla xa zonke iindlela ziphendukile ... Nangona kunjalo, nokuba yindlebe enkulu, ngamanye amaxesha imangalisa.
I-pros and cons of the living outside the city ayikho into ecacileyo njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Iingeniso zingabonwa iminyaka njengendalo (engabuyiselwa yomoya omtsha kunye namanzi acocekileyo) impilo. Kodwa zonke iimeko ezingabonakaliyo zobunini bezindlu zasemaphandleni ngamanye amaxesha zilindele ngokukhawuleza abazali abanomdla.
Ukucela ugqirha kwidolophana yinkxalabo. Yaye ukuba umbuzo wobomi uphendululwa ngeso siqingatha seyure, efuna ukufikelela kwisixeko? Uza kuthetha ukuba oku kwenzekayo kungekudala kwixesha lobomi, kwaye "kunokuthwala". Kodwa ukuba, masithi, umbuzo awukuthi wena, kodwa malunga neyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba wonke umntu osapho usenabo - abantwana?
Enye imbambano enokuphikisana nayo inzuzo yokuhlala ngaphandle komzi kwisizukulwana esikhulayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngenhlonipho efanelekileyo, sinokubanika konke okufanayo kunye neontanga zabo "zasezidolophini" -Internet, iTV, iifowuni, uonxibelelwano, imfundo ezikolweni nakwiiyunivesithi ... Kodwa kuya kuwe ukuba uthathe umntwana esikolweni, itholakala kwisitalato esilandelayo, enye-ukuchitha ixesha lesigama seyure ukubiza emva kwayo kwintsimi yedolophu, kwaye emva koko umthabathe umntwana ngaphandle kwedolophu. Ukongezelela, kukho abamelwane kunye noontanga kweso sixeko abangayi kunika umthetho okanye baphinde baphazamise (ngelixa uMama ephazamisekile), uya kumxwayisa ngeemoto zokuhamba. Mhlawumbi ngamanye amaxesha uncedo olungabonakaliyo olusindisa abantwana. Kwaye ukunxibelelana noontanga, ngaphezu kwexesha apho umntwana echitha esikolweni, kuyimfuneko yengqondo yabantwana.
Yonke into yokuba "iindidi" kunye nabaqeqeshi banakho ukunika uncedo olunokwenzeka ekuphuhlisweni komntwana. Kwimiqela yesiNgesi okanye i-macram, abantwana banandipha ukufunda ngexesha labo elikhululekileyo kwiimfundo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngaba abazali bebanqabile kangakanani, bethetha ukuba banako ukufundisa umntwana, kusenokuba kulungele ukunyamekela ootitshala abangekho lula ukuyifumana kwixesha lethu. Izifundo zepiyano okanye ukuthunga nokuthunga zonke zilula kakhulu ukuzifumana kwisixeko, kodwa kunzima - ngaphandle kwesixeko. Inzuzo kunye neengxaki zokuhlala ngaphandle kwesi sixeko kunye nesi sixeko asinakulinganiswa - abazali bayakholelwa, kwaye bakhetha ukhetho oluyithandayo, kwangaphambili ukubuyisana nabo bonke abakrelekanga.
Ngoko, ukunciphisa abantwana bakhula kwindawo enobungane kunye nendawo ephephile kubo, kwaye bahlale kwisixeko, nangona igumbi elitye? Akunjalo. Kodwa ukuze ucinge ngekamva, malunga nexesha apho intsapho inesizukulwana esilandelayo, kuyafaneleka ukufumana zonke iinketho eziza kulungelelanisa wonke amalungu omndeni.
Ithuba lokufumana lula kwizindlu zasemaphandleni kwisitimela, kwi-minibus okanye kwibhasi yokuhamba rhoqo-oku kudibanisa ngokucacileyo. Enye inzuzo yindlu, esondele kufuphi naliphi na isibhedlele kamasipala okanye esibhedlele. Ngeveki kulungelelanise uhambo oluya kwiivenethi, i-cinema, ukufumana amathuba okunika abantwana ukuthetha kunye neontanga zabo kunye nokufunda kwizifundo. Kwaye kunjalo nje, xa unikezele zonke iimpawu zobomi belizwe, ungathenga indlu encomekileyo okanye uqale ukwakha iparadesi yakho esifubeni semvelo.
Ukuqwalasela zonke iingeniso kunye nokungahleleki kokuhlala ngaphandle kwesixeko, unokulungisa indlu uze udale ubomi obulungileyo kulutsha olude. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba nobaba kunye nabantwana abaqhuba umkhosi wokugubha ngezandla zabo. Kuwe ekuseni ubingelela isandi seentaba kunye nokucula kweentaka. Ukuze ukwazi ukuhamba nommelwane kusasa, kwaye nceda bafumane abantwana ngobisi olutsha, ubisi olutsha, kungekhona isitolo kwi-package.
Ingaba ukwenza ukuba amaphupha akho afezeke kuwe. Yaye ukuba iyayikhathaza kakhulu wena kunye nempilo yabantwana bakho, kwindlela kunye nezobuqhetseba - akukho mntu uphazamisa ukugqiba izifundo ze-nurse okanye ukubhalisa kwiqela le-aikido, ukugcina ikiti yokunceda yokuqala endlwini kwaye ungavumeli indoda ingenayo imfundo efanelekileyo kwizixhobo zamandla :)