Ukuba unako ukuthetha oko uthanda umntu ...
Abaninzi, bethetha ngothando, kaninzi bakhumbula ibinzana likaShakespeare lokuba xa umntu ethanda ngokwenene, akakwazi ukuchaza oko. Enyanisweni, le ntetho ayilunganga ngokupheleleyo. Kunoko, umntu othandwayo akanamagama anele achaza umthandi wakhe. Kodwa ngelo xesha unako ukugqiba ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni kanye uthando oluye lwabangela. Oku kunokuba nobubele, amandla, ukuzithemba, inqabiseko yecandelo elincinane kwindoda eselula. Kwaye oku kunyanisekileyo. Kodwa inyaniso kukuba lolu hlobo luthando alukwazi ukuhlala ngonaphakade. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, siyaqonda ngokucacileyo umntu, onke amanqanaba akhe kunye neendlela zokunciphisa, inzala iqala ukuphela. Kwaye ukuba akukho nto phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, uthando luye ludlulele kunye nomdla okanye luguqulwa lube lunye uvakalelo. Inyaniso kukuba umntu akakwazi ukuhlala esondelene nomntu ochasene ngokupheleleyo kunye nezinto ezithandayo. Ukuba uqala ukuphikisana nesiganeko ngasinye kuya kumnandi, ngoko ekugqibeleni kukuxhamla. Abantu bayeke ukukrakra omnye nomnye, kuba abayazi ukuba benzani. Intombazana ifuna ukuya kwifilimu eyoyikisayo, kodwa umfana ufuna kuphela i-movie yesenzo. Umntu ucela ukuphumla kweentaba ezintabeni, kwaye intombazana ayikwazi ukukhosela iholide kude nolwandle. I-Vitoga, abantu bahlala bexabana, okanye ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye baninzi bekhokela ixesha ngaphandle kwabo. Baye baqhelana nabo kwaye mhlawumbi abanye abantu bayabonakala ukuba bangavalelwa njani iimvakalelo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba unabantu abahlukileyo, oku akuthethi ukuba akukho thando. Uthando olunjalo luya kuphuma okanye luguqulwe lube yinto enye. Ngaphandle kweminqweno efanayo, umntu unokuthanda umzalwana, nokuba ngumhlobo. Ngomntu odlala indima enjalo ebomini bakho, akudingeki uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye kunye. Uyamthanda, kuba uyintanda. Kodwa ukuba unentlungu, ungaya kwabanye abahlobo. Umzalwana okanye intombazana akayi kukhubeka kwaye awuyi kuba nxaxheba ngenxa yokuba abazalwana kunye nabahlobo banokuba nzima, kwaye umthandayo unye. Kwaye ukuba ubona okuhluke kakhulu kumfana osemtsha, mhlawumbi kufuneka uguqulele ubuhlobo bakho kwelinye iindiza. Mhlawumbi uya kuba ngabahlobo abahle kwaye unokuba ngumhlobo iminyaka emininzi. Emva koko, nayiphi na ingxabano nomhlobo kubangela iimvakalelo ezingakumbi. Kodwa imbambano kunye nomfana - intukuthelo kunye neinyembezi. Ngoko musa ukucinga ukuba anithandani. Njalo khumbula ukuba uthando luyahluka kwaye, mhlawumbi, kufuneka nje utshintshe uhlobo lolwalamano.
Yaye yabonwa yimpumputhe kwinto ebeyiyo, kakuhle, kwaye oko kwakunjalo, ngoko yathandana
Enye inketho yothando phakathi kwabantu abahlukeneyo uluthando olufanelekileyo. Kule meko, abantu baqhelana kwaye benza imifanekiso, endaweni yokubona abantu bangempela. Izizathu zalo mgaqo zininzi. Mhlawumbi umfana okanye intombazana sele sele efuna isiqingatha sakhe kunye nokungakwazi ukuthetha naye rhoqo, ehlala ecinga ngothando lwakhe, emnika ubuninzi beempawu ezingenalo mntu. Okanye banqwenela ukucamngca abantu, ngoko bahlala befumana izizathu ezithile kwaye bachaze izinto ngokungafaniyo ngokwenene. Kule meko, umbuzo othi ngaba abantu abathandanayo ngokwenene bayathandana kakhulu bayabachaphazeleka. Inyaniso kukuba kwimeko enjalo kunzima ukuthetha ngothando lomntu wangempela. Kunoko, lo mthando awunjalo. Abantu bahlala bexhamla ekukhohliseni, apho bazinyamelayo. Ngokomzekelo, banokuqonda ukugxekwa kwendoda efana nokuvavanya iimvakalelo zakhe. Nangona, enyanisweni, ukugxeka, ngokuqinisekileyo wathi akayithandi.
Uthando olunjalo lunokuhlala ixesha elide kakhulu. Kuze kube kweli nqanaba, de kubekho umntu ophazamisayo ukuba azikhohlise. Inyaniso kukuba kunzima kubantu abahlukeneyo ukuba babe kunye. Kwaye ukuba bavuma ngokwenene ukubona oko kwenzeka ngokwenene, ubuhlobo buya kukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Ngako oko, ukuba uhlala uzibamba ukuba unomntu ohluke kakhulu, cinga indlela oyiyo ngayo kuye. Mhlawumbi akayiyo yonke into enomusa, onobuqili kunye nemvelo njengoko ufuna ukuyibona. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba kubekho i-islabocharacter botanist enqwenela inqabileyo, apho wena, umfazi onamandla kwaye onobungozi, akafanelanga nhlobo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uziva eminzini yomphefumlo wakho ukuba uhlukile kumadoda, kungekhona nje kwintetho kunye nomdla, kodwa nakwiimpawu zobuntu, isimo sengqondo ebomini nakubantu, njalo njalo, ngoko ufanele ucinge ngomntu omthandayo: umntu okanye umfanekiso owenziwe. Qiniseka ukuba emva kokuba uhlalutye yonke into kwaye uyibone imeko yangempela, uthando luya kudlula. Khumbula ikusasa: awukwazi ukuthanda ngomfanekiso owenziwe nguwe, kuba kungekudala okanye emva koko kuya kukudanisa.
Kodwa ndimthanda!
Abasetyhini abaninzi bathi bathanda amadoda abo, nantoni yokuba ayinanto efanayo. Kwaye ukuba akusilo uthando lomfanekiso, malunga nantoni na ngasentla, ngoko iimvakalelo ezinjalo zinendawo yokuhlala. Unokwenene umthanda umntu ongenakubukeka ngathi. Xa usebenza kakhulu, kunzima ngakumbi ukuba uhlangane kunye. Uthando oluthile lwezici zobuntu lunikeza isiseko sobudlelwane. Kodwa ke kufuneka yongezwe kwinto yokuba unomdla kwinto enokuyenza kunye, jonga into, funda okuthile, udlala into ethile. Ukuba akunjalo, uthando olunjalo luya kuhlala lufana nothando olufanayo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kuphela xa esi sibini sizolile, sitshutshise abantu. Oko kukuthi, xa bengenanto into eqhelekileyo, kodwa nabo, nabo. Abakhathaleli ukuba benzani ngokusemgangathweni. Kwamanye amaxesha, unokumthanda umntu ukuya kwindawo yobuhlanya, kodwa ekugqibeleni uya kuthukuthelisa ngamandla anye. Ngaloo nto kuthiwa: "kubi, ukungabikho kobomi kukubi kakhulu." Oku kuthetha ukuba kukho iimvakalelo, kodwa ngaphezu kweemvakalelo, kufuneka uqinise ulwalamano lwakho ngakumbi.
Ngoko ke, ukuqokelela umgca phantsi kwayo yonke into engentla, kunokuthiwa abantu abahlukeneyo banokuthandana ngokwenene, kwaye ukuba uguqulela ubuhlobo kwelinye indiza, olu luthando alukwazi ukuphela emva koko. Emva kwakho konke, ubuhlobo - lo luhlobo luthando kwaye, mhlawumbi, lungcono, kunokuba uthando luhlobo lwalo olulungekileyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.