Silindele ukuba imeko iguqulwe ngokubhetele. Kodwa ubomi akusiyo inkcazo, ungaphoswa ixesha apho unokwenza okuthile.
Ngoko, into eyenzeka kakhulu - washiya, kwaye akafuni ukubuyela. Ukuqhathaniswa ngumsindo onamandla nawuphi na umfazi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ingqondo ihlala ilahlekile, akukho nto yokucinga, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, into enokuyenza.
Indlela yokubuyisela ubuhlobo obudlulileyo kunye nomfana? Okokuqala, kufuneka uhlalise - ungaya kumhlobo, isazi sezengqondo, umbingeleli (ngubani, osondeleyo), baya kuphulaphula, baya kuzisola. Okanye thola amandla kuwe ukuze ukwazi ukuzibona kuwe, kwiimpazamo zakho. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo, liye lingahambi ngokukhawuleza. Unokuqala kuphela ngephepha elicocekileyo, kwaye ubomi obutsha kufuneka buhluke kwaye luququzelele ngokuhlukileyo kumdala.
Kufuneka uqale nawe. Zihlolisise kakuhle, mhlawumbi into itshintshile kuwe? Ngaba ukuzithemba kuya? Ngoko, ukuzithemba kuye kwawa. Ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela ubudlelwane kunye nomfana, kufuneka uqale ngokuzithemba, ubuyisele ukutsala kunye nokuzithemba kwinqanaba elidlulileyo okanye ngaphezulu. Ukuze uhlaziye okokuqala isibheno, umntu makazame ukulibala umfana (kwinqanaba lokuqonda, ngokuqinisekileyo), azikhulule kwiimvakalelo ezimbi kunye neengcamango zangaphambili. Ngaphandle koko, bayonakalisa kwaye banda ngakumbi imeko okhoyo ngoku.
Emva koko kufuneka uqale ukucinga kwakhona isizathu sokuba uyamthanda. Ekubeni kwakunomngcipheko, akunjalo kangangokuba abafana banomnqweno wokubuyela kulowo owayesithanda ngaphambili. Ufuna omnye, owayekwazi ukuziqonda, aqonde iimpazamo zakhe aze afunde indlela yokuzilawula. Ngubani oqonda ngokucacileyo oko kunye nendlela yokunikela ngayo ngenxa yokufumana ulonwabo. Yaye iya kuba ngumfazi ohluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye kufuneka ube nguye. Ukuze utshintshe ngendlela efanelekileyo, kufuneka uhlale ufumana iimvakalelo ezintle, oku kuya kukhulula ngokwakho ukuxhomekeke kwimpembelelo yangaphambili kwaye uzama ukuqala enye, ubomi obutsha.
Ngaphambili, umthombo wezinto ezithembekileyo wawuqinisekisile lakho iqabane, kwaye ngoku kufuneka kubekho into elula, kwaye ifikeleleke. Umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu kuwe ngoku ukonwabela ubomi kuyo yonke imbonakalo yayo-ekutya, iimpahla, iziqholo, ukuzonwabisa, ukuphumla, okude kuphupha. Ngokubanzi, kubalulekile ukuzalisa ubomi bakho ngovuyo kunye nokukhanya. Funda ukufumana into enokuzonwabisa kuzo zonke ezikujikelezayo, gcwalisa yonke iminithi yomhla wakho ngonwabo. Konke oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ukhulise ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuheha. Uya kuba ngumntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo, okuvela kuwe kuza kuza novuyo kunye nokufudumala, izifo zakho ziza kuvezwa ngabantu abakujikelezile. Kuwe akuyi kuhlala ingabonwa.
Ngenye yezihlandlo ezimnandi kunye ezimangalisayo, xa uxakekile ngolonwabo lwakho, ubuhlobo bakho obudlulileyo buya kubuya. Ngelo xesha, kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba wena, intombi entsha ehlakaniphile, uyidinga ubomi bakho obudala. Ngamaphulo adlulileyo ngokufanayo, vumela ukuba ube yindawo yokudlala yefilimu yakho oyintandokazi, iholo okanye ihholo. Ziphulaphule, ukuba awulungele ukubuya konke oku, kukulungele ukulibala kanye, ukwenzela ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha nemikhosi emitsha.