Nantsi intombazana eneminyaka emine ithi, "Mkhulu, ndiyakuthanda kakhulu, ngoko ndiyamthanda, kwaye undilethelele tsholeta?"
Akuthethi ukuba ukuthenga i-candy kunye neeseys zemali kwaye uzuze uthando lwentombazana unakho na umamakazi esitrato.
Sifundiswa umntwana ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukuthenga uthando, kunjalo. Ngelo xesha, ukukhangela abantu abacebileyo akusohlwayo, kwaye phantse wonke umntu uphupha ukuba umyeni ucebile kwaye akavelanga. Iincwadi zincwadi zifumana iinzuzo zokubanjwa komntu osisityebi, amaphephancwadi acwecwezelayo abhengeze uluhlu lweendawo ezifanelekileyo apho "izikhwama zemilenze" zidla. Imali yinyama negazi leli hlabathi. Akukho nanye, nokuba ngumntu okhanyiswe kakhulu, uye wafunda ukuhlala kuluntu kwaye akwenze ngaphandle "kweso sinyithi". Ingaba kuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngathi, abafazi ababuthathaka: iziqholo kunye neempahla zokugqoka, iironi kunye neeklabhu zezemidlalo - konke oku akunakwenzeka ukuba ube yinxalenye yobomi ukuba uhlwempu. Uthando mhlawumbi luyinto yokugqibela yokuba umntu othukutheleyo, ukhathele, ucinga ukuba asebenze emisebenzini emithathu ukuze ahlawule zonke iintlawulo kwaye athenge ukutya kunye neempahla. Imali yisona sizathu esibalulekileyo sokuxabana kweentsapho. Umfazi ufumana ngaphezulu - umyeni uqala ukuvavanya izakhiwo kunye nokuphosa owaziwayo kubo bonke ugxininisa ukuzingca. Abafumani bobabini - ukuhlambalaza ngokusemthethweni kuqala. Uthando lukhoyo!
Ukwandisa imeko yezenhlalakahle ngomtshato onenzuzo ayikho inkohliso yethu okanye kweso sizukulwana esidlulileyo. Ngamaxesha onke kwakukho abantu abatsha kunye namantombazana abajonga ulutsha, ubuhle kunye nengqondo njengengxowa-mali yemali-mali enenzuzo ukwenzela ukutsala "umtyalo-mali" kumntu onomthandi, inkosikazi, kwaye ukuba unethamsanqa, ngoko ke isiqingatha sesibini esisemthethweni. Lobu bubomi, kodwa iinjongo ezinjalo aziphenduli umbuzo wokuba unako ukuthenga uthando lwangempela lwemali. Ngamanye amaxesha "ityala lokuthengisa" ngokukhawuleza liguqula iimvakalelo zinyaniso ukuba iqela likhuselekile ngokwezimali kwaye ayikrokreli ukuba iimvakalelo azikho konke. Ndiyabona. ukuba ukusuka kwimbono yokuziphatha le mpawu ayimkelekile, kodwa kukho imfuneko yoko, ngolimi lweemarike. Ngoobani obhaliweyo amanqaku amaninzi ngesihloko esithi "njani ukuwa thandana nawe ...", ukuba asinomdla kule nto. Kwaye into enjalo isenzo soloko sisisityebi kwaye siphumelele. Ngoko ukuthanda ngokwawo njengemvakalelo enyanisekileyo yokuthenga ngemali ayiyi kusebenza, kodwa nanko ukulingiswa komgangatho ovela kumdlali ongenzi nzuzo okanye umdlali - ngokuqinisekileyo. Kwizinto ezinjalo zihlala zifuna, ngenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi banomdla kakhulu ekunyuseni inkunzi kunye nokulungiswa ekuphumezeni isiqhamo sokuba ingaqhelekanga ukulinda nayiphi na imvakalelo apho.
Enyanisweni, inyaniso yokuba uyayithenga uthando lokwenene lwemali, lusizi kakhulu kwaye lonakalisa ubomi bomntu ongaphezu komntu oyedwa, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo ukhetho aluxhaswanga kwabampofu nothando. Kule nto, mhlawumbi, unokugxeka umntu, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo unesizathu - inkolelo ekhoyo yokuba uthando lwangempela luthengiswa. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuthenga uthando lwangempela ngemali? Ngaba oku akunyeliseki ngakumbi ukuthengiswa kothando?
Ngelishwa, uthando kunye nemali zixhomekeke kakhulu kwiingqondo zethu, kuba uthando lujongwa kwinqanaba elincinci njengento ebalulekileyo ekudalweni kwintsapho, kwaye umtshato kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana sele kusekho uqoqosho. Ngako-ke ngaphandle kwensimbi enokuthi ayinakuyenza, kwaye abantu abaninzi bayazidela, baphila, bazenzele. Ukuba unethamsanqa, ubudlelwane obunjalo buya kuba ngumkhwa kunye nobudlelwane, kwaye emva koko emva kothando, mhlawumbi nothando. Ubomi buyamangalisa, kwaye awunakucinga ukuba uyifumana phi, apho ulahlekelwa khona.