Ukuqala, kufuneka ulungele oku. Uthando aluyona isipho kuphela, kodwa ubugcisa, isakhono esifanele siphuhliswe. Ukuze uthande omnye umntu, akwanele ukugxila kuye yedwa, ingongoma kukuba umntu kufuneka aqale kuwe. Ukuba ndifuna ukudibana nothando, kufuneka ndiqale ndisebenze, ndilungele oko. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba akunakwenzeka ukuthanda omnye umntu ngaphandle kokuzithandela kuqala. Umntu onqwenela ukulungelelaniswa kufuneka kuqala afumane kuye ngokwakhe oko kuya kulandelana ngokulandelanayo, ukuzi kakuhle kunye nomlingani wakhe, ukubonakala. Ukuqonda iingenelo zakho kunye nokungahambi kakuhle, kwaye ukuba kukho imingcipheko ebalulekileyo okanye ukuphazamiseka-kuhle ukusebenzela kuyo. Ukuze uhlangane nothando ngesithunzi, kufuneka umntu alungele ukucwiliswa ngokupheleleyo kuwo, kwaye umise umyalelo kwezinye iindawo zobomi ukuze angabi nasemva kweengxaki ezingaphendululwanga. Uthando luyakuthanda ingqalelo. Oku kulandela ukuba ukuze udibane nomphefumlo wakho, kufuneka ube nokuthanda nokufunda wena kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo, unokukwazi ukucombulula iingxaki zakho kwaye ulungele le ntliziyo.
Emva koko kuza isinyathelo sesibini - isenzo. Ukuze uhlangane nothando, umnqweno omnye awunelisekanga, isenzo siyadingeka. Ukuba ndiqala ukuzicingela njengendoda yamakhosikazi enqabeni kwaye ndiza kuhlala ekhaya, njengendonga enkulu kakhulu - oku akuyi kusebenza. Ukuze ukwazi uthando, kufuneka uqhelane nabantu abatsha, lungele kwaye uvule ukuthetha. Kwakhona, uphando luyancitshiswe ngokukhethiweyo kunye nemithetho ethile. Ngokomzekelo, kubalulekile ukubonakalisa iimpazamo ezingavumelekanga ezisemgangathweni kumntu othandekayo, okanye abo bantu abangakufanelanga kwaye bazame ukuziphepha. Unokubala oko uthandayo kwaye uyisebenzise ukuhlangabezana nomlingane womphefumlo. Ngokomzekelo, ndiyakuthanda ukufunda iincwadi, iincwadi kunye neelayibrari, ndifuna ukuba undikhethileyo aphinde ahlanganyele lwam uthando kwiincwadi. Ukuze udibane nomntu onjalo, kwanele ukuchitha ixesha elide kwiindawo ezifanelekileyo, ukuba ungesabi ukuthetha nomntu, ukuxoxa nomsebenzi ozithandayo. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntu ubambe incwadi yakho oyithandayo ezandleni zakho kwaye uyayifunda ngokuzonwabisa - ungathetha nalo mfokazi kwaye uxoxe naye ngeemvakalelo emva kokufunda. Ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kuguqulwa, kwixesha elizayo ungadibana nayo. Kuthekani ukuba ngaba kuvela ukuba ngumntu owufunayo? Ukuba akunjalo, unokuhlala uhlala naye kunye naye, ube nexesha elihle kwaye ujabule, ncokola. Okanye ngokukhawuleza, isithuba siya kuthatha isigqibo sokutshintsha ubomi ukuze kube ngcono. Kodwa nakuphi na imeko, musa ukuzibamba, ukuba ungabona ukuba umntu unomdla kunomnye umsebenzi, kungcono ukubuyela emva kwaye ungaphazamisi. Ucacisa ngokucacileyo iimfuno zakhe kwaye kufuneka ahlonishwe.
Ukuze udibanisane nothando, kufuneka kwakhona uqonde kakhulu ngobomi, malunga nabantu. Kungenxa yoko, uthando lwamaxesha amaninzi lufika kwiminyaka ekhulileyo. Ukongeza kokulungelelaniswa kwayo, ufuna kwakhona amava. Kufuneka ukwazi ukwahlula umntu olungileyo kumntu ombi, umntu onomdla kuwe njengomntu kwaye ngubani ozakukusebenzisa nje. Kufuneka kwakhona ukwazi oko ufunayo ebomini, oko uzimisele ukukwenza, kwaye ufuna umntu oza kubelana ngombono wakho. Akwanele ukufumana umntu oya kukuthanda, ufuna kwakhona umntu onomdla kwixesha elizayo kunye nolwalamano naye luya kuqina kwaye lude. Ukuthethwa ngokuchanekileyo kumaxesha amandulo - uthando xa ungakhange ukhangelane, kodwa kwelinye icala. Ukuba unemibono kunye neminqweno eyahlukileyo nomntu, uthando alukwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide, kwaye aluyi kuba nelona xabiso.
Omnye umgaqo obalulekileyo omele ukhethwa ngawo kukuba ukukhawuleza akudingeki apha. Ukubambisana nokuzithemba kubalulekile. Musa ukukhawuleza, ukunyanzelisa, ukuhlala unomdla kunye nokunyamekela ukubona indoda yonke indoda. Oku kuya kuba yimpazamo ecacileyo. Kwakhona kukufanelekile ukuba uqiniseke ngamakhono akho, khumbula ukuba ukuba ndifuna ukuhlangabezana nothando lomntu omnye - ndiza kufumana. Akuyimfuneko ukuhlala emadodeni ongeke uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo, okanye abafanelekanga, okanye abanako ukungaziphathi kakuhle, ukuze ulungise into ethile, ukuvala amehlo akho kwezinye izinto. Kusoloko ufuna ukuqhubela phambili.
Umgaqo wokugqibela obalulekileyo yindlela yokuhamba kunye nokholo. Ukuba wenze iimpazamo ezininzi, uyeka ukukholelwa othandweni, nangona ufuna ukuyihlangabeza, ukuba ushiywe, okanye ubeke intlungu eninzi, kwaye uzama ukufumana uthando olufanayo aluphumelelanga - ungaba nomsindo. Sifunda kwiimpazamo, kufuneka sihlale sijonge phambili kwaye singakhangeli emva. Oku kunokwenziwa kuphela xa ufuna ukuhlalutya imeko, kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko kufuneka uqhubeke, ukholwe kwaye uthande. Ukuba ufuna, u khangela, uya kufumana. Uthando olungaphaya kokulawula ixesha - lenzeke kamva okanye ngaphambilana, nasiphi na ixesha lobomi. Kodwa kwimiba nganye, kufuneka ulungele, ufune, ukholwe kwaye uyamthanda, de kube akukho nto inokungabaza - nantsi ke, uthando oluhle kunye endandifuna ngalo lonke ubomi bam.