Ungasebenzisi indlela yokuhamba
Le meko iyinqabileyo, ngenxa yokuba intombazana ifuna ukugcina ubungani kwaye ungadluli umgca. Nangona umhlobo wakhe ufuna ukunyathela ngaphaya kwalo mgca, njengoko kuya kuthetha ukuba naye akabekho izilwanyana ezinobungqina kuye, kwaye ngoko banako ukuba kunye. Kule meko, amantombazana ahlala ekhetha amaqhinga omgama. Bazama ukuthetha njengento encinci ngendoda eselula, bayibambe, bhala, bakholelwe ukuba ngale ndlela banceda ukulibala ngeemvakalelo. Enyanisweni, phantse kuzo zonke iimeko, eli qhinga lisebenzisayo, kwaye xa lenza, ngokuqinisekileyo umphumo awuwanelisi ngesini sesini. Inyaniso kukuba xa intombazana iqala ukuhamba, loo mntu uzimisele ukulibala. Akunjalo nje ngentombazana, kodwa njengomntu. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba kunzima ukusondelana nomthandekayo wakho, engakwazi ukuhamba naye kunye. Kwaye ukuba akukho mntu ufumana amandla okuhamba naye, ngoko xa umfazi esenza oko, uthatha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha njengomqondiso wexesha elizeleyo kwaye uzama ukumlibala ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa xa umfana elala kwi "radar", intombazana iqala ukumkhumbula umhlobo wayo kwaye imkhange naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo, i-damynalkilsya kwisimo sengqondo esichasayo nesibi. I-Onnikik ayikwazi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umhlobo ongcono kakhulu uye wagqithiselwa ngokupheleleyo okanye wachaphazeleka. Enyanisweni, yonke into ilula kakhulu. Xa intombazana isuka kude, indoda ithatha njengento ekhethileyo kwaye izama ukulibala ngamandla ayo onke. Kwaye ke, kubonakala ngathi, yonke into iyavela, ngokukhawuleza ibuye iphinde iphinde ifune ingqalelo. Okokuqala, abafana abayiqondi le nto. Kubonakala kungenangqiqo. Kwaye okwesibini, baqala ukucaphuka kunye nentombazana kunye nenambuzane. Intombazana - oko kukubangelayo, ivuselela iimvakalelo, kunye nezinambuzane-ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuzilawula, uthando luya kuphinda lugqitywe kwaye lujikeleze isijikelezo. Kuvela ukuba kukho iingxabano phakathi kwabangaphambili abahlobo abangaba ngokukhawuleza baba ngumboniso wentshiseko kwinxalenye yendoda eye ibambe ixesha elide, kwaye ngoku yonke imvakalelo yakhe iqhuma ngaphandle.
Kukho enye indlela eyahlukileyo yokuphuhliswa kweemeko. Kule meko, intombazana sele izama ukuhamba kwaye ekugqibeleni ibuyele. Ngoko ke, xa efuna ukusebenzisa amaqhinga anjalo kwakhona, le nsizwa iqala nje ukulinda. Ukholelwa ukuba uya kubuya, afune nje ukunyamezela. Ngaloo ndlela, intanda ethandekayo ibe yintlahlela esinqatshelwe kuye, apho ivakalelwa khona. Ngoko ke, xa intombazana ikhetha ukuvuselela ubudlelwane, ibona phambi kwayo ingenguye umhlobo, kodwa umfana othanda naye ngaphezu kokuba aphule ubuhlobo. Ngoko ke, njengokuba ubona, le ndlela ayiyiyo indlela yokuphuma. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ufumane ngakumbi ngothando ngendoda eselula, okanye ulahlekelwe ngumhlobo wakho ngonaphakade. Ngoko kufuneka ukhethe amacebo onke ahlukeneyo, esiya kuthetha ngawo ngoku.
Ubuhlobo bokwethembeka
Ukuze kulungiswe imeko yangoku, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha nomhlobo wakho. Kodwa okokuqala, zibuze ngokunyanisekileyo: Ngaba ubuhlobo bakho kumfana osemncinci kuphela okanye kukho into ongazivumeli yona? Inyaniso kukuba xa ungeyinyanisekanga kuwe, ngoko umzuzu uza kuza xa uya kuqonda ukuba uyamthanda lo mntu, apho ivakalelo ziya kutshisa kwaye akayi kufuna ukwakha ubudlelwane nawe. Ngoko ke, kukulungele ukuzigqiba isigqibo, ufuna ntoni ngokwenene. Kwaye ukuba uyaqonda ukuba le nsizwa isondele kuwe kwaye inqwenela, kodwa nje ngokuba ngumhlobo, ke unokuqiniseka ukuba uthetha naye malunga nento yonke. Ukungafuneki kwiimeko ezinjalo kubangela ukuba abantu baqale ukuza into engekho ngokwenene, kodwa Ndingathanda kakhulu ukuba. Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba emva kokuvala nje esi sihloko, umfana uya kuqala ukubona ukungaboni kakuhle kuyo nayiphi na impawu yakho kwaye ujonge. Ngoko kukulungele ukulungiselela onke amanqaku phezu kwe "i" ngokukhawuleza.
Incoko kufuneka iqaliswe kwindawo ekhululekile kwaye yedwa. Musa ukuthetha nantoni na nabahlobo okanye omaziyo. Olunye isiluleko esibalulekileyo - musa ukusela. Akusiyo imfihlo yokuba utywala uwandisa iimvakalelo zethu neemvakalelo zethu, ukunyanzelisa yonke into ukuba iqondwe kakhulu entliziyweni. Ngoko ke, ukuba usela, kuya kwenzeka ukuba incoko iya kuba yinto ehlaselayo, okanye iya kuphelisa ngokungafaniyo. Inyani kukuba abafazi basoloko bekulungele ukuzisola wonke umntu, kwaye kwimeko yokuxhatshazwa kwesi sizathu sinobuqhetseba. Ngoko ungamangaliswa ukuba kusasa kusasa uya kuqonda ukuba uvumele ukudibana nomhlobo wakho kwaye wafunga ngokumthanda, kuba uxolo kuye.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthetha, nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukubamba into kwaye ungathethi. Kumele uvumele le ntombazana ibonise zonke iingcamango zakhe ukuze angabi noluvo lokuba akagqibekanga into ethile, kungenxa yokuba awukho ndawonye. Emva kokuba ekuxelele yonke into, lixesha lokuba uqokelele intando yakho ibe yintonga kwaye uchaze umbono wakho wale meko. Akufuneki ukuba uzisole okanye ubambe into ethile okanye unike ithemba elithembayo. Kule meko, inyaniso enenzondelelo ibhetele kakhulu kunamanga amnandi. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha indlela oxabisa ngayo ubuhlobo, kodwa ungaboni nonke kwi-nemskogo guy, ngoko, ngelishwa, akukho nto inokuyithemba.
Kwaye emva kwamacala amabini acacisa uluvo lwabo, kuya kuba lixesha lokufumana isisombululo kule meko. Kule meko, ungaze uvumele ukuzizingca. Ukuba umhlobo wakho uthi ufuna ukuphulaphula bonke ubudlelwane, kuba akanako nje ukuba ngabahlobo-musa ukumelana naye. Ewe, vymobolno ukusuka kwinto yokuba ulahlekelwa ngumthandayo, kodwa ukuba uyithande kuwe, kufuneka uqonde ukuba kuya kuba kubi kuwe.
Ukuba le nsizwa ifuna ukuqhubela phambili kuba ngabahlobo, vumelani ukuba uya kuziphatha njengangaphambili, ngaphandle kokujonga ngothando lwakhe. Oko kukuthi, ukuba kunye nawe kuya kuba namanye amadoda, akayi kukwazi ukukhuphisana, ukulungiselela izigcawu nokunye njalo. Qinisekisa ukuba uthi uyaziqonda kakuhle, kodwa ufuna ukugcina ubungane, kwaye esi siphumo sinokufezekiswa kuphela xa ubabini uyalibala ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba umntu uyaqonda ukuba akathembeli nantoni na, kodwa usayidinga njengomhlobo, ngoko mhlawumbi uya kukwazi ukunqoba iimvakalelo zakhe aze ajikeleze.