Iphupha lokutshata ngenxa yothando


Intombazana encinci ukususela kumntwana amaphupha malunga nexesha apho uya kuba ngumtshakazi. Iphupha lokutshata ngenxa yothando, ehlala ngokuvuya ngonaphakade ... Iingubo ezimhlophe zengubo, umgubo ophethe isitima eside, iindidi ezininzi zeentyatyambo ... kakuhle, kwindawo ethile ngasemva, umyeni ugubha. Akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo, sizalelwa njengama-egoists, kodwa oku kuya kulwa kwaye kufuneka kulwa.

Ngoku, ubuntwaneni sele buphelile, ulutsha, lixesha lokucinga malunga nokwakha intsapho. Ukuzimisela komntu ngamnye ukuba athathe uxanduva lomnye uvela kwiminyaka eyahlukileyo, abanye bakulungele ukuthatha zonke iingxaki zobomi bentsapho kunye ne-18, abanye kunye neminyaka engama-30 bekungabaza ukuba ngaba baya kuhlangabezana nomthwalo onzima kangaka. Amaphupha okutshata ngothando, akafuni ukutshata (okanye wayefuna, kodwa wayengakulungele) - ukulungelelanisa umdlalo wexesha elizayo. Nangona kunjalo, umntu ngamnye uhlala ngokwemeko yakhe, kodwa ngelo xesha-kuxhomekeka kwiinkalo ezininzi. Ngako oko, akunandaba nokuba uneminyaka engakanani odibene kuyo phantsi kwesithsaba.

Kukho uluvo lokuba siphila njengoko sifuna kwaye sifuna ukukhangela izizathu kuphela kuthi, ukuba into ayizange isebenze. Kodwa konke kwaqala kakuhle! Yaye iqala phi? Udibanise, wadibana, wadibana kunye nexesha, wagqiba ukutshata. Amaphupha okutshata, mhlawumbi - ukuthanda uthando olukhulu, kwaye nantsi isinqumo esiphuthumayo esenziwe. Ngaba abafana bazanazana phambi kweofisi yokubhalisa? Akunzima ... Nobomi akwanele ukwenza oku. Yaye ukuba uthe wadibana ixesha elide, ngoko kukho ukuba ngaphambi kokuba umtshato ungayi kuza.

Ngoko ke intsapho iya kusekelwe yintoni? Ngothando, eqinisweni, kodwa kungekhona kulowo onke amabali abathandayo abhaliweyo. Mhlawumbi lolu hlobo luthando lufana nomnqweno wokuphila ngenxa yomnye umntu, ukukwazi ukulawula yonke imikhosi yabo ukufezekisa injongo enye. Ukuba kuyimfuneko - ukunikela, ukuba kuyimfuneko - ukukhusela ukufaneleka kwabo. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo isizathu sokudala intsapho akufanele sibe yintando, uthando. Ukuxabisa umvakalelo "Owu uThixo wam! Ndiyakuthanda! "Unako (ukuthanda kwakho), kodwa ukuguqula kwisizathu esisodwa sokutshata akuyona into efanelekileyo.

Kukho uluvo lokuba ukudalulwa kwentsapho akudingi ukuba nobukho bobubele, uvelwano olwaneleyo kunye nomnqweno wokuhlala kunye. Ngaba kunjalo? Ndicinga njalo. Uvelwano luthi phakathi kwabantu kukho imvakalelo ethile, inzala, ingqalelo kunye nentlonipho omnye komnye, ngokulinganayo. Yaye makungabi nandithanda, kodwa nje ubuhlobo obusondeleyo obusondeleyo, emva kwexesha banokukhula babe yinto engaphezulu.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ekuqaleni akukho uvelwano, kodwa kubakho ukubalwa okubanda, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukuba kukho konke okulungileyo okuza kuvela kuyo. Ngaba kulungele ukuphupha umyeni ocebileyo? Ungaphupha ngomyeni wakho othandekayo nompumelelo! Bonke abantu abazizityebi banemihlali ebomini babo. Ibhinqa ilungiselelwe ngendlela efunekayo ukuba imthande umntu ohamba naye ebomini ngesandla. Kuphela ukuba umfazi uyamthanda umyeni wakhe, sinokuthi uyavuya, kungakhathaliseki ezinye iimeko.

Intsebenziswano - nakwikhitshi!
Enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo kukuba ingaba iimvakalelo zakho zikulungele ukunyamezela iimvavanyo zobomi bemihla ngemihla. Uphupha lokutshata ngothando, kodwa akafuni ukuhlamba okanye ukupheka. Uthemba ukuba umyeni wakhe uya kuthenga ngokukhawuleza i-dishwasher kunye nomatshini wokuhlamba, kodwa xa lo mbhangqwana osemtsha ungakwazi ukuwufumana? Ngoko, okokuqala uza kufuneka unyamezele, uziyeke, kwaye xa ungenakuze ubekezeleleke - vumelana nokwahlukana koxanduva lweentsapho. Kwaye oku, uxolisa, kukude nomgangatho wothando - ezi ziimpawu ezibonakalisa ubambiswano kunye nentlonelo.

Kwimeko kuphela ukuba indoda nomfazi baya kulwela ngokulinganayo intsapho yabo, sinokuthi akukho bunzima obuya kubhubhisa umanyano wabo. Umntu akanakukwazi ukujamelana nomsebenzi onzima, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi imithombo yokuziphatha kunye nezinto eziphathekayo.

Iinjongo eziqhelekileyo
Ziziphi iinjongo eziqhelekileyo? Ukuhlala ndawonye ngoxolo noxolo kuze kube yilapho ukuguga kungabi yinjongo? Ubomi bunikezwa umntu ukuba anqobe ubunzima obujamelene nayo endleleni yakhe. Kwaye ukuba kukho umntu osondeleyo osondeleyo, kuya kunokwenzeka ukudlula le ndlela kungekhona nje ngomgudu omncinci, kodwa kunye nokuzonwabisa.

Ukulwa neengxaki, siya kuphucula, ngokungaqhelekanga. Futhi ukuhlala kunye nokuzonwabisa - oku akuthethi nantoni na, ukuba nazo zonke izibonelelo ezifunwayo. Kunoko, ndawonye, ​​ukufezekisa, ukufumana, ukuphuhlisa kunye nomthandayo. Ay, ndoda, uphi na? Mhlawumbi kungekho icala kwicala - kuba ngoku uhlala efumana indlu, esebenza njengelinye lemisebenzi emithathu, kodwa ngokuhlwa uya kubuya ekhaya ...

Akukho uthando!
Abazali bam behlala ndawonye malunga nehafu yenkulungwane kwaye bobabini bavakalisa ukuba uthando alukho. Ngaba kunokwenzeka? Kubonakala ngathi, ewe. Kwintliziyo yolwalamano lwabo bahlonipha omnye nomnye, ukuqonda kunye nokukhathalelana. Okanye mhlawumbi luthando? Mhlawumbi umntu akavunyelwanga ukuqonda ukuba ngaba ngokwenene le ntliziyo? Okanye ngaba bonke abantu bayazibona ukuba kukho uthando?

Kubonakala ngathi uthando aluyonto efanayo. Kusemhlabeni jikelele kwaye ngokucacileyo kuphela kule mizuzu emfutshane xa silala, sizongcwine iinduku zethu emagxeni omyeni, xa sithola inkxaso, sikhathalele okanye sizibonise.

Ukuba umntu unokuthetha ngesakhiwo sengqondo ngokubanzi, uluthando luqulethwe ezininzi ezininzi iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo kumntu ngamnye. Kwaye kuphela kwinkimbinkimbi nangaphambi kwento yothando, yonke imbonakalo ibonakala ihamba kunye njengemifanekiso, kwaye ibonakala iyinto engokoqobo. Kwaye ukunyaniseka kwehlabathi lethu elingaphakathi kunye nolwazi lwethu olubanzi, mhlawumbi uthando aluyi kulugqithisa. Kodwa kungcono ukulibala ngokuzingca ...