Qala kunye nawe
EmaMerika, kuma-80s, kwenziwe uvavanyo oluyingqayizivele. Iqela labantu lakhethwa ngabantu aba-30, ngamnye wanikezwa imali efanayo (enkulu). Kwaye emva kwexesha balandelwa. Omnye ngethuba livule ishishini labo kwaye landisa inani eliyinkunzi, omnye umntu waqala ishishini kwaye wamkela ubuncinane imali encinci kodwa engenako, kwaye umntu othe wabuyela ngokukhawuleza wachitha yonke into ecaleni kwendlala. Ngaphezu koko, abantu abahlwempuzekileyo bathi: "Ukuba ndibe nemali eninzi, ndiza kuba ndiphendukile!" Abantu abadibeneyo babuthana ndawonye, banikezela inani elifanayo lokuqala lemali. Emva konyaka, akukho namnye kubo ocebileyo. Okokuthi, abantu baziphatha ngendlela efanayo, kwaye nje ngokuba bachitha yonke inkunzi kwaye basala bengenanto.
Ngoku khumbula. Ngangaphi na uphinde uphupha ukuba iCapadeneg yawa ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kwenye indawo. Emva koko uya kuba yimpumelelo kwaye ucebile, uphumelele kwiindawo eziphakamileyo kwaye ujabule. Ndikholelwe - oku akunjalo. Impumelelo ayikho kwisikhwama - inentloko. Sidinga ukuhlakulela iimpawu ezithile ngaphakathi kwethu, sikwazi ukuzilawula thina nakwi-kuphela kuphela kwaye kuza kuphumelela impumelelo, kwaye akuyi kuba yimpumelelo yokuphila ngokucoca.
Ziziphi iimpawu ezifunekayo ukuze uphumelele kuyo yonke into? Okokuqala, ukuzithemba. Ngaphandle kwalokhu akunakwenzeka ukufikelela nantoni na. I-Luberesheniya ebomini ibambe ngesibindi, ingavumeli ukuba nehla lokungabaza lihlale ngaphakathi kwakho. Ukuzithemba kusebenza engqondweni engqondweni - amandla okuzenzekelayo akukhenxwanga okwamanje. Kholelwa kwintlanka, phila ngcamango yokuba yonke into iya kuvela - uya kumangaliswa ngokukhawuleza ukuba i-shishini lakho liza kutshintshwa ngokukhawuleza.
Umgangatho wesibini unethemba. Ukucinga okulungileyo kwenza izinto ezimangalisayo, into ephambili - kuphela phambili, ungalokothi ulahle. Bonke abantu abaphumelele kakhulu babona iglasi yobomi "isigxina esigcwele", bakholelwa kwikamva labo baza bafezekisa oko bafuna. Olunye ukunyamezela luphawu olubalulekileyo lomntu kwimpumelelo yonke. Ikhono, ukufezekisa injongo, unganciphisi iingalo, uze udibanise nodonga lokungaphumeleli, ukungaqondi kakuhle nokuhleka. Sebenza kwinto okholelwa ngayo ekunqobeni izihlandlo zokuphelelwa lithemba - oku kuyintloko yegama elithi "ukunyamezela".
Zonke ezi mpawu zinokuthi zifanele ziqhutywe rhoqo, ukuba ziyancitshiswa ngokwemvelo yazo. Yaye ngenxa yale nto awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle komgangatho ophezulu-ukunyamekela. Abantu abaphumeleleyo bonke bavuma ukuba kufuneka basebenze nzima kakhulu. Kwakunzima ekuqaleni. Abaninzi abazange balale iintsuku, ukuphuhlisa iiprojekthi zabo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uvila ngokwemvelo kwaye ufumene izizathu ezininzi zokungazenzi ngokugqithiseleyo, ngoko kufuneka ufune ukuzigweba ngenxa yokungaphumeleli.
Ungazivumeli ukuba uphumelele
Okumangalisayo kukuba, kodwa ininzi yethu ayizivumeli ukuba siphumelele kwaye sizityebi. Umntu unokwazi ukwenza imizamo ye-titanic ukufezekisa injongo, kodwa u-subconscious wakhe uya kumelana. Ngokomzekelo, wafundiswa ebuntwaneni ukuba "ayikho kwimali" ukuba ubutyebi abuphiwe ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ukuba kufezekiswe into ethile, umntu "kufuneka ahambe ezidumbu". Okanye kukho ukukholelwa ngaphakathi ukuba ukuba ufumana into, ngoko into iya kulahleka ngokukhawuleza. Okanye kwintsapho kwathathwa ukuba iphumelele kwaye ityebile ukungathembeki kwaye ayiyithandi. Ziqonde wena. Ukuba unzulu kwi-subconsciousness yakho, umnqweno omnye unxamnye nomnye, ukuba kukho ukukhutshwa kweenkcubeko, ukuphumelela akuyi kufezwa.
Imali kunye nempumelelo iyakwazi ukuza kumntu oqhelekileyo, omoya wakhe ongokomoya ulinganiseleyo kunomntu osebenza nzima, ochasene nokuphikisana kwangaphakathi. Ngaphambi kokuzama ukutsala impumelelo, hlambulula ingqondo yakho engqondweni, izimo zengqondo kunye nemigaqo ehamba endleleni. Khumbula ukuba "kuyisono sokuba sisityebi," ukuba umntu ophumelelayo "ungumtyholi enyameni" okanye ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, imali "yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini." Ingcamango yobutyebi ayiyi kuba yinto enhle. Emva koko yonke into iya kuxhomekeka ekubeni uya kukwazi ukugcina iimpawu zakho zokomoya, ulandela indlela yokuphumelela. Kodwa oku kuhluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuphelisa "imivumba"
Ingaba uyazi ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba i-cockroach iqhubela kwiindawo ezilukhuni zepaneli yokulawula i-missile ngenjongo yocwangciso? Ewe, nantoni na, nantoni na! Eminye "imikhosi" engabonakaliyo kuthi elowo kuthi, inokusonakalisa ubomi bethu imihla ngemihla. Ngokubamba "iindiza" ezinjalo ezikuthintela ukuba uphumelele, ngokukhawuleza uza kufunda ukukwenza.
Thatha iphepha, hlala phantsi kwaye ucinge malunga nantoni na "iibhloko" ezihlala phantsi kwengqondo yakho engathandekiyo kukuthintela ekuphuculeni impumelelo kunye nobutyebi. Yintoni oza kuyifumana - bhala. Zonke izinto oza kukwazi ukuzihlukanisa ngale ndlela ziya kuhamba ngokuzenzekelayo ukusuka "kungenakuqonda" kwindawo yokufakela ingqalelo. Oko kukuthi, unokwazi ukugqiba isigqibo kuwe oko kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe - ukugcina oku okanye okokusetha okanye ukuwulahlekisa uze ufezekise oko ufuna.
Khetha indawo ezolileyo kunye nexesha apho kungekho mntu unokukuphazamisa. Beka ipeni ecaleni kwayo kunye namaphepha ambalwa ephepha. Hlala emva ngokukhululekile ukwenzela ukuba izinto ezincinane ezifana ne-numb nogiiali ukukhathala emhlane wakho awuphazamiseki. Iingcamango zangaphandle zangaphandle, kugxininise (yinkxalabo - into ephambili kule nkqubo "yokufuna impumelelo"). Bhala umbuzo onokukhathazeka kakhulu ngobomi bakho. Ngokomzekelo, "kutheni ndihlala ndingenawo imali" okanye "kutheni impumelelo ingafiki kum". Emva koko, iqabunga lahlulwe ngamakholomu amathathu kwaye siwaphethelela: "Ndiyintoni na?" (Sisebenza ngeemvakalelo), "Ndiyicinga ntoni?" (Sisebenza ngeengcamango) kwaye "Ndiyayiphatha njani le nto?" (Senza umsebenzi wehlabathi).
Oko uza kubhala kwiikholamu kuya kuba yimvakalelo yakho, iingcinga kunye nesimo malunga nombuzo wakho okwangoku. Qhubeka uphendula ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukubetha komgca. Bhala ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kokucinga, iimpendulo zingaphendulwa ngexesha elinye. Musa ukuphazanyiswa, ungene kwi-monologue yangaphakathi-ukulahleka kweengcamango kuya kunciphisa zonke iziphumo zakho. Yintoni ekupheleni? Uyabona ukuba ingxaki yakho ingxaki. Uza kukhupha zonke "iindile" zakho ezivela ngaphantsi komhlaba, i-gdespravitsya nayo iya kuba lula kunanini ngaphambili. Le nqubo iyasebenza kakhulu, kodwa kufuneka yenziwe ngokungathí sina - iyinzululwazi, kungekhona i-clownery.
Zonke ezi ngasentla azikho umyalelo ochanekileyo, apho uya kuphumelela kwaye uyavuya. Wonke umntu ukhetha iindlela kunye nobuchule, iinjongo kunye nezindlela zokufezekisa oko akufunayo. Kodwa ukuba awunayo impawu ezifanelekileyo okanye intloko yakho iya kugcwala "iindiza" - akunakwenzeka ukuba ufezekise nantoni na, mhlawumbi ungazami. Njengoko uyazi, "ngaphantsi kwelitye elide ..." Emva koko uyazi.