Inokwenzeka ukuba, kuya kubakho uhlobo oluthile lwesimbolo sokukucaphukisa kwaye nangona kufuneka ukhulume nalo mntu ngexesha elifutshane, ngoko xa usuku lonke uya kuhanjiswa ngumvakalelo ongenalutho kwaye ungakhathazeki. Kodwa akufuneki ukufihla kwaye ufihle kula bantu. Kubalulekile ukunqanda inkqubo yakho yeentlanzi uze usebenze kakuhle kubo. Makhe silandele imigaqo yokuziphatha i-psychologists eyakhele yona.
Indlela yokuthetha nabasebenzi beofisi?
Ukufutheka
Kulula ukuba kufuphi nomntu ozele umsindo. Ugubha iingalo zakhe, ekhwaza, ejikeleza egumbini, aphule kunye nomzuzu ongenakulungelekanga ukuba unako "ukukhwaza" ngelizwi elibukhali.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ukuba uhleli, kwaye "u-aggressor" wakho ukhangeleka phezu kwakho, ngoko kufuneka ume ukuze umntu angakukhuseli ngale ndlela. Mkhangela ngombono omfutshane uze uthi: "Kakade, ulungile, kwaye unesizathu sokucaphuka kum." Yaye amagama akho okuqala aya kumisa umgca womsindo, kuba ufuna ukuthulula kakhulu kuwe, kodwa akazange anikwe ithuba elinjalo. Xa ulwaphulo luyancitshiswa, kuyimfuneko ukuqhubeka: "Uyandithuka xa uthetha nam ngelizwi elinjalo." La mazwi aya kuthulisa umntu ongenalwazi, wamiselwa ukuba akucaphukise, kodwa akanalo isibindi sokuyivuma.
Ukunyanisela
Kukho abantu abamoyikayo utshintsho oluthile ebomini, baze batyeke. La bantu bakhuphazwa ukuba bakhuphe iindlebe kwaye bathanda ukucinga izinto. Ziyaziqhayisa kunye nabanye, zikhupha imifanekiso engacatshangelwayo kwiingcamango zabo. Xa uxoxe nomntu onjalo, uzive ungenamandla kwaye uxhalabile. Abo bazama ukuphula ingcamango engalunganga benza iphutha, kuba i-alarm ye-panic iyanda kuphela, kwaye yonke into iphinda iphinda iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde ibuye.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Buza ngokukhawuleza lo mntu ukuba kuyintoni into emkhathazayo. Kwaye nangona oku akulula, kodwa kufuneka uphulaphule uze ubuze umbuzo: "Ngaba kukho esinye isicwangciso seemeko? "Ukuba le nto ayiyikuzola ukuphazamiseka, buza umbuzo:" Yintoni ongayenza ukutshintsha imeko? ". Kuhlala nje ukulinda ngomonde iziphumo zeemeko. Umntu uya kufumana ukhetho olufanelekileyo, kwaye umsebenzi uya kucima i-alamu.
Ukuthetha?
Abantu bakhathele kakhulu bathetha. Ukukwazi ukuthetha nokuthetha kuyamangalisa, kwaye akunandaba nokuba uthetha ntoni, musa ukuthula. Babonakala becinga ngokuzwakalayo. Indoda enjalo ngokunyamezela kwayo iya kubangela ukuba umntu atshise.
Yintoni abaphulaphuli abayenzayo?
Xa ukuqala komlomo kuqala, kufuneka ukhangele kumntu othetha naye ngamehlo akho aze ambize ngegama. Makhe ayenze into ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye akuxelele kwisiqingatha somzuzu. Ukuba le sivunguvungu sisisigxina, mxelele ukuba athathe ikhefu, kwaye umnike imizuzu emihlanu ukuxoxa. Ungatsho ukuba uphatha uxakeke kwaye ucele ukubonisa ingcamango ebhaliweyo.
Zizonke iintshaba
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu uyakuzonda. Uyanqabisa, uyabhoxa, ahlabe. Yaye le ndlela iya kuhlala ihamba.
Zakho izenzo
Abantu abakwiimeko ezinjalo benza ngokusemgangathweni - indlela abasiphatha ngayo, ngoko siya kwenza, kodwa oku kwandisa kuphela inzondo. Awudingi ukufumana ubuhlobo. Masenze okuchaseneyo. Buza umbuzo: "Yintoni eyenzekayo? "Ukuba yonke into ihlala njengaphambili, qhubeka nezwi elizolileyo:" Ndiyazi ukuba ndiyakucasula. Ndingayitshintsha njani indlela endiyenza ngayo ukuze undiphathe kangcono? "Ingundoqo yombuzo kunye nephuli lokuzola kuyokhokelela umchasi ukuba abe neentloni, kuba usebenzisa ukukwenza konke ngasese. Akayilungele incoko evulekileyo nevulekileyo.
Gcwalisa ukungakhathaleli
Abantu abanefilosofi efanayo bazama ukungabandakanyeki kwimicimbi yabo ngenxa yokuba bengathandi ukuthetha. Akunandaba nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ngeenxa zonke. Bakha banda, banengqiqo, bengafani. Abazi indlela yokuva novelwano novelwano. Kuyinto enomdla kakhulu ukuba basebenze kunye nomshishini kunye neenjinini kunabantu.
Njani ukusabela?
Eyona nto iphezulu. Umntu onjalo kufuneka ashiywe yedwa. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuthetha, mcele ukuba akuncede uqonde ezinye zeemeko zakho. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kufumana kuye iingcebiso ezixabisekileyo.
Ndingowona nto, ngowona nto
Abantu abanjalo bahlala bebonakala. Kodwa ukuqhayisa kwabo rhoqo kukucaphukisa kunye namathayi.
Iingcebiso
Kufuneka iinqwelo ezikhuselekileyo apha. Kufuneka uvumelane nalo mntu, ngaphandle koko awuyi kuvakala. Emva koko sebenzisa iphimbo elibukhali uze umxelele ukuba wonke umntu sele esele akhathele ukuphulaphula ubungqina bokuba unamandla kakhulu. Kodwa umntu onjalo akakwazi ukulimala kakhulu ngelizwi. Inentloko yakhe iphela kuphela into edibene nodumo.
Kuyaziwa indlela yokuthetha ngokuchanekileyo kunye nabasebenzi beeofisi. Ukuxhotyiswa ngala macebiso kwaye unakekele iingxaki zakho. Uziva ukhulu kwaye kuba baninzi abantu abalungileyo nabalungileyo abakuzungezile ngokunokwenzeka.