Ikhulu leminyaka nesiqingatha esidlulileyo, isazi sefilosofi saseJamani u-Arthur Schopenhauer sabhala ukuba "abafazi babakho kuphela ukusasazeka kwintsapho, kwaye le yeso sizathu sokuqeshwa kwabo. Abaphandi benkulungwane ye-XX, ngokuchasene - baye baxela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ubuchopho besifazane buya kwingozi, uxinzelelo kunye nezinye izinto ezixakekileyo ekuqhubekeni kwezoshishino ezahlukeneyo kunendoda. Ingqondo yomntu iyodwa, igalelo ekugxinineni emsebenzini othile ngexesha elide. Ingqondo yomfazi ibhekane ngokulula nezinto eziliqela ngexesha elifanayo. Ngako oko, kwikamva, iinkampani ziya kuphumelela ngakumbi, kwinqanaba le-aphokazikazi, abanokubona iinjongo zoshishino, kunye nazo zonke iinguqu zokuphuhliswa kwayo. Ngethuba lethu, mhlawumbi, kufuneka lifike ngexesha lobudala bokwenza umsebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, oku akukwenzeka okwamanje.
I-chromosome ityala
Enye yezinto ezixhaphakileyo kakhulu: ishishini ngumsebenzi womntu. Ngenxa yokuba ihlala ixhomekeke kumngcipheko, kwaye ubulili obubuthathaka bubonakaliswa ngumnqweno wokuzinza. Kodwa namhlanje umfazi weshishini kunye nomphathi wesifazana wanamhlanje uloyisa eli nqanaba lendoda. Enyanisweni, usebenzisa iindlela zakho. Njengoko inkokeli yeli lizwe liye lathi: "Siya kuhamba ngenye indlela." Nazi abafazi kwaye bahamba. Ngale ndlela, bekulindeleke ngombala omnye ongaphantsi kwamanzi - i-X-chromosome, eqinisweni, esenza thina bafazi.
Njengokuba umfazi weshishini kunye nomphathi wesifazana wanamhlanje engabandakanyekanga kwimfundo, akanako ukukhohlisa uhlobo lofuzo. Kodwa ukuba ukhumbule oku, okokuqala, ungayiphepha impazamo emininzi, kwaye okwesibini, ukuba uphumelele (phumela!), Nangaphezulu kunamadoda.
Kuye kwavela ukuba ulwahluko "wesondo" kwiindlela zokwenza ibhankini lubekwe kwicandelo lokuqala.
Nangona kunjalo, loo ndoda, ephuma emqolombeni, yaqalisa ukucinga kwayo. Wayebona phambi kwakhe i-expanses yendalo kwaye wayesaqonda ukuba kwakudingeka ukuzingela nokuzisa iindawo ezithintekayo ekhaya. Kulo shishini, lo mgangatho ubizwa ngokuba ngumgqwetha, oko kukuthi, ukukwazi ukuhamba ngaphaya komda wobuqu, ukuba "uphule" imida yommandla wendawo yokuthuthuzela. Emqolombeni kwakukhululekile, kodwa mna (umntu) ukuze uphumelele, kufuneka uphume kuwo, ndifumane into entsha, ufumane umphumo othile, nangona oku kuyingozi. "Ndifuna ukufumana irhamncwa, ngoko ndifunda ukuhamba kwindawo, ukuphucula ukucinga kwam." Namhlanje, ezi zimpawu zinceda umntu ukuba uphumelele kwishishini. Emva kwakho konke, ukucinga okubanzi, ukucinga kwendawo, ukukwazi ukuqikelela-iimpawu ezivumela ukuba wandise iziteshi zentengiso kwaye ufikelele kumgangatho ohlukeneyo.
Ukuphuhlisa imveliso ngokukodwa, eqinisweni, i-genome yamadoda. " Ewe, ngoxa lo mntu wayezingela, lo mfazi wayesehleli emqolombeni ngomlilo, efunda into eyayisondele kuye. Oku kuchaphazela njani ishishini ngoku? Amashishini abashishini kunye nabaphathi bamabhinqa banamhlanje bakhula inkcubeko yeenkampani, qala ukwakha iziqulatho zoshishino ngaphakathi kwenkampani, kwaye ke ke cinga nje ngokuthathwa kwimihlaba emitsha. Okokuthi, ngokwenene badala umhlaba ocebileyo ngokuzenzekelayo uphuhliso, kwaye ngaphandle kwalokhu abayi kuqhubeka.
Ngoku masiqhathanise nantoni na imidlalo ebuntwaneni esiyidlalayo. Abafana bathanda ibhola lebhola, iHockey, ibhokisi, yinto yonke ejoliswe kwisiphumo: kufuneka uphumelele ukuba ungabi ngumntu olahlekileyo. Amantombazana ayenomdla kwi "midlalo yokuzonwabisa" njengokuba "unina-ntombi", eqinisweni ayizange iphele nantoni na. Ngendlela, ukuba ibhinqa ebuntwaneni ibandakanyeka kwimidlalo, lathintela nomlingiswa wakhe, linika ingqondo isisu. Phantse bonke abafazi abaphumeleleyo bezoshishino kunye nabaphathi bamakhosikazi banamhlanje kwiminyaka yabo yokudala badlala kunye namakhwenkwe, okanye bakhuliswa ngabazali ababengamagunya abo, okanye bangena kwimidlalo kwaye sele beqaphela ukuba yonke into ebomi iinjongo kunye neziphumo.
Enye imeko echaphazela iindlela ezahlukahlukeneyo zoshishino lwabesetyhini kunye namadoda imfundo yemveli, xa abafana bebenqatshelwe ukukhala, kodwa amantombazana ayengavunyelwe ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo. Ngoku, kuvela ukuba uvakalelo, ukungakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho ngenye yeengxaki ezinkulu zekhokeli. Ewe, ukuba intombazana engaboniyo ukuba ingaziphathe njani ezandleni zayo, "iya kukhwela" - bhala. Olu buhlungu alugcini kuphela kubaphantsi kwakhe, kodwa luyingozi nakubangela. Ngenxa yendlela yakhe yokuzixhalabisa, wenza ubuninzi bezoshishino.
Kwiibambisene eziphethwe ngabafazi abanjalo, ngokukodwa abaninzi babo kunye nabanye.
Umphathi ujikeleza ngezilwanyana eziphathekayo, ezichaphazela umgaqo-nkqubo wabasebenzi kunye nazo zonke iinkqubo zoshishino. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba ngenxa yabasebenzi abanobuchule kunye nabanelisayo abanokushiya umbutho. Ngenxa yokuba "abo basondelene nomzimba kaKumkanikazi" baba luhlobo lwezinto eziphathekayo phakathi kwenkokheli kunye neqela, bamxelela ezindlebeni kuphela ngolwazi afuna ukuliva, kungekhona oko kwenzekayo. Ukongezelela, ngokwemvelo, ibhinqa lixhomekeke kwimiba. Kwaye oku kunempembelelo embi kumsebenzi. Kwimeko embi angayiguqula umqeshwa kwisithixo ibe ngumntu okhutshiwe, udibanise ngokoqobo ngothuli. Kungenxa yokuba ezinye zezenzo zakhe, nangona azinxulumene nomsebenzi, wayengathandi okanye umntu "wahlabelela" ezindlebeni. Nantsi indoda-mlawuli ngaphambi kokuba umonakalo onjalo, njengomthetho, awuyi kuhla, njengomfazi weshishini kunye nomphathi womfazi wesimanje.
Intloko yobudlova inokuxolelwa, kunye nabamabhizinisi kunye nabasetyhini banamhlanje kubaphathi bomqhushumo weemvakalelo eziwonakalisayo-akakho. Ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuhleka, ukuchazela ekunqumeni kwimiqathango, into yokuba athi, "ayithandi." Okokuthi, ukuba umntu uyabangela ukwesaba, ngoko umfazi ujika abe yinto yokuhleka nokunyeliswa kwabangaphantsi. Ngoko iqela liyakha iqela layo, elichasene ne-chefina. Ngoko ke, ukuba ibhinqa ifuna ukuba yinkokeli entle, kuya kufuneka ifunde ukulawula iimvakalelo, isebenze umgudu omkhulu wokuziphucula ngokwabo, kunokuba yindoda engumyeni wayo. Kodwa ukuba wenza lo msebenzi wangaphakathi, uya kukwazi ukufikelela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ngakumbi kunomlingane wakhe wesilisa. I-classicist ye-Marxism yathi umfazi unamandla ebuthathaka bakhe. Kodwa kungekho kwishishini.
Ukukhonza kuya kuvuya ...
Kodwa, ukuba unganikezi ngokukhululeka kwiimvakalelo, ngoko ke, ekuphumeni, kuvela, kunenzuzo ngakumbi ukwenza njengowesifazane oyinyaniso. UJim Collins, umbhali wezinye iincwadi zezona zorhwebo ezintle ngokwembono kwiphephancwadi laseForbes, ukholelwa ukuba namhlanje kufuneka sitshintshe amaqhinga okuphumeza impumelelo. Kwakunjani ngaphambili? Ekuqaleni injongo yayizimisele, kwaye phantsi kwayo iqela laqashwa. Ngomsebenzi othi "Ukuphuma Okulungileyo Kuya Kukhulu," uColins uthi kufuneka wenze okuphambene noko: ukuqokelela abantu abanjengengqondo, baya kugqiba ulwalathiso, kwaye baya kuba nako ukudala zonke iimeko zokunqoba. Enyanisweni, le ndlela yindlela yokwabafazi kuphela. Ladies kuqala ukwakha izibophelelo ezinqamlekileyo, kwaye emva koko uhambe kwinjongo ekujoliswe kuyo. Ngokungafani namadoda athile axhomekeke kwimiphumo yomsebenzi, kwaye abanomdla kwi microclimate kwiqela. Abasetyhini bakhetha abasebenzi ngokuhambelana kwabantu, ukuze iqela liququzelelwe kakuhle. Kwaye oku kuyintloko kwimpumelelo.
Ngaphezu koko , abaqeqeshi bezoshishino bancomela ukuba inkampani ivelise iqela ukuba liphumelele kwiindawo eziphakamileyo. Uvelwano - ukukwazi ukuvakalelwa. Okokuthi, inkokeli ngokumalunga nabaphantsi kwayo kufuneka ibe yinkwenkwe yecala, kunye nenkokeli-nkokheli, njengelulekisiwe, umzekelo, ngenye yeenkwenkwezi zeenkokheli ezona zihlonelwa kakhulu emhlabeni jikelele uStephen Covey. Uxela ukuba umphathi omhle, ngokuchasene nomzekelo omdala we-"kroti kunye nokunamathela" ubunkokheli, kufuneka abakhuthaze abantu ngexesha lethu, basebenzise iinjongo zabo zangaphakathi, bakhuphe ukuxhamla ngokomzwelo komqeshwa kwinkampani nakwi shishini. Olu hlobo lolawulo "umlingane-mlingane-ubawo" - isiseko esihle kakhulu sokuvumelanisa ubudlelwane kwiqela kunye nezoshishino. Kwaye oku kukuphela kwabasetyhini! O, asinakulingana nokukwazi kwethu ukuvakalelwa.
Ewe. Kodwa ke abafazi banokubanjelwa ngengozi yokungcolisa le ndlela, ukusuka kwintsebenziswano ukuba ibe ngumama, inkukhu, "- uxwayisa uTatiana Ivanova. Kwaye ke abaphantsi baya kuqala ukuxhaphaza umphathi onjalo, kuba baya kubona amathintelo akhe: "Hayi, xa ndikwazi ukunyamezela, u-chefina waya kunddihlangabeza, unokwenza oko okwesibini neyesithathu." Awukwazi ukuwela lo mgca. Okanye nje ngomhla omnye uya kufuneka ubeke abaphantsi. Ukuba uziva ukuba uhleli ekhanda lakho, udinga ukumncinca ebusweni bakho (oku kuyimfuneko!), Hlonipha kwaye ngokuzenzekelayo udibanise "i". Chaza into ongayithandiyo kule meko. Oku kuya kuba sekugxeka ngokukhawuleza xa ungahambi kubantu ngabanye, kodwa uthetha ngezizathu zokuba kutheni umcimbi ongeyithandi.
Ukuba ndinguye ukumkanikazi
Umfazi weshishini kunye nomphathi wesifazana wanamhlanje uya kwiqela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye kuxhomekeke kulo, kufuneka akhe ubuhlobo kunye neqela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Makhe sibone indlela.
Isimo esisodwa: sakhula esihlangeneyo. Kule meko, ingxaki ebalulekileyo kukukwakha isitayela esitsha sobudlelwane kunye nabangaphantsi koobani abasebenza nabo izolo. Ndiza kufuneka ndilahle izibophelelo ezindala kwaye ndibuye ndibuyiselwe isangqa samantombazana. Umphathi onjalo ufuna ukukhawulela umda wabo ngokukhawuleza kwaye aqinisekise isimo sakhe somntu. Ubunzima abuyi kulahlekelwa nguvelwano lwalamano. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufuneka sikwenze kucacile: "Ndihlala ndikulungele ukuphulaphula!" Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukubeka umda ocacileyo, into enokwenzeka kwaye into engavumelekanga kwabangaphantsi.
Ekuqeqeshweni ndihlala ndithi amabhinqa namabhinqa anamhlanje ukuba abaphathi ukuba intlanganiso yabo yokuqala kwisithuba esitsha kufuneka sinikelwe kwiqendu lezakhono: "Unoxanduva lwaloo nto, kwaye ungoko. Kwaye mna, maantombazana, ndivavanya umsebenzi wenu kwizinto ezinjalo. " Umphathi-nqununu kufuneka anqume iimfuno ezifunekayo bonke: uqeqesho, ukugcina ixesha, ukunyaniseka, ukunyanzeliswa kwaye akukho "maqhinga amabhinqa", oko kukuthi, iimvakalelo, ukuhleka, iingxoxo kunye neelayibhile. Okwesibini: kufuneka atshethe ngokukhawuleza ukuba asebenze kunye naye, kodwa "kusuka": ukulumkisa into ayengayifuni kwiqela lakhe. Okwesithathu, ukuba umphathi-ntloko kufuneka athi kwintlanganiso yokuqala: "Ndikulungele ukuba ngumlingane wakho. Kodwa masivumelane nawe: Ndiyakwazi kwaye ndikhuthaze oku, kodwa andiyi kuphulaphula izinto ezinjalo eofisini yam, kuba lilimaza ishishini lethu eliqhelekileyo. " Eyona nto inomdla kukuba uninzi olutsha olwenziwe ngokuthi "Lady Boss" luba neentlanganiso ezinjalo, kodwa ke akusiyo yonke into ephumelelayo ngokunamathela kule migaqo. Kwakhona ngenxa yentsholongwane yabasetyhini.
Iimeko ezimbini : "inkwenkwezi yeendwendwe". Kulawulo lwangoku, sele sele beyeke ukukhwela kwindwendwe yeenkokeli ezimema "ezivela ngaphandle." Kukholelwa ukuba kunenzuzo kakhulu ukukhula ngabaqeqeshi ngaphakathi kweqela. Inyaniso kukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu unenzuzo kangakanani, uya kuyidinga malunga neyure nesiqingatha ukuze aqonde umsebenzi wenkampani. Ngenxa yoko iingxaki ezimbini ze-"wamenywa" inkokeli entsha: ukumisela isimo semeko njengengcali egcina imali yakhe, kunye nokujoyina iqela ukuba libonwe njengelungu leqela. Apha kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba nayiphi i-broom iyayiqonda i-twig. Umfazi weshishini kunye nomphathi wesifazane wamanje ufanele adibane nelungu ngalinye leqela, uthethe naye, ufumene ukuba yiziphi iinjongo azibeka yona kwiinkampani, ufumene intshukumo yakhe yangaphakathi.
Yintoni eyinkimbinkimbi yimeko enjalo kumphathi? Inkampani mhlawumbi yayinabenzi bezicelo kule ndawo. Ngoko ke, into yokuqala yokwenza ukuqhuba ukuhlonipha nokufumanisa ukuba ngubani laba bantu. "Ukuba ndiyindlovukazi, ndiya kubamema eofisini ndize ndithi:" Amantombazana (okanye amakhwenkwe), kwenzeka ... Andizange ndiwele umnqweno, bekuyinkcazo yobunkokeli obuphezulu. Kodwa ndifuna ukukuqinisekisa ukuba ndiya kwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze ndikhululeke kunye nam. Ukuba uzibonile kwesi sikhundla, ngoko, uyayifanele. " Kwaye ke abafaki-sicelo be-ex-chair of your should be given a maximum preferences, ezinye iiprojekthi ezizimeleyo, ukuze zibonise ngokwazo.
Gxi ninisa kwiintlanganiso ziphi na iingcali ezihloniphekileyo. Oko kukuthi, into yokuqala yokuyenza kukuba ufikelele kubo. Kodwa ukuba awuboni impendulo, ngaphezu koko, uya kuqonda ukuba ukumkani uhamba, zama ngoncedo loluntu (kwaye kungekhona) ukukhokelela wonke umntu ekugqibeleni ukuba aba bantu baxosha inkampani ngezenzo zabo.
Isimo sesithathu: umnini wezoshishino, Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza ngokuphindaphindiweyo malunga "nesandla sensimbi kwisigodi sevelvet", kunye nokulawulwa kwemvakalelo, kunye novelwano lwentsebenziswano. Yongeza nje kunye nomgaqo obizwa ngokuba ngumhlaba - umntu njengomntu ohlala ehlala evikela indawo yawo.
Ngoko ke, kwishishini, akufanele utyabele kwizihlobo kunye nabahlobo. Le yiphutha elibulalayo elibiza indleko kuninzi. Enyanisweni, umphathi omhle nguye ovela kubantu abangaziwayo odala iqela labantu abafanayo kunye nabahlobo. Umongameli ozama ukuphazamisa iqela kubathandekayo bakhe kwaye ekugqibeleni uyakulahleka ubudlelwane bobuhlobo kunye nobuchule.
Ekugqibeleni, akuyona into engathandekiyo ukuthetha malunga "nendlela engafaniyo" kubantu abaphantsi. Kukho inkolelo yokuba kunzima ukuba ibhinqa likhokele amadoda. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abafazi baya kuthetha ukuba akufani. Amadoda anganxolela umphathi othile ubuthathaka bentombi aze abone njengoluhlobo lwenkohliso. Into ephela, inkokeli enjalo kufuneka ifike ngokukhawuleza kwaye icacise ngokucacileyo isimo sayo kwiqela, kwaye ke amadoda angaphantsi aya kuqala ukuyiqonda njengenkokeli. Kwimisebenzi yabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini banamhlanje "ukunyusa igunya" kunzima kakhulu, isondo esibuthakathaka asihlonitshiswa sisihlalo, kodwa ngeempawu zobuntu. Ngoko ke, kunye nabafazi baya kufuneka babe nokwakha ubudlelwane ngabanye. Enyanisweni, yenzele ingxelo nganye yeengqondo kwaye kwinkqubo yobunkokheli isebenzise izikhuthazo zabo: i-ambitious - ukuphakamisa kwindawo ejongene nobunzima bezezimali - ukunika ithuba lokufumana imali eyongezelelweyo. Into ephambili kwiqela labesetyhini kukudala umoya wokuthembela nokuqonda. Emva koko unokulindela ukuba umsebenzi ngamnye "kunye nehashe kwindawo yokumisa iya kumisa, kwaye ungene kwindawo yokutshisa."