Xa kwenzeka ummangaliso, akukho mntu uyazi ngaphambili. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu ulindela le mvakalelo kwiminyaka emininzi, kodwa ayifuni entliziyweni yakhe. Kodwa kuya kwenzeka ngokuhlukileyo ... "Kwaye kwirekta, unyana wam wathandana nentombazana evela kwiqela. Wayithwala iifomese, amathoyizi, kodwa intombazana yayingathandi ukuthetha naye. Kwafika ekubeni uMisha waqala ukulala kakubi ebusuku. Utitshala wathi wawa phantsi phambi kwe ntombazana, ngoko wamvumela ukuba ahlale naye. Ndazama ukuthetha nabazali bakaNastya, kodwa bathi intombi yabo uMisha ayithandi intombi yabo kwaye abanakukunceda. Kwaye kwafuneka ukuba uthumele iMisha esikolweni ukususela kwiminyaka emithandathu, ngoko akazange aphinde ahlangane noNastya. U-Misha usuqale ukulibala ngokuthanda kwakhe "olungonwabi", kodwa kulo nyaka uNastya naye waya esikolweni, ndiloyiko ukuba le nto iya kuba yintlungu engqondweni yengane yakhe, mhlawumbi idlulisele kwesinye isikolo? "
Ngaba ukhumbule amaqhawe efilimu "Awuzange uphuphe" - inkwenkwe nentombazana enothando, abazali babo ababengafuni ukuba abantwana babo badibane? Ingxelo yokugqibela ye drama ethi "Romeo noJuliet"? Kukho imizekelo emininzi yokuphazamiseka kwabazali ekubudlelwaneni kwabantwana kukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi. Sivame ukunyamekela iimvakalelo zezingane zethu. Sicinga ukuba azinzulu, kwaye siyaqiniseka ukuba baya kudlula ngokukhawuleza. Umnqweno wokuqala wabazali-ukunceda umntwana wabo-ekugqibeleni, ekugqibeleni, kwisigqibo sokunqanda, ukungavumeli, ukuthatha ... Kodwa unokukunqanda njani okanye kukuthande? Ukuphepha ingxaki, awukwazi ukuyicombulula. Iindlela ezinjalo zingakhokelela ekubeni umntwana, ukufihla iimvakalelo zakhe, akasayi kuphinda amethembe abantu bakhe abemi, abayi kubacebisana nabo. Kwaye umnqweno womzali "wokubeka iintlobo" akunakwenzeka ukukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into - kwimeko yothando ngaphandle kweenqonqa azinako ukwenza, ingakumbi ukususela kumntwana kuba lubuchule obunxulumene nolwalamano lwabantu. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba yintoni indima omdala eya kudlala kulo mzuzu onzima kumntwana: umhlobo onokuthenjwa ngokufihlakeleyo, okanye intshaba, apho ufuna ukuphuma khona ngokukhawuleza.
Ngaba siya kuthetha?
Ukuba, emva kwayo yonke into, kwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho wokuqala uza kuwe, kwaye ngaphandle koko, uthando olungathandabuzekiyo, okokuqala, fumana amandla, umonde kunye nexesha lokuthetha ngokuthe ngqo naye. Ukuphazamisa umntwana ukusuka othandweni lokuqala, mema ukuba enze imidlalo ekhangayo, udlale nabahlobo. Khumbula uthando lwakho lokuqala, mxelele oko uvakalelwa ngoko, oko wakucinga ngako, ukuba ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo naloo mntu wenziwa njani (okanye akazange ahlakulele). Ingane iyakwazi ukuqonda nokuphulaphula amagama akho kwimeko apho ibali lakho livakalelwa ngokomzimba kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, linyanisekileyo. Ngexesha le ncoko, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba kukuthi, abantu abadala, ukuchonga umzila oya kushiya uthando lokuqala kumphefumlo womntwana. Mhlawumbi, kwantoni, iimvakalelo zabantwana ziya kubonakala zingenangqiqo kwaye zihlekise, kodwa enyanisweni, iimvakalelo zabantwana ziba nzima nakakhulu kunabantu abadala. Ngako oko, ngendlebe nodliwano-ndlebe nomntwana kufuneka ube ngumncinci kunomntu omdala. Ukugculelwa, ukungaqondi kakuhle kwabazali kunokubangela ukuba umntwana abe nengqondo yengqondo, kwaye ukuziva ungaphantsi kungadla ngokubandezeleka, ukuxinezeleka. Uloyiko lokukhanyeka emehlweni abo bantu luyakwazi ukubulala umnqweno wokuthanda umntwana.
Apple kwi apple
Kwiminyaka engama-5 ukuya kweyesikolo, isikolo sokuqala esikolweni kunye nesantlupheko (iminyaka engama-5 ukuya ku-9), ukuphuhliswa kwengane kuthinteke kakhulu yintsapho: abantwana balingisa uMama noTata kuyo yonke into, kubandakanywa ubudlelwane. Ukuba indoda kwintsapho iyahlonela umfazi wayo, ngoko unyana wakhe uya kubonisa ukukhathazeka ngamantombazana. Ukuba ibhinqa liyazikhwaza umyeni wayo, ngoko intombi yakhe, mhlawumbi, ayiyi kugula nabafana. Kufuneka ikhunjulwe rhoqo ukuba ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi babantwana esibafundisa oomama okanye ooyise esizayo. Yiyo yokuziphatha kwindlu ebonisa ukuba ngumntwana kwilizwe leemvakalelo zentsana. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana indlela yokwakha kakuhle ubudlelwane bakhe ngesini esahlukileyo, xa abantwana befunda ukuthanda nokwamkela uthando lomnye umntu. Musa ukuxelela umntwana: "Ewe, unayo le Nastia iya kuba ..." Amagama anjalo athobisa isimo sengqondo sokuthanda, esilungiselelwe amaqabane amaninzi.Thetha umntwana wakho ukuba ahloniphe iimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Ukuba into enothando ayifuni, kukho izizathu zezi: Mnike umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba ukuwa othandweni ngumvakalelo oqhelekileyo, umntu akufanele akamoyike aze aphephe.
Ehlabathini leemvakalelo
Ukufumana uthando lokuqala, abantwana abadla ngokubanzi abakwazi ukubonisa lonke umdlalo wabo neemvakalelo zabo. Umsebenzi womntu omdala kukunceda umntwana ukuba aziqhelise kwihlabathi leemvakalelo zakhe. Phakamisa umntwana ukuba asebenze kunye nemisebenzi elula yemidlalo.
"IiPtotogram"
Lungisa iziputi malunga no-5 cm ububanzi ukusuka kwikhadibhodi eninzi. Dweba imvakalelo eyahlukileyo - ukudumala, uvuyo, ukumangaliswa, ukwesaba (kufuneka kubonakale into efana nezoyi-emoticons). Ukubetha umntwana ngeemeko ezahlukahlukeneyo ezinokuthi zivelise ekuthintana naye kunye noontanga, kwaye zicebisa ukuba bakhethe ubuso obuya kulungiswa ngeli xesha.
"Umgadi"
Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba kulo mdlalo, kukho abathathi-nxaxheba aba-5-6. Mema abantwana ukuba bakhethele umfanekiso weentyatyambo - umzekelo, i-rose, i-chamomile, insimbi, i-dandelion. Qinisekisa ngoncedo lwezixhobo zokubala eziza kubakho "umyezo wegadi." Umi phakathi kwesijikelezo kwaye uthi: "Ndazalelwa njengomgadi wegadi, ndathukuthela, zonke iintyatyambo zandikhathaza ngaphandle kwe ...". U-Astra uthi: "Oo!" Umgadi wegadi: "Yintoni enomsebenzi kuwe?" Astra: "Ngothando ..." Umgadi wegadi: "Ngubani?" Astra: "KuVasilka!" Vasilek: "Oh ...", njl njl. Lo mdlalo ufundisa abantwana ukuphendula ngokomoya, ukunyamezela.
"Thumbelina"
Phinda uhlaziye kunye nalo lonke udaba lwe-fairy G.H. Andersen, uze unikezele ukuba ucingisise kwaye uxelele oko kwenzeka ntoni kwiThumbelina, ukuba ingxube ayinayo ixesha lokuyithatha, ukuba wayethanda i-mole, ukuba ingazange ihlangane kumaphethelo akude e-elf okanye ukuba i-elf ayithandi. Ukuzisa iindlela zokuphuhlisa isakhelo, umntwana uya kufunda ukuguquguquka, ukukwazi ukujonga imeko kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zokujonga. Ngenkwenkwe, kungabandakanyeka ukuba "I-Thumbelina", kodwa, umzekelo, "Sigxina iSoldier".
IThethani Yothando
Ukwenza kube lula ukuqonda amava omntwana, unokwenza umdlalo ololo hlobo kunye naye. Phakamisa ukuqala kweengxelo: "Ngesinye isikhathi kwakukho intsana encinane. Wayenabangane abaninzi, kunye namantombazana, evuya, enamandla, ehamba, efana naye. I-Puppy yayiyithanda intwazana eyayihlala edieni. Intsana yayinhle kakhulu, kodwa ikhuseleka ... Yaye intshontsho yathandana naye. Wadibana nenqana waza waqala ukudlala naye. Kodwa abahlobo bamantombazana bamhleka bathi: "Uyinja! Udlala yiphi ikati? "Ngenye imini intsana ..." Makhe umntwana aqhubeke nebali. Ukuphulaphula ngokucophelela impendulo - yiyiphi iindlela azakuyikhethayo: uya kuhamba kunye nabahlobo okanye uya kuzikhusela ilungelo lokuzikhethela kwakhe? Unqabana ebusweni kunye nesidalwa sakhe esithandayo okanye ufumana indlela yokuxolelana nabahlobo abangabikho kwisangqa sabo. Kwintombazana, tshintsha abalinganiswa benkcazelo yamanqaku kwezinye iindawo: i-kitten ifuna ukuba ngabahlobo kunye nesilwanyana esinamandla nesilumko. Kufuneka uqaphelwe yi-final, apho intsapho inqaba ukuthetha nentetho. Jabulela umntwana, ukuba ufike kunye nendlela yokudibanisa namanye amantombazana enentaka (umzekelo, uqalise umdlalo jikelele).
Masifunde
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba iingcebiso zabazali zamukelwe ngumntwana onobundlobongela. Ukholelwa ukuba akaqondakali, kodwa ufuna ukufumana umntu oza kuziva iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezifanayo. Imali iya kuza ngokuhlakanipha kwaye inomusa ... incwadi malunga nothando. Xa umntwana efunda ezininzi, uqala ukuvelisa iimpawu zale ncwadi, kwaye oku kuncedisa ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yakhe. Yaye xa abazali kunye nosana behlalutya oko bakufundayo, iimvuthu ziphinde zihlakulele ingqiqo kunye neengqondo. Abantwana beminyaka yobudala bezemfundo baya kuqonda ibali likaS.T. Aksakov "I-Flower Scarlet." Kubonisa indlela uthando oluvelisa ngayo umntu ngomsebenzi wemfanelo, uxanduva kunye nokuguqula i-monster ibe ngumntu.
Inkcazo eyaziwa ngokuba yi-S. Perrot "iCinderella" ifundisa ukuba uthando aluyinyamezeli ukuhaha, ubuxoki kwaye bukhokelela ekuphumelelweni kobulungisa nokulungileyo. Kwimbali yeG. X. Andersen "Swineherd" inkosana ilungele ngenxa yokuthanda ukwenza imihlatshelo emininzi, kodwa ngenxa yothando Ingaphandle exaza Xoxani ngokufunda nomntwana, buze isizathu sokuba inkosana inqabe uthando lomncinci, othanda amaqhawe.
Kwabafundi besikolo, nikela ukufunda ibali likaVictor Dragunsky "Intombazana ebholeni" (ukusuka kwi "Deniskin Stories"), umbhali uchaze ngokuchanekileyo amava ayenomvakalelo yenkwenkwe ehambelana nolwazi lothando lokuqala. Ibali liza kunceda abazali nabazali baqonde kangcono. Qaphela indlela uyihlo avakalelwa ngayo ngonyana wakhe. Funda iindinyana "abadala" kunye nosana, nangona umntwana engakwazi ukuwaxabisa iisampula zeengqungquthela eziphezulu ze-Anna Akhmatova, uSergei Yesenin, iimvakalelo neemvakalelo ezizalwe ngothando olumnandi luya kuhanjiswa kuye.