Ngaba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi


Ehlabathini kukho ubudlelwane obuhlukeneyo phakathi kwabantu. Kwaye enye yezinto eziphambili uthando nothando. Ubuhlobo buhlukaniswe kwiintlobo ezintathu eziyinhloko: ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini kunye nobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Iingqondi zithi, ubuhlobo buvelisa uthando. Ubuhlobo yinto eqaqambileyo kwihlabathi. Idibanisa abantu kwaye ibenza babe namandla kwaye banamandla emoyeni. Enye yemibuzo enomdla kukuba ngaba ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi?

Mhlawumbi ikhoyo, yinto encinane kakhulu. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi akakwazi ukuba khona, ngaphandle kokuba unomdla kumadoda, ngokunjalo uthetha okwesibhakabhaka, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi unokuthi umntu onjalo ubizwa ngokuba ngumntu, akayena na umfazi onobudoda? Kwaye ukuba unomhlobo we-orientation engavumelani nayo, ke kuphela uya kukuxelela inyaniso ukuba ubonakala upholile, kwaye akayi kukuxelela ukuba unconywe, ukukutsala ukuba ulale. Yaye ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi abakwazi ukuba khona, kuba elinye lala maqela liza kuba livakalelwa iimvakalelo ezingaphezu kobuhlobo.

Yaye nangona ubuhlobo bukhona phakathi kokuchasene ezimbini, ngoko luya kuphela ngomtshato. Kwaye kungcono ukutshata nomhlobo kunomthandi. Emva koko, ubuhlobo buhlala buninzi ngaphezu kwothando. Uthando lunokubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwaye nje ngokukhawuleza luyabhubha, kwaye ubuhlobo buhlala ixesha elide. Ndandisoloko ndikholelwa ekubeni nobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, ekugqibeleni umntu uba nobulumko kwaye abe neengqiqo aze aqale ukuqonda izinto ezininzi. Kwaye ke ukuba unomhlobo, yesazi ukuba yena okanye unayo iimvakalelo. Kwaye kutheni kufanele ukudibanisa le mibini.

Yintoni ubuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini? Ubuhlobo phakathi kwabasetyhini ngumlinganiselo omkhulu wokukhawuleza, ukukhwabanisa ngamanga, kunye nokufafaza ngobuqili, ubuncinane ngoko kubonwa. Mhlawumbi kukho ubuhlobo bokwenene phakathi kwabasetyhini, kodwa kuphela kwimiboniso yeefilimu okanye kwiingqungquthela zabasetyhini abathi abantu bathi. Kodwa khumbula ngubani na oza kubelana nawe ngetampu ngexesha elifanelekileyo kuwe, ngubani oza kugubungela umva wakho, xa ufuna ukuthetha amanga nomntu oye wachitha ubusuku kunye nentombazana eya kuhamba nawe kwiklabhu okanye uya kubelana ngetekisi elihle kakhulu - ngumhlobo. Ubuhlobo obuncinci besifazana bunokuthathwa njengoluqhagamshelwano nabantu abanomdla kwiimeko ezithile, ezihlala ixesha elide. Xa le meko iyanyamalala, ngoko umnxeba wabantu abanomdla uya ku-zero. Kodwa emva koko, kwakukho uqhagamshelwano, kwakukho ubungqina. Ubuhlobo bungeke buphele, sinjalo. Ebudeni bobomi, ngamanye amaxesha siyalibala ngabahlobo, nangona ngeli xesha baya kuhlala besikhumbule. Mhlawumbi, ubuhlobo babesifazane kuphela busekwe kulo mgaqo, kodwa ubuhlobo ngokubanzi.

Yaye yintoni ubuhlobo besilisa? Uthando lwebhola kunye nabasetyhini, ukukhuseleka phambi kwengqondo yabasetyhini kunye nobuhle kunye nesidingo sokuqinisekisa ngokubaluleka komntu. Ukuhamba kunye nokuzingela, ukuhleka ngamabhinqa kunye neengxaki zabo kunye nokuthetha ngezimoto nemidlalo. Konke oku kukho ubuhlobo babasetyhini - ukuhamba ngeentengiso, ukuhleba ngamadoda kunye nobuthathaka babo, ukuthetha ngabadlali besondo kunye neendlela ezintsha zokulwa imibimbi. Kukholelwa ukuba ubuhlobo besilisa buhlobo oluqinileyo kwihlabathi. Kwaye inkazana iyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, esekelwe ngobuqhetseba. Kuphela apha ubuhlobo besilisa, naye, bunemiphumo. Xa umhlobo edangalisa umngane kumhlobo wakhe, okanye umphose kwindawo engathandekiyo - ngaba oku kubonwa ngaba buhlobo bokwenene? Ewe, kubuhlobo besetyhini, naye, konke oku kukuthi - ukuhleba, ukuthetha emva komhlobo, ukungcatsha kwendoda nentombi. Ubuhlobo besilisa abufani nentsapho yabesifazane, kwaye akukho nanye yale mihlobo yobunqwenela ithathwa njengento engcono kunomnye.

Ubungane yinto ebalulekileyo yobomi. Sonke siphupha ngobuhlobo obunokwethenjelwa, bomhlobo ongenakuze asishiye enkingeni, kodwa asiyikucinga konke oku? Ubuhlobo obunjalo bukhona kuphela kwiibhayisikobho, njengothando lwangempela. Kodwa umona nokungcatsha kuboniswa kwi-cinema, kwaye zikhona ebomini. Ekubeni umona nokungcatsha kubakho ebomini, kuthetha ukuba ubuhlobo bokwenene nothando luyindawo ebomini bethu. Ewe, zikhoyo, kuphela kufuneka ukholelwe kwaye ufune, kwaye kuyafuneka ukuba ufumane ukuba usebenzisa isicelo esithile. Abahlobo abalungile, kwaye ubuhlobo, abantu bahluke, neengxaki zabo kunye neziphoso, ngoko akudingeki ukuba ulinde ubuhlobo obuhle. Awudingi ukucinga ubungqina, kuba izilindelo zakho aziyikuhambelana nento.

Awunayo i-ruble ikhulu, kodwa unabangane abangamakhulu. Ndikholelwe, abahlobo abanakuba ngamakhulu amathandathu, Mhlawumbi, ukuba akukho mhlobo omnye. Namhlanje kunzima ukufumana abahlobo. Ihlabathi lethu lixutywe ebuxoki nasekukhohliseni, ukuphinda. Ngethuba lethu, abantu, abanamahloni, banandipha, kunye nobudlelwane obungcwele. Ukuphatha abantu ngokunyanisekileyo, kwaye baya kukuphendula ngendlela efanayo. Khangela ubuhlobo bokwenene uze ukholwe kuyo.