Abasetyhini abaninzi basebenza kumaqela amadoda kwaye bazi ngokwabo ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukubonakalisa amadoda abaqeqeshiweyo ukuze bakwazi ukwakha umsebenzi kunye nokufezekisa ukwanda okwenziwe ixesha elide. Amadoda ahlala esicinga ukuba nabo kunye nabalingani babo besilisa babe nobuqili, banokwazi ngakumbi, banokusebenza ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye abanqweneli ukuba baqaphele ukuba abafazi abasecaleni abavumelani nabo.
Emsebenzini, abafazi abancinci banqwenela ukwenza ishishini ngale ndlela, behlala becinga ukuzondwa kwamanye asebenza nabo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ubuchule obuninzi obuya kukunceda asebenze oogxa bakho abathandana nabo kwiintlangano:
1. Bonisa imvakalelo encinane.
Amadoda awayekezelele "iimfuneko" ezingabalulekanga emehlweni abo, ingakumbi kwindawo yokusebenzela. Ukongezelela, ibhinqa edla ngokubakhombisa, ibona ibhinqa elincinci. Ukuze ungalonakalisi igama lakho lebhizinisi, yiba neengqiqo, ungaphenduli ngokuhlaselwa kwindlela yakho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ucinga ukuba uhlakisiwe, balala kwamashumi mabini, xela umxhaphazi ngokuthetha ngokuthula, ukuyeka. Nantoni na eyenzekayo, ungalili, indawo enjalo yowendoda iya ku khunjulwa ngonaphakade.
2. Ukubonisa ingqondo yakho ngokulandelelanisa.
Amadoda ahlonela abafazi abahlakaniphile, kodwa ininzi yabo ayithandi, ichaphazela kakubi ukuzithemba kwabantu. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna isimo sengqondo esilungileyo kwiqela lamadoda, ingqondo iyancipha kakhulu ukuze oogxa bakho bakuxabise, kodwa babenaso isizathu sokwesaba. Naliphi na icebiso lakho, nangona lifanelekileyo, amadoda ayaqonda kunye nesabelo sezinto ezimbi. Ngesizathu esifanayo, umntu onokubona ukuba ungumchasane akayi kukwabelana naye ngamava akhe, ukuze ungabi nxamnye naye.
3. Funda ukuphulaphula.
Ibhinqa elisekhatsini lomntu kufuneka lifunde ukuphulaphula ngakumbi, ukuze libe nexesha lokuva nokuqonda iingcamango zabalingane babo, ukuhlalutya nokuzikhumbula. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ngubani na kwiqela la madoda, ungayifumana indlela nganye kumntu ngamnye.
4. Ungavumeli ukuba impendulo yakho isebenze.
Kuyaziwa ukuba abafazi bayayiphendula kwaye bahlala benengxaki ngokuphathelele "amadoda angenakunceda". Ngaloo ndlela, amadoda asebenzisa le nto, ejongene nezicelo ezahlukeneyo nemisebenzi, abayifuni ukuyizalisa okanye abavila. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba ibhinqa le nto inokubangela ukuxhaphazwa, kwaye uya kuphuza ikofi imihla ngemihla, uhlambe iikomityi okanye wenze iirekhodi ezithintekayo kwiqela lonke. Funda ukuzola ngokukhawuleza xa wenqatshelwa kwisicelo esingahlangabezananga nesifiso sakho.
5. Xhuma umtsalane wakho.
Isixhobo sixhobo esiyingqayizivele elowo onke amabhinqa analo, kodwa kwindawo yokusebenza kufuneka isetyenziswe ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Izambatho ezintle, ukuzenza kunye neendleko "ezivela kwintambo" akuyi kunceda ukwandisa ukuthembeka kwakho kwintsebenziswano yabesilisa, kuba kwindawo esebenzayo bavame ukubona kuwe ininzi ibhinqa njengobungcali, kwaye ezi zinto zingenako ukuphawula.
Kungcono ukusebenzisa ezo zixhobo zenkcubeko njengendlela efanelekileyo, ukuhlaziywa, ukukwazi ukuzinzela ngokwaneleyo kuluntu nokubonisa ukuzithemba.
6. Qaphela ukuthandana ngothando kwindawo yokusebenzela.
Amanye amadoda emzabalazweni wokulwa nabasetyhini asebenzisa ukudlala ngothando. Bayazi ukuba ibhinqa, elona likhangayo, lingaphenduli kakuhle ingqalelo. Kule meko, ulahlekelwa ukuphaphama, kwaye loo ndoda isebenzisa kalula, umzekelo, uyazikhethela ngokungazenzisiyo iimvo ezimileyo. Kwaye abo bantu abazama ukunyamezela ngothando, banokucaphuka, kwaye bazame ukufumana kunye nawe ngezinye izihlandlo. Ngoko ke, thandana ngothando kwindawo yokusebenzela ngokucophelela.
7. Musa ukuhleba kwaye ungaphakamisi izihloko "zebhinqa" kwingxoxo.
Ukuthetha nabalingane ngexesha lokuphuka okanye ukuphumla kwexesha lesidlo, ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuthetha kuphela ngomsebenzi, nangona kunjalo, ungabandakanyi kwiintetho "iintlobo zabasetyhini": malunga nokupheka kunye neminye imisebenzi yasekhaya, malunga nobomi bakho nabanye, malunga nempilo kunye nokwenza. Khumbula, oogxa abalingani abakuqondi nje njengomhlobo (nangona iqela liye lahlakulela ubuhlobo obufudumele), bahlala behlola iimpawu zakho zobungcali. Awufuni ukuthathwa njengento yokuhleba, kwaye ungathembi ibhizinisi elibi.
8. Yiba yingcali, rhoqo ukufunda nokuphucula.
Ibhinqa elisebenza kwinqanaba lamadoda (kunye nayiphi na elinye) aliyi kunqanda ukuba nolwazi olunzulu malunga nokuzodwa, ukukhula ngokuzimeleyo, ukuphuhlisa nokuphucula. Kwaye iqela elichasayo lixabisa ubugcisa bokwenene kwaye liya kuqale ngokuhlonipha wena njengomqeshwa obalulekileyo.
Ngoko ke, ibhinqa elisebenza kwikomiti lamadoda kufuneka lifunde okuninzi: ukukhusela iminqweno yakho, ingabonakali ubuthathaka, ukwakha ubudlelwane bezoshishino obuphilileyo kunye noogxa babo kunye noxanduva lokukhula kobugcisa kunye nokukhula komsebenzi. Kule meko, akakwazi nje ukuphazamisa umlingane walo mdlali, kodwa naye umguqulele kumhlobo kumsebenzi okanye nakummangali wakhe.