Ndicinga ukuba, nangona kunjalo, kwintsebenziswano emininzi kunomqeshwa onokwethenjelwa olungele ukuncedisa oogxa ngazo zonke izinto "ezincinci izinto": ukwenza into, ubhale incwadi, kwindawo ethile ukuba ubaleke. Wonke umntu usetyenziswa "kwiinkonzo" zakhe kwaye akukho namnye ocinga malunga nento eninzi "engenazinkathazo", into aziva ngayo nokuba kutheni waba "yinkwenkwe".
Ukusingqongileyo ngokukhawuleza kuphelelwa ngumdla kubomi bakhe kunye neengxaki. Kwaye ukuba, ngenxa yesizathu esithile, ukuphunyezwa kwemiyalelo eqhelekileyo ayinakwenzeka, ukwenqatshwa kubonwa ngokuthe tye njengesizathu, kwaye mhlawumbi njengento yokuhlambalaza ngamabomu, ukubonisa ukungabi nambeko. Inyaniso yokuba izizathu zinokuqinela, oogxa abaze bafike engqondweni.
Abaphathi be "ingxaki-ntle" bayayixabisa. Kodwa ngokumodareyitha. Ngexesha leeholide bayakhuthazwa, ngezikhathi ezithile badumisa esidlangalaleni. Ukugqithisa ekusebenzeni kwemisebenzi yabo ngokuqhelekileyo kuxolelwe, kodwa bayacelwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba bangabikho emsebenzini, "baqhutywe" ngexesha elinye, abo bonke abanye bayalile. Ukunyuswa kwamanqanaba emisebenzi kubasebenzi abanjalo akunakwenzeka. Abaviwa babo abaqatshelwayo xa kuthengiswa izithuba, kuba, nantoni na inokuthi, kwaye imisebenzi yabo ihlala "ipeni," abanalo ixesha elaneleyo. Ngokubanzi, amabini amabini: "Ngubani onenhlanhla, ngaloo ndlela kwaye uya" kwaye "Kusuka entle yezinto ezilungileyo akajongi" - oku ku malunga nale meko. "Lucky" "ingxaki-ntle", kwaye "intle" iya kubazalwana kunye neenkokheli.
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Ngokuqhelekileyo kunzima kumqeshwa onqwenelayo ukuba anqabe amava "asekudala". Ngubani omnye "ogijima emva kweKlinsky", ayenjani? Ngokuhamba kwexesha, imeko "yemvelo" ngumkhuba. Nangona kunjalo, iingcambu zisoloko kunjalo, kuba bonke babemncinci, kodwa abaninzi bethu bahlangabezana ngokuphumelelayo nezifo "zokukhula".
Into ephambili kwiimeko ezinje ukuzithoba. Umntu uyaxhala ukuba baya kucinga kakubi ngaye okanye bamkhumbule ngamanye amaxesha ukuba akazange ancede umntu. Ukwakhiwa kokuzithoba kubeka phantsi kubuntwaneni, xa umntwana ephoqelelwe ukuba enze into engenakwenzeka kwaye ahlale ekhumbuza ukulinganiselwa kwamakhono akhe, adumise kuphela kwimpumelelo, kwaye ngokusoloko ebeka ityala lokungaphumeleli. Ukuba bonke abazali babethanda abantwana babo "njengaloo nto" kwaye abazange babeke indumiso ngokuxhomekeka kwimpumelelo okanye ukungaphumeleli, abantu abadala ababesaba "ukungalunganga" kwamanye abantu baya kuba ngaphantsi.
Ukungakhuselekanga emandleni akho kubangela isidingo esivumelekileyo sokuvunywa kwabanye kwaye kukhokelela ekubeni umntu uyavuma ukuzalisekisa nayiphi na isicelo, nokuba yingozi kumdla wakhe. Abajikelezileyo bakubone oku kwaye basebenzise ngokunyanisekileyo, ngokwenene-baxhaphaze umntu ohluphekileyo.
Ukukrazula imiphumo yemfundo engafanelekanga kumntu omdala kunzima, kodwa kuyimfuneko. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba umntu ongazi ukuba "cha" kwabanye, uthi "ewe" kwiingxaki zakhe.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba usebenziswa, ukuthi "cha" akayi kuguqula ulwimi kuphela, unokuzama ukusebenzisa iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokusebenzisa izinto ezisetyenziswa ngabantu abaninzi ngeenxa zonke "ezikhuselekileyo". Ngamanye amazwi, zama "ukubetha intshaba kwintsimi yayo," kunye nangesixhobo sakhe.
Ngokomzekelo, umntu uhlala "ephaziza" wena, ngokubhekiselele kwimeko embi yempilweni yabo. Kwiintetho ezinjalo "ezigulayo" kunceda ukukhumbula zonke iicawa zabo, indlela abaphazamisana ngayo nokuphila nokusebenza, ingaba imali kunye nexesha elithathayo ukuthatha unyango kunye nokuya kwipolyclinics. Cinezela inceba, njengokuba benza kakubi kuwe.
Ekuphenduleni ukugxeka ngexesha elibi, "ungene ngaphakathi" umphefumlo wakho, khalaza ukuba akukho mntu uyakuqonda, ufumene i-specialty ngokunyanzelwa kwabazali, utshatile (okanye utshatile) ngaphandle kothando kwaye ngoku "awunelisekanga".
Xa umntu ekukhumbuza umsebenzi onobungane, cela omnye umntu ukuba azenzele into efanayo, ngokubhekiselele kwingxaki yomsebenzi okanye ubunzima beentsapho. Musa ukwesaba ukuba umnxibelelwano uya kukhubeka. Umntu ojongayo uya kumangaliswa aze adideke ngolu hlobo lweziganeko. Sebenzisa umzuzu wokuhluleka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kumzabalazo wenkululeko, umntu akanakukugxotha naluphi na uncedo lwezicelo. Kodwa, xa wenza isigqibo, qiniseka ukuzibuza imibuzo uze uzame ukuphendula ngokucacileyo. Ngaba unamandla okwaneleyo ukuzalisekisa isicelo? Ngaba kuyimfuneko ngempela? Ngaba kukho ixesha lokunceda? Unomnqweno wokunceda?
Naphezulu. Ukungaphumeleli akuthethi ukuba awuhloniphi umntu. Kalula uqikelele ngokukhawuleza imikhosi. Ekugqibeleni, ukugatywa okusemthethweni kuya kuqinisa kuphela ubudlelwane, kwaye kungabikho ekuphumeni kwabo, njengoko kubonakala kuqala. Emva koko, kuphela abo bazithobelayo, ixesha labo namandla abo, ababalulekanga nje kuphela ngombono wabanye, kodwa nangoluvo lwabo ngokwabo, banalo igunya lokwenene. Inhlanhla enhle.
UAlexey Norkin
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