1. Emsebenzini yonke into ishintshile, yintoni oyenzayo?
Ingxaki enkulu kumfazi ophuma kwikhefu lokubeleka ulinde, kuba uya kubuyela apho ayeke khona. Kwaye umfazi ulindele ukuba xa ebuya, yonke into iya kuba njengaphambili, nangona kwangaphambili kwakungekho kuhle kakhulu.
Ngexesha elibanjwe ngumfazi kulo myalelo, umsebenzi osebenzayo, ukuhlaziywa kweemeko zokusebenza, iqela liyakwazi ukuhlaziya, kunye nemoya kwiqela. Kwaye ke umfazi unokujamelana nokumangalisa, oko kungayikhathaza ngokugqithiseleyo.
Ukuze ulungele, kwaye uyazi ukuba ungayilindela ntoni, ngaphambi kokuba ushiye ikhefu lokubeleka, jonga izinto ezitshintshileyo ukungabikho kwakho, khangela apho uya khona. Kwiindlela zobukhosi zempi, oku kuthiwa ukuhlonishwa kwindawo leyo, xa kuyimfuneko ukuvavanya ummandla, ukwenza ukuba ube ngumpawu. Kwaye kulo mzekelo kuyafaneleka ukuba yonke i-100%.
Xoxa nabalingane bakho, fumana ukuba umsebenzi wakho ulindeleke kumsebenzi, bangaphi abantu abatsha abonakale emsebenzini, zeziphi izimo zokusebenza, zeziphi izenzakalo ezenzekayo xa ungekho. Fumana oogxa abanokukuxhasa. Bavumele ukuba bakuxelele kwikhosi, bancede kwaye bakuxelele abasebenzi abatsha ongaziwa.
2. Ufanele uzilungiselele njani iingxaki?
Ukwazi oko kulindelekile emsebenzini, kufuneka ulungiselele iingxaki oza kuhlangabezana nazo. Zibhalele kwiphepha, ubunzima obuya kuvela emsebenzini, umzekelo:
- ukungabikho kwezakhono ozifunayo emsebenzini,
- ukungazi ngabalingane abatsha kunye njalo.
Ukuchasene nento nganye, bhala ezo zikhetho ezinokukunceda ukujamelana nobunzima obunjalo, okanye umntu unokukunceda ngale nto. Cwangcisa isicwangciso malunga nendlela yokusombulula iingxaki kunye nokunyamekela kwangaphambili. Uqeqesho lwezenzo-yengqondo lunokukunceda, oluya kukhulisa ukuzithemba okanye izifundo zokuhlaziywa, eziya kuhlaziywa izakhono zakho kunye nokunceda ekuqhubeni umsebenzi.
Khumbula konke owaziyo
Ukuziphatha, njengokuba kuhlaziywa konke owaziyo nokwaziyo. Thatha iphepha, ubhale kuyo yonke into oyaziyo ukuba ungayenza njani kwizakhono, kunye nezinye iindawo zomsebenzi. Ngokwahlukileyo, bhala amandla akho kunye namandla onke.
Masenze lo msebenzi
Esikhathini, siya kufumana indawo eya kukhetha imeko yangoku, ekhoyo xa uphuma kulo myalelo ukusebenza. Sichaza le ndawo ngento ethile. Ngomgama omncinane kuye, emva, wabeka enye into, ibonisa ixesha elidlulileyo, xa u-3 okanye 4 kwiminyaka eyadlulayo wahamba ngekhefu lokubeletha.
Ngaphambi kweyokuqala siya kufaka enye indawo eya kubonisa ikusasa lakho kwaye uhlala kuyo kwiminyaka emi-4, kwaye le ndawo iya kuchongwa yinto ethile.
Masivuke kwindawo eyadlulayo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ungobuchwephesha, ukuba uzive njani kwisithuba sobuchwepheshe, yiziphi izakhono onalo, indlela ozive ngayo ngelo xesha.
Khangela ixesha elidlulileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, ukungaqiniseki, ukuxhalabisa, ukuxhalabisa. Nika iingcebiso kuwe namhlanje, indlela onokubuyisela ngayo ubuchule bakho obudala kwaye uvumelane ngokukhawuleza emsebenzini. Sitshele oko kukuncedile emsebenzini, owamkholisa kwaye ephefumlelweyo.
Buyela kwindawo omileyo ngoku. Uziva njani ngoku? Khangela emva kwexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye uqaphele ukuba utshintshile, iminyaka emininzi idlule kwaye ufumene amava amatsha. Yintoni oyenayo ngamava, uthathe ntoni ngeli xesha, kwaye yintoni eyatshintshile ngexesha lomyalelo?
Ngoku yima endaweni yexesha elizayo uze ukhangele iimvakalelo. Ungubani na? Uziva njani? Yintoni oyenayo kwiminyaka? Kufuneka uzibuke ngokwenene, kwaye ubone oko kukunceda ukuba ube kwindawo apho ukhona kunye nento encedayo ukulungelelanisa kwindawo yokusebenzela. Si xelele.
3. Ukufuna inkxaso
Ukususela ekuya emsebenzini kuya kuxinzelela, kubalulekile ukuba ibhinqa libonelele ngenkxaso ngeli xesha. Kufuneka kufumaneke kwintsapho, ukwabelana ngeengxaki zabo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yiyiphi inkxaso oyifunayo kwangoku. Kubalulekile ukuba umfazi abe nethuba lokuxelela iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nabathandekayo bakhe, ukuba nethuba ukuba izihlobo akufanele zifundise, indlela yokuziphatheka ngayo, zingabonakali iimpazamo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo zithi yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle kwaye inamandla. Buza umyeni wakho ukuba athethe into ofuna ukuyiva kuye, okanye ubuze umyeni wakho ukuba ahlaziye, akugxeke, okanye akuphulaphule nje, nantoni na ofuna ukuyitshela.
4. Yintoni emele ilungiselelwe?
Ingaba umfazi olungeleyo okanye engakulungele ukuqala umsebenzi wakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyayiphatha njani umsebenzi wakhe, ukuba umfazi obuyela emsebenzini ngumxinzelelo, kuya kufuna ixesha elifanelekileyo lokulungelelanisa nokuhlanganiswa kwayo yonke imikhosi yakhe.
Kwaye isizathu silele kwinto yokuba uya emsebenzini emva kwekhefu elide kukuba:
Utshintsho lobomi bendawo
Emva koko, umfazi ngaphambi kokuba asebenze ixesha elide echitha ekhaya. Ngoku uya kuba kwindawo engaqhelekanga, eyahlukileyo.
Utshintsho lwemo
Ngokufikelela kumsebenzi, imeko yowesifazane uyatshintsha. Iphakama ukuba imeko yowesifazane osebenzayo kunye nokufumana umvuzo omhle uphezulu kunowomfazi wendlu. Uya kuhla xa isimo sengqondo sokuthobela kumfazi osebenzayo sibi ngakumbi kuye kunokuba umfazi wakhe umyeni wakhe, okanye ukuba akafuni ukuya emsebenzini. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kuya kuba yindawo ehlukileyo, ubugcisa, intlalo kunye nezoqoqosho zowesifazane.
Ingqungquthela yobomi iyatshintsha
Ukusebenza nawe ngokwakho kubandakanya utshintsho kwisigqi sobomi. Ngoku, ishedyuli yokusebenza iya kuthathwa njengesiseko, kwaye iya kuxhomekeka kwithuba lemihla ngemihla engasebenzi, ukunakekela amalungu omndeni, ukunyamekela indlu, ukulungiselela isidlo kunye nemali yexesha lokukhulula. Utshintsho kwisigqi sobomi lukhokelela ekutshintsheni emsebenzini womzimba nokuphumla kwawo, ukutya nokulala.
Utshintsho lweendima zeentsapho
Xa umfazi ehamba emsebenzini wenza indima yakhe yobungcali, kwaye wenza indima yomgcini wendawo, umama nomfazi, kodwa kaninzi kangangoko. Ngaloo ndlela, kukho ukwabiwa kwakhona kweembopheleleko kule ntsapho kunye nesimo sengqondo esitshintshayo.
Ukuhlukana kumntwana
Ukuya emsebenzini yithuba apho umama nomntwana bahlukana. Umntwana uba ngumntu ozimeleyo, akasekho mfuneko kunina, kwaye uya kwi-kindergarten. Ngomntwana nangomama, ixesha elimnandi nelinzima lokudibanisa kunye nelinye icala, xa umama uthetha ngokufanelekileyo ngomntwana "thina".
Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukukhumbula nokuqonda ukuba ukuba umfazi ahambe emsebenzini uyaxinezeleka. Kufuneka uqaphele le nyaniso, qonda ukuba kwenzekani kuwe, ngoko oku kuya kwenza kube lula ukuba uphile.
Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ufumana uxinzelelo - ukucaphuka, ukuphelelwa amandla, ukudabuka, ukukhathala nokungaqondi into eyenzekayo kuye, uqala ukuziva unetyala. Kubonakala kuye ukuba le mvakalelo ibangelwa ukulahlekelwa kwezakhono, ukungakwazi ukujoyina iqela, ukungafuni ukusebenza. Kodwa eqinisweni yindlela yokusabela ngayo uxinzelelo. Ibhinqa kufuneka inikwe ixesha ukwenzela ukuba ingatshintshela kumsebenzi omtsha, kwaye ukulungelelaniswa kwenzeka. Ukuqonda oku kweli qiniso kubangela uxinzelelo.
Ukusebenzisa ezi ngcebiso kunye neengcomo, ibhinqa eliye lashiya umyalelo linokukhawuleza ukubuyisela izakhono zobugcisa kunye nokuzibandakanya ngokukhawuleza kwinkqubo yomsebenzi.