Naluphi na uluntu oludibeneyo nolonwabileyo lwakhiwe ngakwesokunene kwindlela yokuziphatha kwimihla ngemihla (imiba yebhajethi, ukukhangela izindlu kunye nemithombo yengeniso), nangakolunye uhlangothi ekubunjweni kwemibutho yasapho - ezinamandla, ubudlelwane bokomoya phakathi kwamalungu entsapho, ukudala umoya onobungane. Ukunikezelwa ngokuqhelekileyo kweendima ngaphakathi kwentsapho kunjalo loo mntu ufuna izibonelelo, kwaye useka ubudlelwane bentsapho kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla-ibhinqa. Kodwa ukuba lo mfazi uphumelele kwingqondo yezoshishino - ukwabiwa kweendima kuphulwa, umfazi, ugxininise ingqalelo kwimicimbi yemali, kaninzi akanalo ixesha lokuseka ubomi. Ngubani oya kuqhuba ubomi? Indoda?
Umntu oqhelekileyo akanakwenzeka ukuba axolelane nombono wokuthi akayena umthengi kunye nentloko yentsapho. Ukongezelela, ukudala imimoya efanayo yentsapho kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nempawu ezininzi, ngokungaqhelekanga kumadoda - ukukwazi ukwenza imisebenzi emininzi ngokukhawuleza, ukuhlalisana rhoqo, ukuthanda, ukulungele ukuphulaphula, ukuqonda, ukuthuthuzela kunye nokuncedisa ngeengcebiso.
Ukufumana iimpawu ezinjalo, loo ndoda ibonakala ngathi ithambile, i-rozhli, kwaye ayikuphumelelanga. Yaye ingaba ibhinqa lebhizinisi lifuna ukwakha intsapho enjalo? Hayi, uya kujonga efanayo noyena-inkokeli enamandla, esebenzayo, ethembisa ukuba akayi kuchitha ixesha kwizinto ezingadingekile njengentsapho yasekhaya. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umtshato "okhululekile" ufunyanwa - apho bobabini abatshatileyo bakha imisebenzi yabo, kwaye musa ukuxhatshalana ngokunyanzela.
Kodwa intsapho epheleleyo ingenakwenzeka ngaphandle kwendima ebizwa ngokuthi "ibhinqa". Ngokuqhelekileyo ingxaki enjalo ixazululwa ngokuqesha umfazi wendlu - kwaye indlu ihlambulukile, kwaye akukho nto iphazamisa umsebenzi. Ukuba bekukho abantwana - yintoni, siya kuqesha umfana! Ukuba kubonakala ngathi iqabane liye lafuduka ngenxa yomsebenzi wakhe - akunandaba, umthandi uya kunceda! Apha nanjalo intsapho yokukhangela.
Ngaloo ndlela, ibhinqa lorhwebo alinalo ubulumko bokukhetha umntu ofanelekileyo, nokuba nomonde ukuhlala kunye noko. Kwaye sifumana inkcubeko, iintsapho ezinengxaki, apho wonke umntu ezama ukuzakhela imisebenzi yakhe kwaye asebenzise ubomi ngokubamba.
Ulwakhiwo lwezoqoqosho lwanamhlanje aluvumeli umfazi ukuba ahlale ekhaya aze ahlanganyele "ekulahlekeni kwexesha." Masithembele ukuba abantwana abakhulayo bebona abazali babo iyure ngaphambi kokulala baya kulahlekelwa yimilinganiselo yabo yeentsapho njenge-euphemism. Kubuhlungu ukuba ibhinqa leentsapho kunye neengxaki zentsapho, eziqhelekileyo - iingcamango ezingapheliyo.
Ksenia Ivanova , ngakumbi kwisiza