Ukuwa kobudlelwane
Nokuba izazinzulu ziqinisekisa ukuba abafazi bathambekele ekusebenziseni ngokugqithiseleyo ukungaphumeleli. Kubantu, uthando luyingxenye yobomi kuphela, kanti ngobuthathaka obuthathaka, ubomi obungenalo uthando abukho ubomi. Ngoko, ngokwemvakalelo, umfazi uphula isithuba kunye nomntu othandekayo njengento ephinda ehlaziya ngokugqithiseleyo yokuphela kwehlabathi. Ngexesha elide akakwazi ukutyekela kwiimeko zakhe zentlalo, ulungelelanise kwaye uyakwazi ukuba akayi kuphinda aphinde abize kwakhona, kwaye ukuba uyabiza, ayikwazi ukuphendulwa nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa ukhenketho ... Ngoko, ukulibala njani? Kuphi ukufumana iindlela zokumphelisa ngokupheleleyo kunye nayo yonke into ephakathi kwakho, kwimemori?
Iingcali zengqondo zithi akukho nto iyakucima, akumele uyilibale. Into oyifunayo ngokwenene kukuba uvumele ixesha lokuba "ubilise" kula mava anzima. Omnye unexesha elihle kakhulu "leeveki" kweeveki ezintathu, umntu-inyanga ezintathu, abanye bathi "ukunyanga" kwireveli kungenziwa emva kwexesha elilinganayo nesiqingatha sobude bobudlelwane bakho bokuqala. Kukho nawuphi na, cwangciswa ngokwengqondo, ukuba ngexesha elizayo uza kugula. Kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza malunga nayo. Zinike inkululeko yokukhala, ukulahla izipho zakhe, ususe iibhalelwano zakho, kucula kunye noWithney Houston, ube yedwa ...
Uchelile kwaye unelisekile!
Nangona kunjalo, kuyingozi ukukhalisa iinyembezi ixesha elide. Emva kokuba intlungu sele ihambe - uya kuziva ukukhala okungenanto ngaphakathi kwaye kuya kufuneka uzaliswe ngento ethile. Qaphela: into (kungekhona umntu!). Ingxaki yabasetyhini abaninzi kukuba, xa besenyongweni, balahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye kwaye bayakhohlwa abo babekho ngaphambi kweveli.
Ukuba uthe wagqiba ekubeni udibanise kunye kwaye umkhawuleze umkhohlwe (ubuncinane uzame!) - isinyathelo sokuqala senziwa. Uqala ukukhumbula oko kuthanda ukuba yiwe. Ziqokelele. Zibeke ngokwakho ngaphandle. Hlela ukuthenga. Shintsha iinwele zakho. Yenza into othembisa ukuyenza ixesha elide. Ukuba kukho elo thuba-ubuncinane ngeveki, hamba uhambo. Iimeko ezintsha zihlala zivakalelwa. Bangakwazi ukuzalisa i-vacuum eyenziwe.
Thola abahlobo abatsha. Kodwa oko akuthethi uthando olutsha. Ewe, abantu abaninzi banomdla wokufumana ngokukhawuleza "ukutshintshwa" kunye nokucaphukisa okwangaphambili, kodwa le ndlela ayiyiyo. Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, ubuhlobo obunqabileyo abupheli ngento enhle. Kule ncwadana entsha (eli xesha - ngokupheliswa ngokuvuya) kuthatha ixesha. Ixesha kunye nokuqonda oko ufuna ngokwenene.
Vumela ubudlelwane kunye nekhefu ngokwayo libe yisifundo
Xa uzihlanganisela kwiindawo, uza kubona kwisibilini unkosikazi ohlaziyiweyo, ojonga phambili ngesibindi endaweni yokuzibandakanya ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ukuphindezela. Le ntombi (ukuzithemba nokuqonda) kufuneka icacise into ethile. Uya kufuneka ubuyele engqondweni kwimibutho yangaphambili kunye nokuqonda. Yintoni eyakhelwe kuyo? Ufunani na? Yintoni enayo? Wayeliphupha ntoni? Ngaba ukuhlukana kwexesha? Ngoku, xa unqabile, ngaba ngokwenene (!) Uphupha malunga nokuba le ncwadana ayizange ibe yinto? Okanye ngaba kukho i-nostalgia elula? Ulwalamano lwakho lukufundisa ntoni?
Xa uphendula yonke le mibuzo - imeko ivumeleke ukuba ihambe, ngoku ngoku ngokupheleleyo. Akudingeki ukuba uhlalutye kumava adlulileyo, cinga nje njengesifundo esibalulekileyo. Okanye ingubo yokuhlaziya, kodwa kungekhona ukuphela kwehlabathi, kodwa into entsha. Lonwabo olutsha. Uthando olutsha.
Ukuba usenomsindo kwaye ungakholelwa ukuba uya kuza - ndiza kuxela enye imfihlo: umntu wakho akayi kukushiya. Xa udibana naye, uya kuqonda ukuba kutheni ungazange usebenze nabanye.