Kuyaziwa ukuba uthando luyinto enobunzima. Sonke siyazi ukuba kunjalo. Mayelana naye bhala izibongo, iincwadi. Ngenxa yothando, benza izenzo zohlazo, nangaphambili, kwanokuba iimfazwe zize ngenxa yaloo nto. Ngoko, yintoni uthando ehlabathini lanamhlanje? Enye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo uthando lukude. Ungabonisa njani uthando kumgama?
Asinakuze sichaze ukuba sisiphi isiphelo esasisenza, apho kwaye singaphi na ukudibana nomlingane wethu womntu. Kungaba ngathi kwisitalato, kwisithuthi, kwiholide, njl. Apha, umzekelo, imeko enjalo. Sonke siyazi ukuba yintoni into enkulu kwiWebhu Yehlabathi. Ewe kukho iindawo zokuthandana, amashishini encoko, iiforamu kunye neeblogi, ngokubanzi, ezininzi kwiindawo apho unokuhlangana nomfokazi omhle. Nguwe kuphela, yena kunye nesigqubuthelo sesikrini esihlula. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Emva koko, umngcipheko ukhulu, unako ukuthumela isithombe somhlobo, kodwa eqinisweni akazange alinde kufuphi neAlain Delon. Emva koko kukho ukhetho, into efana nengxoxo yewebhu, kodwa ayikho into yokuba unenhlanhla. Ngoko ke ungathini? Okokuqala, kufuneka udibane.
Emva koko, uza kubona izinto eziphambili kuzo ngamnye. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba uthando aluyinyanzelo, ngoko ke, umntu kufuneka aziphathe ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye isizathu sifanele silumke. Emva koko, uya kudibana nomntu ongaqhelekanga. Inombolo yesazisi enye - ngaphambi kokuya kumhlangabezana nomfokazi, zizinyame, uthathe umhlobo (okanye umhlobo). Emva kwakho konke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungahambisani naye ixesha elingakanani, okanye akazange axoxe, intlanganiso iyintlanganiso. Kwaye akukho mntu owaziyo engqondweni yakhe. Isinyathelo esilandelayo sisilungiselelo esikhulu, ukususela kwizonyiso, ukugqiba ngeenwele ezintsha kunye neengubo. Ngubani owaziyo, ingaba yiyona nto izayo? Kwaye ekugqibeleni, intlanganiso. Nantsi into ephambili ayiyi kulahleka kwaye iziphatha ngokuqhelekileyo. Kwaye xa konke okugqithiseleyo, ungathembela kwintlanganiso elandelayo.
Ngoku, into eyodwa ehlukana nawe ngumgama. Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo le nto ingeyona nto. Emva koko, kukho iimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neengcamango. Kuphi inkolelo yokuba akukho kubakho ukuthengwa kunye na? Ngoko ke, imeko kufuneka ihlolwe ngokuqinisekileyo. Ngaba ulungele ukuqhubeka nolwalamano olude, de kube uhlala kunye kunye.
Kukho enye imeko. Yonke into iyaziwa ukuba ihlobo alikho nje ixesha lokuphumla, kodwa ne-romance romance. Kwaye ulapha, umzekelo, wadibana nomfokazi. Inwele ezimnyama, i-swarthy macho, eyakuphumelela ekuqaleni. Kukho okuseleyo ukuthembela kwizinto ezilula okanye ezinye izicwangciso zekamva. Apha kufuneka uhlale unengqiqo. Yaye nenye icebiso, nwabele le ngcaciso. Emva kwakho konke, awuyazi, kwaye ekude kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukubona ukuba umngani wakhe uya kubonakala.
Ewe, ekugqibeleni, masibe sisicatshulwa umgca kwaye sinqume ukuba yintoni enye efanayo kunye nobudlelwane obude, ungayichaza njani kwaye kuya kuvela njani ukuvalelwa kwakho?
1 st. Xa udibana nomgama, awukwazi ukukhathala, okanye ukuxabana. Ngelizwi, uya kuhlala unomdla kulo mntu. Enye into, iya kuhlala isamkelekile kuwe, kuba ngenxa yeentlanganiso ezingabonakaliyo uya kuba nexhala.
I-2 nd. Nangona kunjalo, kodwa imithetho yefilosofi ithatha eyabo - ingaphezulu komntu othandekayo, unamandla ngakumbi ukufuna ukumbamba entlanganisweni. Ngoko ke, ukugqithisa ngokugqithiseleyo uya kukhonza njengotshisa.
Yesithathu. Kwimeko nayiphi na, ulwalamano olutsha luyiva elitsha kuwe kunye neqabane lakho. Kwaye oku, ngokwenene, kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kubalulekile.
4. Enye, kubaluleke ngakumbi kunye nokuba ubudlelwane obunjalo buya kukunika ithuba lokuqhelana namazwe amatsha, abantu, ukuya kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo. Ngegama, ukuphuhlisa. Ngenxa yokuba abantu bahlala kumazwe ahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha iintlanganiso ziqhutywa ngokufanelekileyo, kuba bobabini. Ngoko ke, njengoko besithi, uthando lukude luvula i-horizons ngaphezulu kwaye lukwazisa ngeenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo, izithethe kunye namasiko kwamanye amazwe kunye nabantu. Ngendlela, kwesi esinye isizathu sokuba ukhangele indlela oyazi ngayo isiNgesi yakho.
5. Akukho mpikiswano ekhaya, ukungavumelani, iingxabano kunye neengxabano ngesihloko esithi: "Kutheni ungakhange uchithe inkunkuma?", "Awuzange uhlambe iisokisi zam?"
Kwaye okokugqibela, ubudlelwane obunjalo buhlolisisa abazithandayo, bavumele ukuba baqonde ukuba bathande kangakanani omnye nomnye, kwaye banike ithuba lokudibana nalabo esibathandayo. Ngoko ke, uthando olunjalo-luphela luvuselela iimvakalelo.