Uthando ngolu hlobo okanye olo hlobo lokuphumla luphawu olucacileyo lobuntu bomntu, izinto ezithandayo kunye nezinto ezithandayo. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba iziganeko zonyaka, ucinga ukuba unokwenza ubomi bakho basehlobo bumnandi kakhulu, bumnandi kakhulu kumntwana.
Okokuqala, makhe sizame ukuqonda oko kanye umntwana angathandiyo kweli lizwe. Okokuqala, oku kungabikho kohlobo lwaba "dacha". Kusemntwaneni wethu kwisixeko esasingabikho mntu wayexhomeke ehlotyeni: abantwana bathunyelwa kwiinkampu zomanyano, oogogo nomkhulu babehlala kwiidolophana, apho sazama khona "inkululeko." Iphuzu lesibini: ukuzonwabisa kwethu kwisixeko nakwiindawo zasemaphandleni akuzange kwahluke kakhulu - bobabini apha nalapha sidlale ukufihla nokufuna, abaphangi beCosaff kunye nezinye imidlalo zangaphandle. Abantwana banamhlanje bayichitha ixesha elide kwikhompyutheni naphambi kweTV, apho ilizwe lingahluthwa. Ngako oko, umbuzo wendlela enye ivele ngokukhawuleza: njani umntwana angenomdla kwihlabathi "ngaphandle kwesikrini"? Ngoko-ke, makhe senze uphononongo lwentlalo yokuzonwabisa eshushu kakhulu kwaye sizame ukuvuselela ubomi belizwe ukuze abantwana bangakhathazeki.
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Kule minyaka, baninzi abantwana kufuneka baqhagamshelane nabaontanga, kodwa abazi ukuba bangayazi njani, kuba kwiimeko zanamhlanje aziveki ziyimfuneko. Ukunqongophala kwexesha elikhululekile kukuchaphazela: ngoku baninzi abantwana abaseminyakeni yobudala baqhuba izifundo kunye nemisebenzi yecandelo elongezelelweyo lwee-curricular - abaqhelana nabo kwiindawo zabo, kwaye "kungekho". Ngoko ke, umsebenzi wakho kukufumana inkampani yabantwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo isikhulu saseburhulumenteni busika yintlambo okanye umlambo. Xoxa nabahlali beeholide elunxwemeni ngezinye iintsapho, bacele ukuba batyelele. Nawuphi na umzali uya kuhlangana nawe, kuba unengxaki efanayo nomntwana wakhe.
Inketho efanelekileyo kukumema kwi-dacha wakho umhlobo wobudala obufanayo: umntakwabo, umhlobo wesikolo okanye umyezo. Kulo nyaka, kunye nabantwana ababini, kuya kuba neengxaki ezincinane kunezinye, kuba aziyiintsana ezifuneka ziqhutywe ngedatha.
Ngaloo nto iya kubandakanywa kwisizukulwana esincinane kwiTV yakho ozithandayo kunye nekhompyutheni, kungcono ukucinga kwangaphambili kwindawo yokuzonwabisa ekhuselekileyo kwi-cottage. Zama ukuthatha ingcamango yokudala i-albhamu enemibala yobomi belizwe. Thenga ikhamera engabizi, uprinte amafayile akhethiweyo, uncedise ukuhlobisa i-albhamu ngamaqabunga omisiwe kunye neentyantyambo.
Ingcamango enkulu yindawo yaseshashalazini yabantwana. Ngemva kwemini, abafana baya kufunda isicatshulwa, benze iingubo kunye neendawo ezibonakalayo, kwaye ngokuhlwa bakwenza phambi kwabantu abadala. Kwaye umntu oye wayesazi kakuhle ikhamera, unokumisela "umbhali". Iphephandaba lokuqala elenziwe ngokuzikhethela elisekelwe kwintsebenzo ngumemori obalaseleyo wezorhotho ezingaqhelekanga.
9-12 ubudala
Abantwana balo nyaka, abaqhelana nabo kunye noontanga babo banokucaphuka. Kodwa ukuba uhlala nje ungumhlobo kunye neentsapho, ke abantwana baya kutsalwa ekunxibelelaneni. Ibhunga lokumema umngane kwi-dacha apha isasebenza. Uya kwenza ubomi bube lula kuwe nakwabanye abazali.
Ukuza kubonwabisa kubantwana "iminyaka engaphambili", kufuneka ukhumbule ngeempawu zabo. Aba bantwana babonakala bekhulile kakhulu kwinto ethile, kwaye kwinto encinane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, baxubusha ngemicimbi yabantu abadala kunye nomdla kunye nokunyaniseka kokuqhawula kwixabiso lemoto, kwelinye - basakholelwa kwiimbali zamagama. Nceda abantwana baququze into eyanelisa imfuno yabo yokukhula kwaye bahlala kwilizwe elimnandi ngexesha elifanayo. Okokuqala, ngumntu wedwa. Bobabini amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe kule minyaka bayavuya ngokuvakalayo ukuba bahlale e-dacha ukuba banayo intsimi yabo apho, abanokuzixhobisa ngokwabo. Xa ulahlwa ngabantwana, unako ukunika ikhefu okanye ikhefu kwaye uvumele ukuba benze into abayifunayo. Ukubanika iipende, izinto zokwakha, iingubo kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, kungekhona ukufundisa ubomi, kodwa kuphela ukuphendula imibuzo, ukuba ivela. Ulwaphulo lwazo zonke izinto ezisetyenzisiweyo ziqinisekisiwe, kodwa loo projekthi inokuthabatha abantwana ixesha elide.
Musa ukunyanisela amandla abantwana ukuba bakhule okuthile ngokwabo. Ewe, banqwenela ukukhula kokhula kumabhedzana ka-ugogo, kodwa i-zucchini yabo okanye intyatyambo imangalisa. Unokulungiselela ukhuphiswano logogo nomzukulu: ngubani oza kuba nesityalo esinamandla. Enyanisweni, umntwana kufuneka adlulise isicwangciso esona sihle kumyezo, ukwenzela ukuba impumelelo yakhe iya kubonakala kuye.
Kwakhona, umntwana angabonakalisa ubuncwane bokuphila kwendawo yasemaphandleni: umzekelo, kwindawo evulekile ungadlala imidlalo evinjelwe kwigumbi leedolophu - gxuma "kwiinqwelo zerabha.
Ukuba unenja, umntwana wale minyaka uyakuchaza ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba kwimeko. Ngenja, umntwana unokuhamba ngendlela afuna ngayo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kukhangela iinjongo ezingenakingozi.
13-15 ubudala
Kule minyaka, ukunyengisa umntwana, bonke abahlobo kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa ezihlala kulo mzi, kwindawo yokuzonwabisa esebenzayo kwi-dacha, kwaye nangona ixesha elide, akunakwenzeka. Ukunxibelelana noontanga yinto ephambili yintsholongwane, ngoko ke ukuba umntwana engenawo "inkampani yasehlobo", wenqaba ukuphuma edolophini. Ngenkampani okanye umhlobo omnye, uya kudosa ngokuzonwabisa, kodwa kuphela xa enganikwa inkululeko engaphantsi kunelo dolophu.
Intsha ifuna igumbi elilodwa. Ukuba igumbi, ngoko lide, kwaye lingekho. Kule minyaka, umnqweno wokuba nesithuba somntu siqu sinzima kakhulu kangangokuba abaninzi bayavuma ... bahlala kwintente. Ipholile kwaye kukho into ekubonayo phambi kwabahlobo besixeko! Vumela intsha ukuba yenze i-barbecues kusihlwa, yakha i-bonfire, ngobusuku obufudumele kunye nabahlobo ukuba bachithe ubusuku kwi-hayloft. Ukukhathazeka akuyikuyikrokra - kubaluleke ngakumbi kubusuku bothando kunye nenkululeko. Ukuba unokwenza ukuba bazivele ukuba ulutsha luye lwazo, ungazigcina lula kwi-dacha.
Intsha ifuna ukunqoba iindawo ezintsha. Kubalulekile ukuba bavumele ukuba baphume kweli lizwe. Abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukukhwela isitimela sombane, nokuba ukutya, ukuphuma kwidolophana okanye idolophana. Funda ukuzithemba!
Ukuba umntwana osemncinci unomhlobo wakhe ubudala kwi-dacha, kodwa akafuni ukuya khona, fumana ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Ngokuqhelekileyo isizathu sokuba ukungabikho kwezinto eziqhelekileyo. Ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba axhumane lonke ihlobo kunye nabantu abangaziwayo kwiindlela zobubi. Khumbula - usemdala ngokwaneleyo ukwenza ezo zigqibo ngokwakhe.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kunika umntwana ukuba enze ukuzizonwabisa ngokuqhelekileyo: ikhompyutha kunye ne-console ye-game ingathathwa kunye naye, izixhobo zanamuhla zingakunika wena kunye ne "dacha" kwi-intanethi. Kodwa yonke into efanayo, ungalibali: imbono ephambili yokuphumla okunjalo yintshintsho yeemeko eziqhelekileyo. Ikhaya leeholide lilibali elikhethekileyo, elipheleleyo kwaye libophelelwe ngokupheleleyo kukusondela kwimvelo, kungekhona kwiziqhamo zentlalo.
Sifunda lula kwaye sinemihlali!
Akukho mfihlelo yokuba abantwana abaninzi banikwa isabelo sehlobo. Ngokuyinene, oku kufundela ekhaya imisebenzi yemibhalo yesigaba. Ukuhlalisa umntwana ngencwadi ngexesha "elifanelekileyo" liholide akulula. Zama ukudlala esi sifundo ngenye yeendlela ezilandelayo:
- yenza imibuzo kwiprogram isebenza ngeemali;
- Cela umntwana ukuba aqhubeke nokuqhubeka kwebali aze axoxe ngawo;
- Cela umntwana ukuba atshintshe iziganeko zomsebenzi ebomini bwanamhlanje (ngokukhethekileyo unomdla kubantwana abaneminyaka eyi-12-15 ubudala);
- Cela umntwana ukuba abuyisele ibali kwi-slang (ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ulungele ukuliva kwaye ungagxeki!). Ukuba umntwana ulahliwe emva kweminye yezinto, ungayifaki kwiincwadi zezifundo. Zama ukufumana uncwadi olumnandi kwi-subject, umzekelo kaPerelman "iPhysics Physics", iGasparov "I-Greece ezonwabisa", njl njl., Kwaye uyaphonsa le ncwadi xa umntwana ephumla esikolweni, oko kukuthi; njengomthetho, kungekudala kukaJulayi.
Yaye ukuba usebenza?
Ungayisebenzisi umntwana wakho njengomsebenzi ongezantsi, ongenamakhono ongezantsi ukuba akafuni ukukunceda, kungenjalo uzakuva ukuba akafuni ukuya kwi-dacha ukuze "angafungi".
Mthembele ngomsebenzi onoxanduva, ukubika ukuba kunzima, umzekelo, ukukhetha i-strawberries. Umsebenzi uya kuba nomdla kumntwana ukuba uyayifumana isiphumo sakhe siqu, kwaye kungekhona nje "okwenzela unina." Ukusuka kwi-strawberries, unokwenza i-mousse ngokwayo, ulungiselele "indawo yokukhusela" kwindawo ekhethiweyo efanelekileyo yokugcina "inkunzi" yakhe, njl. Khumbula ukuba abantwana abaninzi bathanda ukuya ehlathini ukuba bahlanganiswe ngokupheleleyo kwi-chain chain: kunye uya kupheka umpompo okanye ityuwa. Kwaye kuyinqweneleka, ukuba umntwana ulungiselele, vumela enye, kodwa igosa yakhe ngokupheleleyo. Unokwenza isitifiketi esikhumbuzo kuso.