Unako kwaye kufuneka uhambe kwicawa!
Yimangalisa indlela inkolelo eyandiswe ngayo kangangokuba umfazi okhulelwe ngandlela-thile akanako ukungena ecaweni. Abaninzi "abanolwazi" abaninzi ngesizathu esithile besabisa abafazi abakhulelweyo abanokuthintela, kwaye inethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke ipheleleyo yemibuzo yabaninazana abadikibalakileyo njengokuba "Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uye kwicawa kubafazi abakhulelweyo? ". Kunokwenzeka ukuphendula lo mbuzo ngokungahambi kakuhle - akunakwenzeka kuphela ukutyelela icawa kumfazi okhulelweyo, kodwa kuyafuneka kwakhona!
Abaphathiswa becawa baphosa ezo zinto zichasene ngokubanzi kwaye, ngokuchasene noko, bhenela abafazi abakhulelweyo ukuba baye etempileni. Ukutyelela ecaweni kusoloko kunika amandla kumama ozayo kunye nenkolelo yokuba yonke into iya kulungeleka umntwana kunye naye. Kuba nawuphi na umfazi okhulelweyo uncedo kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba eze ecaweni aze athandaze. Emva koko, xa efika ethempelini, uguqula uThixo kunye nosana lwakhe olungakazalwa. Yingakho umfazi okhulelweyo kufuneka aye ecaweni! Kodwa konke oku kunengqiqo, kuphela xa loo ntokazi ifuna ukuya khona. Abafazi abakhulelweyo abanakwenza nantoni na ngamandla, ukutyelela icawa apha akuyi kuba yinto ehlukile.
Ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo engakatshatanga nomyeni wakhe, icawa icebisa ukuba isatshatile ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana - ngoko iNkosi iya kuthumela ubabalo olukhethekileyo kumtshato wabo. Ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo engazange abhaptizwe okwangoku, kodwa ufuna ukukhishwa, ngoko ukukhulelwa akuphazamisi nantoni. Kwakhona, owesifazane okhulelweyo unokudlula ngokukhuselekileyo isakramente yesigramente - ukutholwa kweMfihlakalo Engcwele kuya kumzuzisa yena kunye nosana lwakhe kuphela.
Ngomhla kamva, icawa akufanele ihambe yedwa - owesifazane okhulelweyo kufuneka abize nomyeni wakhe, umhlobo, umama okanye omnye umntu osondeleyo okanye othandekayo. Ecaweni, umfazi okhulelweyo unokugula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uncedo lwabo luya kufuneka. Nangona kunjalo, esi siphakamiso asisebenzisi nje kuphela ukuya ecaweni - umfazi okhulelweyo ekupheleni komhla ngokubanzi ngaphandle kwekhaya lakhe ukhetha ukuya kwinkampani yomntu.
Kodwa emva kokubeletha ukunyuka kwithempelini, ibhinqa kufuneka lilibale iintsuku ezingama-40. Ngokutsho kweziseko zecawa, eli lixesha elifunekayo lokuba umfazi ahlambuluke kwisono sangaphambili. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ixesha liphela, umfazi angaya ecaweni, kodwa okokuqala umbingeleli uya kufundela umthandazo wemihla engamashumi amane engaphethekiyo. Emva koko, uya kuphinda avunyelwe ukuya kwiinkonzo aze athathe inxaxheba kwii-sakramente zecawa.
Emangcwabeni - unako, emngcwabeni - hayi!
Ngokutsho konke okufanayo "owaziyo" ugogo, oomama abakhulelweyo abanakukwazi ukuza emangcwabeni nasemingcwabeni. Ngaphezu koko, kuyingozi nokuba ukhangela umntu oshonile. Batshitshisa abafazi abakhulelwe "ngamabali ahlaselayo" apho emangcwabeni umphefumlo womfizi unamathele kumntwana, kwaye ukuba umfazi okhulelweyo ubheka umfi, umntwana uza kuzalwa efile.
Amagosa ecawa anjalo iimpawu zilingana nobuhedeni kunye nehlazo. Ababingeleli bathi isigqibo sokuya emangcwabeni okanye kungekhona into ebalulekileyo yowesifazane okhulelweyo. Ukuba umphefumlo wesifazane ucela ukuba uhambe-ndingathini na ukuba ndihambe? !! Ukuba kungcwatyelwa unina, uyise, umntwana, onomdla ngaye ngobomi obuzayo, ubuhlungu bakhe okanye intlungu? Ukuba ibhinqa ifuna ukuya khona - inokwenziwa.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukuhlala emangcwabeni kudibene nomfazi okhulelweyo eneemvakalelo ezimbi kuphela, ukuba loo ntokazi uyayesaba, ixhala okanye ingakhathazeki ukuba ibe khona - kungcono ukuyeka ukuhambela ezo ndawo. Emva koko, nayiphi na ingcinezelo ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuthintela ukuphuhliswa komntwana. Zonke iimvakalelo, zovuyo kunye nosizi, zisasazeka ukusuka kumama ukuya kumntwana esiswini. Yingakho ngexesha lokukhulelwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana iimpawu ezintle kunye nemvakalelo. Kule meko, kufuneka kwakhona uzikhusele ekubeni uxinzelelo kunye nexesha elibi.
Ngako oko, ukuba ngumbuzo wokuya emangcwabeni ngexesha lokungcwaba, ukujonga, xa ibhinqa lifuna ukutyelela izihlobo nabahlobo, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba akukho nto iya kuphazamisa uxolo lwakhe lwangaphakathi - unokuhamba ngokuphepha.
Ngokuphathelele umngcwabo, nangona umntu oqhelekileyo uhlala ecinezelekile, ungakhankanyi umfazi okhulelweyo. Ngoko ke, ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kufuneka uzinakekele wena kunye nosana kwaye unqande ukuya emngcwabeni, ukuze ugweme le nto inamandla kwaye inobungozi kwimpilo yakhe.
Xa ubhaptiza umntwana?
Ngokutsho kweenqanawa zeCawa, umntwana kufuneka abhaptizwe ngosuku lwesibhozo emva kokuzalwa. Nangona kunjalo, ekusebenzeni, abazali abanqwenela ukugqiba ukubhaptiza umntwana wabo oneminyaka emncinci. Njengomthetho, umntwana ubhaptizwa emva kokuba uwele umda wenyanga. Icawa inyanisekile kulo mbandela - nokuba ucela ukuba umKristu wakho oneminyaka emithathu ubudala okanye umntwana okhulile, uhlala ungaceli ukuba kungani ufike ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu kwi-sakramente yobhaptizo uya kukwenqaba.
Njengoko ubona, icawa ayimisele nayiphi na into evimbelayo abafazi abakhulelweyo. Musa ukuphulaphula iinkolelo ezithandwayo, isilumkiso malunga nokunyuka emangcwabeni, umngcwabo kunye necawa. Into ephambili kuyo yonke le nto kukuba umama ozayo kufuneka anikwe ithuba lokwenza oko akujonga ukuba kuyimfuneko kuye nakumntwana wakhe. Akufanele uphulaphule nabani na kwaye akumele ubale ukuba ngaba kuphela abo bakholwayo kubo abanalo uphawu oluzaliseka.