Ngesondo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, thina, bafazi, sisondo kwaye sibahoxisa amadoda ngokusebenzisa inethwekhi. Akusiyo into yokuba iindlela ezihlukahlukeneyo zokuziphatha ziye zaqulunqwa kulo mbandela, njenge "imithetho yokutyelela ezintlanu", "baninzi bangqumbo" njalo njalo. Konke oku kuyimfuneko kuthi sibonise indoda esiyidingayo ukuba silwe nathi kwaye akulula ukuyifumana. Lo mgaqo wokuziphatha u sekelwe kwi-psychology elula kwizilwanyana zezilwanyana, ezivela kuthi ngokwemvelo kamama. Kodwa awukwazi ukuyinyathela kwakhona.
Kwintombi, isondo kuthetha ezininzi. Kuye, le nyathelo elinoxanduva. Akakufuni ukulala nomntu wokuqala wokuzonwabisa. Kuzo zonke izinto ezinjalo zenzeka. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, ubulili obuphezulu buya kuba kunye nalabo abanomvakalelo kubo.
Uthando
Ewe, isondo kubalulekile. Kodwa yonke into ibaluleke ngakumbi kubhinqa kunothando. Esi sivakalelo sinokusithatha sonke ixesha: siqala kwibhenki yesikolo kwaye siphela kwiminyaka ekhulileyo. Inokuthi ibonakale rhoqo, kodwa inokubakho amaxesha ambalwa ebomini. Kwaye kunkwantya ukuba nayiphi na intombazana ekhokelela ekudleni okanye ekudandeni. Inketho yesithathu ayilanga. Uthando oluthatha amaninzi amaninzi kwizenzo ezimbi kwaye zingenangqiqo. Kwaye asikwazi ukunceda. Njengoko bethetha, awuyi kunika intliziyo entliziyweni yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha uthando selutsha luphela emtshatweni omtsha emva kweminyaka emininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuhlala ixesha lokuphila, kodwa loo matyala awanqabile.
Kwizigaba zokuqala zokuthandana, asikwazi ngokupheleleyo ukuphazamiseka kweqabane lethu. Yaye yile nkxalabo. Emva kwakho konke, ngexesha, xa iimvakalelo zibuthathaka, siyaqala ukuvavanya imeko kwaye ngamanye amaxesha siphuma ngokumangaliswa kuye esihlala naye. Ngamanye amaxesha bathanda kunye neentlobo zonke zokububula kunye ne-ahampererastaet nje kuphela kwisondo.
Kulowo mfazi, uthando nguye aphefumulayo, uphila. Kwaye naphezu kwazo zonke izinto ezingenangqondo esizenzayo ngenxa yothando, sinokugqiba ukuba kubalulekile.
Umtshato
Kubafazi, isiqingatha somtshato sisimo. Ukutshintsha isikhundla sabo sentlalo, sifuna ukwenza impembelelo kwabanye, kwaye nonke. Oku kunzulu kwi-subconscious yethu. Ukuvumelanisa nomtshato, sifuna ukubonakalisa kubazali ukuba bakhule kwaye baba zimeleyo, bahlobo-ukuba babonise ukuba ndilungile kangakanani, ukuba banyulile namnye njalo. Kwaye abaninzi abafazi abatshatileyo bakholelwa ukuba banomona. Nangona kunjalo, isizathu esona sizathu sokuba amantombazana atshadele ukhuseleko loluntu. Emva kwakho konke, ngamnye wethu ufuna ukukhubeka kunye nobumnene, ukufumana ingqalelo kunye nokunakekelwa kwindoda. Ngaphezu koko, xa esatshatile, intombazana iyaqonda ukuba akayi kuba nexhala ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle kwesikhashana emsebenzini, ukukhulelwa okungenzeka, ubunzima bezezimali, imisebenzi yasekhaya. Emva koko, kuya kuba negalelo elinamandla kwaye elithembekileyo elikulo.
Abo bhinqa abakwazi ukuzibona emtshatweni bayonwabile kakhulu. Kodwa, ngelishwa, a baninzi kubo.
Emva kokuba sihlolisise iimbono zesigxina samabhinqa kwizinto ezinzulu, sinokuqhubela phambili kwiimbono zendoda kulezi zinto ezifanayo. Kule meko, asiyi kuqwalasela uluhlu lwamadoda ahlala ngesondo kuphela. Umfanekiselo wethu uhlakaniphile, uyomelele, uhlala uhlala, kunye neensimbi zentsimbi kunye namandla, indoda. I-Ithaca ayikho encinci, njengoko kubonakala ngathi.
Ngesondo
Ubundlobongela bubuqu kunye nolwalamano. Kungenxa yoko, ngeli xesha kunokubonakalisa izinto ezahlukeneyo, esingaziqondi ukuba ziphila kwansuku zonke. Ngexesha lesini, indoda isengozini kakhulu, ivulekile kwaye ayikhuseli. Ngoko ke, ngandlela-thile, isondo singabonwa njengesenzo sokuthembela. Kule ngongoma umntu atheka ukuba aqine aze aphenduke "yinyama enothando." Ukuze umntu abonise iimvakalelo zakhe akulula, kodwa ukuba wenza oko, qiniseka, nto mbazana, ukuba uyathemba ngokupheleleyo. Uzama ukukholisa umlingane wakhe kwaye enze ingqalelo kuye. Ngexesha elifanayo, kufuneka ayanelise iimfuno zakhe kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubonise ubulumko.
Kwindoda, isondo, okokuqala kunye nokubalulekileyo, ukuqinisekiswa ngokwakho. Emva koko uyazimela ngokwakhe.
Uthando
Amadoda ambalwa kuphela abonisa iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye nangakumbi bababonise esidlangalaleni. Ngoko ke, njengomthetho, umntu onothando uzama ukubonisa uthando kumntu othile. Uya kuba nomthandane kunye nothando kunye nekhaya elinothando, kodwa kuluntu angakhokelela ngokungafaniyo. Kodwa ekhaya uya kuba ulungele ukwenza yonke into: uhlambe izitya, wenze isidlo sakusihlwa uze uhlambulule indlu xa ebuzwa ngayo.
Vumela amadoda ukuba angabonakali ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zabo ngamazwi, kodwa akulungele ukuhamba ukuzidela. Bazama ngazo zonke iindlela ukuze benze ubomi bomntu obathandayo bulula, bhetele, bukhanyise, bumnandi kwaye buninzi. Ukuphila ngenxa yentombazana, egameni lakhe. Le mvakalelo inokuhlala iminyaka yobudala.
Ngoko, bafazi abathandekayo, kukho amadoda enene. Kwaye njengoko ubona, banako ukuthanda kakhulu kwaye banomdla njengoko senzayo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo banqwenela ukubonisa uthando lwabo ngezenzo, kungekhona ngamagama.
Umtshato
Kulo nyathelo, bambalwa abagqitywayo. Abanye badinga ixesha elide lokutshata. Kwakungekho malunga neemvakalelo. Inyaniso kukuba umntu uyesaba olo tshintsho. Emva koko, abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba xa utshata, inkululeko ilahlekile, nto ibaluleke kakhulu kubaninzi. Abanye bavele bengabalulekanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwahlukanisa kubakho ngenxa yephulo lamadoda. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba unike isandla kunye nentliziyo kwintombazana, kufuneka ucinge ngenyameko: "Ngaba ulungele ukudala intsapho kwaye uthathe uxanduva?". Ukutshata, kufuneka ulwa neminqweno yakho, imigaqo kunye neenjongo. Indawo yokuqala kufuneka ibeke iimfuno zomfazi nabantwana. Kwimigxala yamadoda athile abatshatileyo balele ezo ngxaki ezingabakhathaleli nhlobo. Kwaye into eyona nto iyingozi kubantu kukuba ngoku ayiyi kuba yedwa kubo, kodwa nakweyesiqingatha. Kwaye i-intle yabo babini iya kuxhomekeka kuzo.
Umtshato ngowona mthwalo uxanduva, oloyikisa bonke abameli beesigxina sabantu. Kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza malunga nale nto. Nangona loo mntu ngokwakhe engayiqondi ukuba ulungele isinyathelo esinzulu, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo.
Njengoko ubona, amadoda namabhinqa ahluke kakhulu. Thina, bafazi, banomnene kwaye banomdla, abanemvakalelo kunye nobuthathaka. Abafana - ngokuchaseneyo, musa ukubonisa iimvakalelo nokuthetha kakhulu ngothando. Kulula kubo ukuba bachaze zonke iimpawu zokuziphatha. Kodwa ke, ukuba ufumana umntu ongokoqobo onokuziphatha okuphezulu, ngoko unokuqiniseka ngekhesenti ekhulwini. Ngalo mntu, intombazana nganye iya kuziva ikhuselekile, ithandwa kwaye ivuya.