Isibheno sezesondo kunye nomtsalane ngamnye wesibini akuxhomekeke kubuhle obungaphandle, kodwa kwi-charm yangaphakathi. Abanye abancinci abasetyhini abavusa umdla kubo bonke abantu besini esahlukileyo. Kwaye le nto yinto yokuba abayintombi.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba amadoda akayi kukunyamekela, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama nzima kangakanani, akusisizathu sokucaphukisa, ngenxa yokuba unokusebenza kwisibheno sakho sesini, ukuphucula kulo lonke ubomi. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ube nefuthe kwaye ulandele ulwimi lomzimba, kunye nokuhlawula ngokwaneleyo ukubonakala kwakho.
Isimo sengqondo
Kusuka nawuphi na umntu uvela ukuhamba kwamandla. Okulungileyo okanye kakubi - kuxhomekeke kwinto esiyicinga ngayo kunye noko sivakalelwa. Isimo sengqondo asibonakalwanga nje kwintetho ebusweni, kodwa nakwilwimi lomzimba, ngezinye izihlandlo esingaqapheliyo.
Ukuba unesimo sengqondo esibi kunye nobuso obungathandabuzekiyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu uya kufuna ukudlala ngothando nawe. Iingcali sele zibonakalise ukuba abantu abavulekileyo abavulekileyo bathetha ngokukhawuleza ukuba baqhagamshelane nesini esahlukileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, isimo sengqondo esihle sandisa amathuba akho okufumana umntu wamaphupha akho.
Kungenzeka ukuba xa uphume ngaphandle kweentlobo, wayesaba ukuthetha nendoda enokuthanda kakhulu ukuthetha nawe. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na emphefumlweni wakho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abo bajikelezile bazi malunga nalo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu unokuba nomoya obi, kodwa eli lizwe akufanele lihlale liphela. Kufuneka ufunde ukuzonwabisa ngezinto ezinjengezulu lezulu, isidlo sasekuseni esimnandi, ingoma enhle kwirediyo. Umntu othungela i-positive, ukhangela umdla wesini esahlukileyo. Khumbula, amadoda ayithandi ukudabuka, abafazi abangenelisekile.
Ngoko, ukuxhatshazwa kobucala bokuqala kuyimvakalelo enokuthi inokukunceda ukuba ube nethemba kunye nemvakalelo emihle.
U mtsalane
Wonke umfazi othanda ukuthanda amadoda kufuneka azame ukuba mnandi. Oku akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba ube ngumzekelo kwaye ujonge izinto ezimangalisayo, njengebuhle kunye nebali lokubambisa. Emva koko, kukho abesifazana abavela phambili bebukeka bephelele, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile bahlaziye abanye, besithi igama elinye.
Kuza kube yimhla, ingqungquthela. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukungafezeki kwamanye angaphandle kukunika umntu ithuba elikhethekileyo lokukhangela. Umzekelo amadoda anjengoTilShwiger okanye uRalph Bauer, onobonakala obuqhelekileyo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo izigidi zamabhinqa emhlabeni jikelele ziphupha ngala madoda angamaqabane.
Wonke umntu kufuneka athole indlela yakhe, kwaye alandele le ndlela ngokusebenzisa ubomi. Ungazami ukukholisa ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba unomdla kwintlobo ethile yamadoda, kufuneka ukhethe umfanekiso ocolileyo owufaneleyo, ngokwandisa amathuba akho okuphumelela. Ngokuchasene nenkolelo esithandwayo yokuba iintshaba ziyakhangwa, umntu ngamnye uyazifuna ngokufanayo.
Qala ngokukhetha iimpahla eziphathekayo. Hlola indlela ozenza ngayo kunye neenwele ukuze wenze utshintsho olufunekayo. Ukuba zonke ezi ngxenye zomfanekiso wakho zihambelana nawe, kuthetha ukuba awukhangeki nje kuphela, kodwa unqwenelekayo kumadoda.
Imfihlelo yesibini yobundlobongela: ukukhangwa okunokufezekiswa ngokugxininisa isidima.
Ulwimi lweelwimi
Kufuneka uqale nge-posture. Akunakwenzeka ukuba intombazana eneentloko ezigobileyo iya kuthanda. Kodwa umntu oziqhenyayo ungumqondiso wokuzithemba kwaye loo nto ibhinqa kakhulu.
Gxininisa kulwimi lomzimba wakho, thobela ingqalelo, usebenze ekuphuculeni i-posture. Kwaye uziva ukhululekile. Khumbula, ukusuka ecaleni ukuba ukhange umdla kwaye ukhangeke, kufuneka uncumo oluhle, uhambe kakuhle, ubambe intloko yakho phezulu, jonga abantu ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ngobubele, ube namandla kunye nokuzithemba.
Ukuqonda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ulwimi lomzimba, cingela le meko mzekelo njengomzekelo. Amadoda amancinci amabini ahlaselwa kwi-counter. Bobabini babonakala bebukeka bebuhle kwaye bembethe kakuhle. Omnye wabo ufunda iphephandaba ngentshisekelo, ngokumomotheka ngokukhululekile kwi-waitress, eyala ikhofi. Ngamahlathini akhe, ngexesha lokumomotheka, kubonakala ukukhanya, ngelixa ekupheleni komlomo wakhe umncintiswano omncinci ubonakala. Ukusuka kuye, kude kube kude, amandla athile afikayo. Indoda yesibini inembonakalo engenakufikeleleka kunye nokubonakalisa ukungaxilwanga kobuso, iingcambu zomlomo zishiywe, kwaye akukho nto ingabonakaliyo. Kubonakala sengathi uxabana nomntu. Ukusuka kuye, kunye nokuxhatshazwa okanye ukuvutha umsindo. Cinga ngoluphi na kula madoda oza kuziwa? Ngokuqinisekileyo, iphendula.
Ngoko, imfihlo yesithathu yokufihla: jonga ulwimi lomzimba wakho. Ukunyuka kwakho, ukubukeka, ukumamatheka kufuneka kukhanyeke ngokuthe tye, kwendalo, kuvule, kubenobungane.