Ukuba ubona izibangela zokukhathala kubudlelwane nomhlobo wakho, kufuneka wenze ntoni kwimeko enjalo? Ude usondelele ixesha elide, kwaye sele ulungele ukwamkela ukunikezelwa kwesandla nentliziyo. Kungenxa yokuba lixesha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kuthethwa ukuba utshatile okanye ubaleke. Zonke iinzame zakho zokucacisa iiplani zakhe zekamva lakho kunye zikhubeke ngodonga olungenanto. Ulwalamano ludlulela kwiinqanaba ezahlukeneyo, kwaye ukuqinisa omnye wabo ngokungapheliyo kubangela ukupholisa. Kwaye ukuba kukho ukukhathala ebudlelwaneni nomntu othandekayo, kufuneka ndiyenze ntoni? Isisombululo kule ngxaki "siyaqhayisa" abo baneengxaki zekhaya.
Ewe, umbuzo wezindlu weprojekthi ofuna ukuphazamisa. Ngaloo ndlela, into encinane ishintshile kwiminyaka eyikhulu yokugqibela. Ubomi kwindlu yokuhlala eqeshwe, xa ufanele ufumane ukuphela kwemigangatho yintando yokuqala kuphela. Emva koko uba ngumxholo wokumangalelwa kunye kunye nokuhlambalaza. Kwakhona kubangelwa izibangela zokukhathala kwintsebenziswano kunye nomntu othandekayo kunokuthi kubangelwe ukukwazi ukuhlangana rhoqo. Oku kubhekisela kubudlelwane ekude, xa abathandi bezinye izizathu bahlala okanye basebenza kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo. Ngexesha elithile, ndifuna ukuba nomntu ondibathandayo kungekhona ngeCawa yokugqibela nganye nyanga, kodwa okwangoku, kule ntsuku yamvula, xa ndidiniwe kakhulu, xa ndibuhlungu kwaye ndifuna nje ukusela itiye ndawonye ekhitshini. Esinye isizathu kukuba xa elinye iqabane lingonelelwanga ngobomi besondo, kodwa oku kuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Yiyo yonke imbangela yokukhathala ngokubhekiselele kwintanda ethandekayo, zingaphi izibini ezingazi.
Iimpawu zokukhathala ebudlelwaneni. Uhlala ufumanisa ubuhlobo. Kubonakala kuye ukuba kukho konke ukuphosakela kwakho ngokungahambi kakuhle nokungafanelekanga, kuwe-ukuba inqaku lonke liyi-slob kunye ne-narcissistic bore. Ukuthetha ngesidlo sakusihlwa, ukhetha uchungechunge, i-magazine "AutoMir". Ngelo xesha, iinzame zokwabelana ngezinto ezifundwayo okanye ezibonwayo zibangelwa ukucasula. Uyavuya xa ngeveki uya kumama ukuba alungise itompu, ucebisa ukuba udibana neentombi zakho rhoqo. Kwaye njalo. Wonke umntu unempawu zakhe ezingenakunqandeka kunye ne "imivumba". Emva koko, kuvuyiswa nje ngovuyo ngokulinganayo.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngokukhathala kwintsebenziswano? Musa ukwesaba. Ekugqibeleni, into yokuba oku kwenzekayo kulwalamano lwakho kuqinisekiswa kuphela kukuba ubuhlobo buba khona. Ngoko ke, banokutshintshwa ngokuthanda. Ukuba kunjalo, kunjalo. Emva koko, iimvakalelo zifana nokuphila. Ihamba kuzo zonke izigaba - ukususela ebuntwaneni kuze kube yiminyaka yobudala. Kodwa iyakwazi ukutshabalalisa ebuntwini bokuphila ngokunyamekela kakubi nokunyanzelwa. Ulwalamano lwakho kufuneka lukhule, luphuhlise, lulethe uvuyo, mhlawumbi luya kuphelela. Uyakhumbula indlela ozive ngayo okokuqala kwiinyanga zokuwa othandweni? Yintoni evuyayo, ephazimulayo, engakhathaliyo kunye noloyiko olungenaloyika? Khumbula uze uzame ukuvuselela loo mvakalelo ngengqondo.
Izikhumbuzo ezimnandi ziza kunceda ukubuyisela imeko yale maphiko kunye nokunceda ukhathala kwintsebenziswano. Yaye imvakalelo ihlala idluliselwa kumntu othandekayo. Iintshaba zakho endleleni eya kunqoba ukukhathala kwintsebenziswano - ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nokuzihlaziya.