Kodwa sithetha ngobudlelwane bobuqu, ngoko ke, singaphambuki kwisihloko, masizame ukuqonda izilungiso zokusebenzisana kwezi zakhiwo ezinzima njengowendoda kunye nomfazi.
I mpazamo za bafazi
Ukuqonda, ukuvakalelwa kunye nokuhlukahluka kukubalulekileyo bendalo besifazane. Siyabulela kule mpawu ayenako ukudala ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nobuhle. Kodwa izixhobo ezintle ezifihlakeleyo kwizandla ezingenakho ziba yinto ekhoyo yokutshatyalaliswa. Ngako oko, ungakwazi ukulawula indlela ovakalelwa ngayo, ukuphazamiseka ngobubele kunye neengxaki, unokuba:
Ukufuna
Masithi kukho umfana omhle, kukho iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nezicwangciso ezide. Kodwa into ephosakeleyo. Ewe, ake sithi unokwethenjelwa. Ngoko yintoni? Kodwa akazi ukuba uthetha njani amazwi amnandi. Isethi epheleleyo ayigqibekanga. Kwaye "akusiyo isistim esipheleleyo" andifanelekanga okanye akunjalo - akayithandanga ngokwaneleyo, ukuba uyayithanda - wayenokwenza konke, kuphela ukuba awuzange uhlupheke. Kwaye ukuva malunga nalo, kufuneka, kwaye kaninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka!
Iinyembezi, ukucaphuka kunye neengcambu akuzona iindlela ezingcono zokudala ukudibanisa ngobudlelwane. Oku kuya kubakhokelela ekubambeni, okanye ukuqhubeka nomzimba wokuzimela. Zonke izihlandlo ezingathandeki zingaxutyushwa ngokuzinzile. Emva koko, awuphelelanga kuyo yonke into. Ungabi yintloko, kwaye ngoko ufuna ukuba ngcono kuwe. Yaye yintoni injongo yokwenza izinto, ukuba ithuba lokubona i-grimace ebusweni bomntu othandekayo liphakame ngaphezu kokumomotheka? Kulula ukuba "ibastard" kunye ne "chump".
Ukuzincama
Enye impazamo eqhelekileyo yinto xa umfazi echithwa ngokweqile kumthandi wakhe. Ukulungele yonke into kuye: ukuzondla iminqweno yakhe, iinkolelo kunye nabahlobo, ukuxolela zonke iintlungu kwaye ulungele zonke izinto ezimbi. Eli qhinga alipheli kakuhle nantoni na. Okokuqala, ukuba umntu akanalo isabelo esaneleyo sokuziphatha, yena, ngaphandle kokucinga kabini, uya kuthatha ukuba usebenze kwaye ngokukhawuleza okanye emva koko uya kutshintshela kwisiqendu "seebhokhwe" ezikhankanywe ngentla. Kwaye okwesibini, ukunyaniseka okukhulu nokuzikhukhumeza kukuba, kuyamnandi, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ikhula ibe yinto engenayo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ixhala.
Njalo
Ngentombazana ethandwayo, umnqweno wokubona umthandi wakhe naliphi na umzuzu wamahhala ungaphezulu kwendalo. Ulindela oku kusuka kwintanda yakhe. Kubonakala kuye ukuba "ukuphula" rhoqo ngumqondiso omkhulu wothando. Kodwa intanda ayinakukwazi ukwabelana ngesimo esixhomekeke kuso. Amadoda nabasetyhini baneempembelelo ezahlukeneyo ngezinto ezinjalo. Uhle kwaye unqweneleka kuye, kodwa ukuba uzive, akufuneki ukuba ube ngeenxa zonke. Enyanisweni, ukuba iintlanganiso zakho zizaliswa zihlazo kunye neinyembezi, ziya kuba zingaphantsi, kwaye uya kulahlekelwa ngumgangatho wakho njengomntu othakazelisayo. Ukongezelela, ukuba umntu "uyaziqhatha" kuphela kuwe, uza kufumana nini "mammoth"?
Zizimeleyo
Ewe, akukho mntu uthi kufuneka ube ngumfana osemncinci ongenakukwazi ukuphendula ngenxa yezenzo zakho, kodwa ukuba uhlala uthatha isinyathelo, soloko ushiya igama lokugqibela kwaye wenze izigqibo zakho, umntu wakho uya kuphumla, nokuba yintoni efanelekileyo , zakompleksuet kunye nokuphepha.
I mpazamo zabantu
Nangona ngokuqhelekileyo kukholelwa ukuba iimpazamo phakathi kobudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini zikhokelela kwinxalenye enkulu ekungabikho kobulumko bentombi, kwaye amadoda ayenokukwazi ukukhokela emoyeni, angakwazi ukukhupha ngokukhawuleza "ukuqhuma".
Izithembiso ezingenanto
Zinikezwa phantse bonke abantu. Mhlawumbi zonke iintombazana ziye zakuva "iinkwenkwezi ezivela esibhakabhakeni" ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe. Qiniseka ukuba uyayikhumbula. Kwaye ulinde. Kungcono ukuba uthembeke kwaye ujonge iqabane oza kuguqulwa kuyo kwiimbono zobudlelwane. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokuthanda, awuyi kuthetha, kwaye mhlawumbi unyanisekile kuloo mzuzu. Kodwa kungcono ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ngezenzo, kungekhona amagama.
Iingcamango zengqondo
Ukuba ubona ukuba intombazana ixinekeke ngento ethile (kuquka nawe), akudingeki ukuba uqinisekise ubungqina bakhe obude kwaye awuphumelelanga (uya kukhankanya nawe), kwanele ngokwanele ukuba uxhomeke kwaye uxolise (akudingeki ukuba ufike emadolweni). Ukuba ayisebenzi, ngaba unetyala kakhulu, okanye phambi kwakho ityala elingenathemba.
Ithemba lokuxolelwa kwabafazi
Ukuba uye wakhubekisa kakhulu umfazi, akunakho ukukholelwa ukuba uya kuxolela, nangona akanakukubonisa. Kwaye ukuba uhlala exolela, ke ngelinye ilanga elihle, ngokungalindelekanga, ungabuya ekhaya uvela emsebenzini kwaye ubone i-suitcase edibeneyo (eyakho, kuxhomekeka kwiimeko zezindlu kunye neemeko). Ubuqhetseba abuxolelwe.
Ubunzima kunye nolwazi
Abasetyhini inxalenye enkulu abanako ukuma. Emva koko, bafuna ukuhlala behleli beentombi ezilungileyo. Ukuqhelanisa kunye ne-banter yindlela echanekileyo yokuthintela ubudlelwane. Okufanayo kuya kwindlela epholileyo: iisokisi kwi-chandelier, njl. (kakuhle, uyazi).
Ukunciphisa ngokweqile
Ukuba ulungele iiyure ezingama-5 ukulinda kwiqanda - kuya kuba, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kumnandi kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba imeko enjalo iyaziphindaphinda ngokunyamezela, oko kungakhokelela kwingcamango yokuba akukho nto enokuyenza. Amaqhawe anjalo athande kakhulu ... ukuqokelela. Kodwa ngaphaya kwalokhu, le nto ayinakwenzeka ukuqhubeka. Kukho konke kufuneka kube nomlinganiselo wenani.
Ewe, ezi ziyona mpazamo eziqhelekileyo ekudlelaneni kwindoda kunye nomfazi. Ingxaki yethu enkulu yinto ejwayelekile yabantu. Khumbula ukuba emva kwakho ngumntu ongafanelanga ukuhambelana nayo nayiphi na iminqweno kunye nezimvo zakho.