Ngokomzekelo, isibini esitshatileyo esiphila iminyaka emininzi emtshatweni kunye nokuba nabantwana abadala baye baziphelisa ngokwabo ubudlelwane kunye nabatshatileyo banombono wokuthi into kufuneka iguqulwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiimeko ezinje, ukuzonwabisa okutsha kubonakala, okunye kuxhomekeke kumntu ngokwakhe, okanye isiqabane siphula, okanye sihlala kunye. Kule meko abanye bajonge ngokunyaniseka, nangona kungabikho bobabini bomtshato le meko iyamkeleka. Inxalenye eyona nzima kunabesifazane. Ekubeni iphinda ilawule ubomi bakhe bodwa banobunzima. Nangona, ukuba kukho amadoda kule meko, bangase balahlekelwe ukuzithemba, ngenxa yokuba, njengokuba uyazi, amadoda ahlala ejongene neengxaki zobomi, kwaye ukuba abanalo iqabane elifanelekileyo, banokuxiliswa ngokugqithiseleyo kotywala.
Ngoku khawuqwalasele le ngxaki ukusuka kwelinye icala: "Kwintlungu yomntu, awuyi kulonwaba". Inani elikhulu labesetyhini njengamadoda aphile ebomini, kutheni "bekhula" ngokwabo, ukuba 'unako' ukuthatha? Kwaye bakhetha ukuhlala nomntu otshatileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu, ngokuqhelekileyo sele benayo intsapho yabo, oko kukuthi, njengoko bethetha, bonke abantu abalungileyo bavame ukusebenzisa. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba ekuqaleni kwezinto zesini esitshatileyo zineengxaki ezithile zezezimali, ingakumbi ukuba zicwangcise abantwana ziselula. Kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukuze "wenze" ubutyebi abathile buhlala ixesha elide, kakuhle, iimbilini, kunjalo! Kwaye ngeli thuba ububuntu bomntu bukhula, kuba nawuphi na umfazi uzama ukuvelisa iimpawu ezilungileyo kuye aze enze oko kuthiwa "indoda efanelekileyo", ngokwemvelo ngokwakhe!
Amantombazana amancinci sele esele axoshe amadoda abacebileyo kuya kuba nzima ukuba aphinde afundise kwaye aphile kunye nendoda esitshatileyo ayilula, ngelo xesha sele sele eneempawu zabo kunye nemikhwa engakwazi ukuhlala ihamba nayo. Ngoko ukuba njani kwimeko enjalo, intombazana ingahlala njani nendoda esatshatileyo? Emva koko, ukuba sele sele uzimisele ukucaphukisa intsapho yakho, ngoko ufumana phi ithemba lokuba ngexesha lakho kuya kufumaneka kuwe? Nangona abantu abaninzi bengacingi ngako kwaye baphila ngomgaqo: "Lowo ongathathi ingozi, akayiphuzi i-champagne." Nangona ubomi bunokuthatha ukujika okungalindelekanga. Apha, umzekelo, isibini esitshatileyo esasandula ukutshata siselula. "Ngokuqinisekileyo" banomntwana ongacwangciswanga, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, kudla ngokuphela komtshato, nangona isi sibini esilungele ubomi bentsapho kunye nobomi obuqhelekileyo. Isiphumo salo, ngokuqinisekileyo, sivukelo. Ukuba umntu uqala ukutshintsha, ke abafazi bavala amehlo abo, bazama ukugcina, oko kuthiwa "intsapho" okanye oko kushiywe kuyo, njengoko baqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba kunzima ukuba umntwana aqale ulwalamano olutsha.
Kwaye kwimiba enjalo ukuba yonke into isala njengoko kunjalo. Kule meko, inkosikazi iya kuyaneliswa yiyo yonke into ngaphandle kweyona nto ibalulekileyo: "isitampu kwipasipoti", kwaye mhlawumbi uhlala nomntu otshatileyo uya kunyamezela. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu kubalulekile. Ekubeni akazibekeli injongo yokutshata. Kwanele ukuba le ndoda ibonelele ngemali, akayi kuzama ukutshabalalisa intsapho, kuba yona yindlela enye kuphela kwindlela yokuphila, kwaye ke, ukuba unqwenela, unokutshata nomntu oyithandayo ngokwenene, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uphumelele. Kule mihla kuyaqhelekile kwaye ufikelela kwizigqibo, ngokuqinisekileyo wena ngokwakho!