Akungabazeki ukuba ukuphumelela ekudaleni kubangele ukuqonda komzwelo kunye namava omzwe afunyanwa ebuntwaneni. Iimbusi zobuchule zibangelwa iingcamango zabantwana, ukuvelelwa kwemvakalelo, ukuqonda komnye umntu okwenzekayo. Kodwa kubantu abadala le ngcamango ebonakalayo ibonakala ingenangqondo kwaye ayifanelekanga ingqalelo.
Ngamanye amaxesha unokubona umfanekiso xa umntu omdala ebamba into, okanye umane ubonisa umfanekiso kumntwana kunye namazwi igama lento eboniswayo. Ingane ibona oku ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Umntwana ubonakala ukuba umatshini ubonakala njengenja entle yentle, kunye ne-teapot-intlanzi. Kodwa umntu omdala unxusa kumntwana ukuba ukhumbule igama elichanekileyo kumbono womzali. Umzali uzama ukufundisa umntwana wakhe ngengqondo yentlalo kunye nokuqonda kwezinto, kwaye uyaphuthelwa into yokuba umntwana uphatha ihlabathi ngokubaluleka.
Umzali kufuneka azitshintshe ngokwakhe, okokuqala, ukuphuhlisa ubunako bokudala bomntwana. Abantu abadala banamhlanje abakwazi ukudlala, bacingisisa njengomntwana, bafuna ukubheka izinto ezinzulu, endaweni yokuzonwabisa okanye abangenanto. Bayesaba ukuphula imithetho yokuziphatha yabantu. Nangona kunjalo, iindlela ezintle zokwelapha ezinokunika ithuba lokuphumla, ukuphumula, ukuphefumlelwa ngumdlalo, ubuqili, ukuhamba ngokukhululeka kwindalo.
Ukudlala kunye nomntwana wakho, ebonisa ukucinga, abantu abadala banokutshintsha. Kuphela umntu ohlala ehlakulela ubuntu unokuncedisa umntwana ebalini lakhe ngenja yomlingo eyanikwa yona, ukwakha indlu yeebhokisi ezindala, abe yilwanyana engekhoyo kwaye umema intaka yommelwane kunye nomatshini wokutyelela ukutyelela. Isiseko somsebenzi wokudala yinto yokwakhiwa kweenganekwane, imilolozo, ukubhala inkondlo kunye nomntwana oneminyaka elilodwa.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba iindlela zemfundo ethandwayo ziquka ukuphuhliswa kwengcamango yomntwana. Inkqubo yokufundisa abantu iyakwazi ukulungelelanisa nayiphi into yasemakhaya ibe yinto yokudlala: ukuqala ngekhoyili eneemfono, iibhande kunye neengubo, iimboti zokhuni, amasebe, ukuya kwiphonji eboshiweyo okanye iisokisi ngendlela yentloko kunye nengubo evela ngaphantsi. Ngomsebenzi wesikolo, umzali uhlala ecaleni lakhe kwaye umnika ithuba lokudlala ngezinto ezahlukeneyo zasendlini. I-spoon yamatye ingasungulwa ngesandla, ukusuka emadolweni, ukusuka emkhombeni, igqoke intloko yomntwana, okanye ifake kwi-shelf, ngelixa ithi: "Awu, uphume phi! Ngoku mthabathe! " Awu, yeka indlela enhle ngayo, evela phezulu iyakuthanda, kodwa uyamomotheka! "
Kubantu kwimidlalo yokudala, nayiphi into inokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza intsingiselo yayo: iindubhu, ezazingaphambi kwenkukhu kunye nenkukhu, zijika ngokukhawuleza zibe ngamajoni okanye ziqeqeshe ngeendlela. I-spoon yamaplanga, eboshwe ngesango, imele ibhinqa elibalulekileyo, kwaye ngomzuzu unokuba ngumntwana onomntwana, ukuba ukhulule i-shawl uze ugubungele i-spoon kuyo.
Kwakhona iphinda isetyenziswe umdlalo wokudlala, apho umntwana ngokwakhe eyona nto iyintloko yokubetha. Ngokomzekelo, benza izinto ezinjalo zengcinga ngentsana: "Hayi, ngoku ndiza kuphosa umntwana ongenalutho emthini!" - kwaye wongeza ngokukhawuleza: "Hayi, andiyi kwenza, kuba iVanya yam iyathobela kwaye inomusa!". Umdlalo apho abantu abadala babonakalisa isilwanyana badume kakhulu: inkomo okanye ihashe, ngelixa linikela umntwana ukuba agibele kwaye azive ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukubamba ihashe xa ugila umsila.
Olu hlobo lokumnandi luqeqeshelwa imemori yomntwana, oluchaphazela kakuhle ukuphuhliswa kwengcamango, luvelisa ummandla weemvakalelo kunye nomnqweno wokuhlola umhlaba.
Ukubaluleka ngokukhethekileyo kukufundisa okuqhelekileyo: kukusetyenziswa kwamahlaya kunye neziphakamiso, ukuhambelana kwemidlalo ngokubetha nokubetha, imidlalo edibeneyo apho umntwana kufuneka adlule nomntu omdala. Ehamba kunye nomculo oyingqineko, amagama amasha, amabinzana kunye nemigca yeenkondlo kulula ukukhumbula. Ngokusebenzisa ngokuqhelekileyo loo midlalo, imbuzi ngokwayo iya kuqalisa amagama anesigqi, ukuqokelela isingeniso samagama amatsha. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-word-making. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bangaphutheli umzuzu xa umntwana eqala ukukwenza, ukumxhasa, udumise amandla akhe amasha, ngokuqinisekileyo ukukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo kweli talente. Ukwenza oku, unako ukumnika umntwana ukuba afunde inkondlo emfutshane, mhlawumbi nangona ulwimi lwangaphandle, ingoma yabantwana okanye umdaniso, ohambelana neengoma kunye nomculo wesiqhelo.
Yilungiselele ukuba abantwana abaninzi babone ngendlela yabo, ukuqonda kwehlabathi kwintsana ehlukile kumbono omdala. Musa ukuthobela amaqhinga ekuqeqesheni umntwana, nangona unamava amahle ngokusebenzisa naziphi na iindlela ezivela kubangani bakho. Kubalulekile ukudala imimiselo yomntwana ekuphuhliseni amakhono akhe, ngokusekelwe kwintsingiselo yentsana. Emva kwayo yonke into, ekugqibeleni, into ephambili yindlela ubuninzi bokudala bomntwana obuya kubonakala ngayo, kwaye ubuninzi bawo bunokwenzeka, kwaye akusiyo imfundo yongqondo.