Mhlawumbi kunengqiqo ukuthetha malunga neengxaki ezihamba kunye nantoni na, kwanababini abonwabileyo.
Indawo yengozi.
Kukho izibini ezilula ukuba ziphile nakwixesha elinzima kakhulu ngaphandle kwemiphumo. Abanye bahlukana kwiingxaki zokuqala. Ukuze ukwazi ukuba ungalindela ntoni kubudlelwane bakho kwikamva, kuyafaneleka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba ukhona kwindawo ebizwa ngokuba yingozi.
Iingxaki zivame ukuphakama kwizibini ezihlukeneyo phakathi kwemalingani.
Ungalindeli imozulu engenamhlaba, ukuba unemfundo ehlukileyo, imfundo, isimo sezenhlalakahle, umvuzo.
Abatshatileyo banokungafani, bacebile umhlaba ukusekwa kweentlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo.
Into enokuthi ingabizwa ngokubahlala nabazali, ezinye izihlobo okanye abamelwane nje.
Endaweni yomngcipheko iwele iimbini eziqhuba iinjongo ezahlukeneyo, apho isimo sengqondo kwintsapho sibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ukongezelela, abantwana bayibalulekileyo ebalulekileyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubukho babo buyakomeleza ingxaki kwiintsebenziswano, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukungabikho kwabantwana akubasindisi kwiingxaki.
Xa kufuneka ulinde isivunguvungu.
Iingcali zengqondo azivumelani kule nto. Kuphawulwa ukuba iingxaki zokuqala ezibudlelwaneni zivela xa eso sibini sitshatyalaliswa. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka emva konyaka emva kokuqala kokubambisana ubomi.
Amaphuzu okujika alandelayo ayenzeka yonke iminyaka engama-4-5. Ezinye izinto ezichaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuya kubakho iintlungu kwaye ezinamandla ziza kuba zilandelayo.
Kukho izibini ezithandana nabo abazingatshintshi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zichazwe ngabafundi beengqondo. Abanye bacinga nje inkathazo ye-5 okanye kwiminyaka eyi-10, kwaye bayamangalisa ukubona ukuba lesi sigaba aside sibe ngowokuqala kubo.
Iimpawu zentlekele ezayo.
Akunakutsholwa ukuba ingxaki ivela ngokukhawuleza ngosuku oluthile kunye nexesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kude kube ngumzuzu obalulekileyo, abatshatileyo banokuzibona iimpawu ezithile, apho umntu angazifumana xa kufika ingxaki yeengxaki kwaye xa kufika i-denouement.
-Ukuphuculwa komsebenzi wesondo.
Ukungabikho kobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunokususa ingxabano, kodwa kube yinto engumngcipheko weqhwithi langempela.
-Ayikho umnqweno wokuvusa umdla kumlingane.
Ngale nqanaba bathi okuningi: abatshatileyo abakhathaleli ngokubukeka kwabo ngasese kunye nomnye, vumela u-slovenliness kwaye ungaboni ukutshintshana komnye nomnye.
-Ukukwazi ukufumana ingcamango.
Ukuba ngowomnyaka wokuqala wokuhlala ndawonye kunye novuyo kwaye unelungelo lokufumana isisombululo kwiingxaki eziza kukunelisa zombini, ngoku kungenye indlela, kwaye wonke umntu uthabatha ingubo.
-Ukungahambi kokuqonda.
Kule nqanaba abayithethayo, xa uva ukuba abafazi baqalisa ukuthetha ulwimi ezahlukeneyo. Namazwi alula kwaye aqondakalayo ngamanye amaxesha adala ukuphendula ngokungonelanelekanga, kwaye intsingiselo yento ekuthethwe ngayo ayifinyelelanga kwi-addressee.
-Ubuchule kwiinkcukacha.
Ngoku akudingeki ukuba ube nengxaki ebalulekileyo yokuxabana, kukho naziphi na izigwebo ezizayo.
- Iindidi zokulinganisa ezahlukeneyo.
Kuqhelekile ukuba kwisiqabane esithile sitshatileyo senza indima yenkokeli, kwaye yesibini-ikhoboka. Ngethuba lexesha leengxaki, amaqabane athetha ukutshintsha iimbopheleleko zabo ngabo bonke amaqiniso kunye nokunyaniseka, okwenza ukuba imeko iyenze.
-Ubuxoki.
Ukungathembeki kuthatha ifom ecacileyo. Ezi zizityholo zobugwenxa, nokuba ngaba kungekho sizathu kubo, ezi ziimangalo zezenzo ezingazange zicingwe ngazo.
Njani ukuba?
Okokuqala, qinisa. Inkxalabo yezobudlelwane akuyiyo isigwebo kulwalamano ngokwawo, ziimeko nje eziqhelekileyo kunye nokuvavanywa kwamandla.
Qaphela ukuba kuwe kukho umzuzu onzima onokuwunqoba kuphela xa unamathela ndawonye. Ukuba umgomo wakho ukugcina intsapho, isithwathwa asinakukuchaphazela.
-Bonani omnye nomnye.
Ngeli xesha elilukhuni, uza kwenza iimpazamo, okumele uxolelane.
-Hlangana nomnye.
Xa uhlala usithule kwaye uhlale ngaphakathi kwakho, sikhulu esikhulu phakathi kwakho. Ukudlala ngokulumkileyo kuya kunciphisa ukungathembeki kunye nentlungu.
-Zama ukufumana ukulungelelanisa.
Ngeli xesha, kungcono ukulibala malunga neziqulatho. Ngokukhawuleza uvuma, ngokukhawuleza iingxaki ziya kugqitywa.
-Ngenakucala abanye.
Ingxaki inokucaphukisa ngandlela-thile ngabanye abantu, kodwa abayiyo imbangela yabo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula xa ugqiba ukugxeka abanye abazali, abahlobo okanye nabantwana. Ukubonakala kwabantwana kukuvavanya kakhulu abafazi, kodwa inkathazo inokuthi ivele kwizibini apho abantwana sele bekhulile okanye apho bengekho.
-Ungayikhupheli.
Ngoku ukuxabana okungaqhelekanga ngokukhawuleza. Ukwanela ngokukhawuleza, xa ngokukhawuleza kukho izikhalazo ekuphenduleni. Zibukele kwaye uzame ukukhupha iqabane.
-Ungalibali ukuphumla.
Kubandakanya ukusuka komnye. Inkxalabo yobudlelwane akusona xesha elifanelekileyo lokuchitha iintsuku ndawonye kwi-flight. Kodwa ungazideli kakhulu, ngaphandle koko zonke iintetho phakathi kwakho ziya kutshabalala.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungesabi ukuqaphela into yokuba utshintshile, kwaye ubuhlobo bakho buye butshintshile. Imitshato engenazo ingxabano ayikho, kodwa unokuba ngumzekelo ophumelelayo wendlela elula ngayo ukunqoba naluphi na ubunzima ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yinto ephambili: inhlonipho nothando komnye nomnye.