Ngaphambi kokuthanda "ukuhlaselwa" ngokuzithemba, amadoda, nangona kunjalo, kunye nabasetyhini, nabo, banomdla. Yintoni enokuyenza ukuba akukho nto yokwakhiwa, okanye ingabe iyanyamalala emva kokuqala koqhagamshelwano lwezesondo? Ngaba kukufanelekile ukubeka uphawu olulinganayo phakathi kwamazwi athi "akukho nto yokwakhiwa", "akukho mnqweno", kwaye "akukho uthando"?
Kutheni umntu elahlekelwa ngumnqweno?
I-Sexologists iqinisekile ukuba kwiimeko ezingama-99% ukungabikho kwesakhiwo akuthethi ukuba umlingani ngokwenyama, kunye nemvakalelo, akazange abe nomdla kumlingane. Isizathu kukuba umnqweno womntu usengozini kakhulu. Cinga nje ngezinye izinto eziye zinciphisa amandla.
Ezi ziyi-disorders; izifo, izifo ze-somatic zezinto ezahlukeneyo; iingxaki kwintsapho (kwaye ngakumbi kwiintsebenziswano kunye nomlingane) okanye emsebenzini; ukuthatha amayeza athile, kunye neuroses, ukudandatheka, uxinzelelo, ukuxhala; indlela engafanelekanga yobomi, iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zemikhwa emibi; Ukugqibelela ngumnqweno wokwenza konke ngokugqibeleleyo kumdlalo wothando kunye nomlingane wakho, obangela ukuxhatshazwa okuphezulu komntu.
Ebudlelwaneni, inxaxheba yabasetyhini kunzima ukunciphisa, ingakumbi ukuba umntu uvela kwisigaba esithandanayo sobunzima. Nangona kunjalo, nobuninzi bokuzikhanyela obunelungelo lokwakheka kwebhobho zesondo banokuphelelwa yithemba ekuthandeni kwabo, bejongene nengxaki enjalo njengobuthathaka obunobuthathaka okanye obuninzi. Iphutha eliphambili labafazi abaninzi kukuba ngokukhawuleza uqala ukubeka ityala ngale ndlela. Umzekelo, "Akasandifunanga: Ndikhangeleka!". Unokumgxeka umntu - "Akasandifunanga: ufumene enye!". Iyiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokuphendula kwingxaki, ukunceda lakho iqabane?
Indlela yokusombulula kakuhle le meko
I-sexologists iqinisekile ukuba iziganeko ezinobungakanani zenzeke ngamanye amaxesha amadoda aphilileyo, enoba avuyayo, azinzibini ezikhuselekileyo. Yaye ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luhlala unyaka okanye ngaphezulu, umzimba womntu wakho unelungelo elipheleleyo lokuphila okwesikhashana, kwaye kungcono ukuzithoba ngokuthe ngolo hlobo.
Xa i-"firefire "iyenzeka ngezinye izihlandlo, ungakhathazeki kwaye ungalungiseleli iidrama. Akuyimfuneko ukubhala iqabane lakho ngendlela ye-"fashion" ye-sexologist, kunye nexabiso elingavumelekanga malunga nemizuzu engama-40 yokubonisana, okanye ukuthenga izidakamizwa ezizodwa ezingavumelekanga ukuphucula amandla omntu. Awukwazi ukuthatha imali enjalo ngokungalawulwayo, kwaye nangona kuthengiswa ngaphandle kwemvume, ngaphandle koko kukho umngcipheko wokungaphuculwa, kodwa ukonakalisa imeko. Ukuba iingxaki zomntu ngokulungiswa zihlala ziqhelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba ungalangazi ukufaka isicelo kwizcali ukuchonga nokuphelisa imbangela yesifo. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuba kungcono ukuba ungabonisanga ngempilo yeqabane lomtshato kunye nabafazi abasondeleyo, nokuba ngaba udade, unina okanye intombi.
Sinokuyicima njani imeko, sisekele indoda ethandekayo, ukuba wayenjalo imeko? Kwimibutho yamabhinqa kukho iimfihlelo ezinjalo. Sebenzisa la macebiso alandelayo. Le ngxoxo ekhulileyo, eyimfihlo. Qinisekisa umntu wakho ukuba awuboni ingxaki kwizinto ezenzekile; ukuqhuba imidlalo yendima, i-caresses yomlomo, intshukumo yokukhuthaza; inkqubo ye-spa ekhaya - umzekelo, ukuhlamba kunye namafutha anamnandi amabini, okanye ukusilalisa okuphumayo okunokubangela ukunyuka.
Lokhu kukutya okusemakhaya okuqinisa amandla omntu okuqinisa amandla omntu: ama-walnuts, i-hazelnuts, u-honey, i-fat fat fat, inyama yezilwanyana zasemanzini, amaqanda, intlanzi ephekiweyo, iimveliso zobisi ezinomuncu, imifuno, imifuno, iziqhamo kunye nesonka esinqunywe okanye isonka kwimenyu yakho yemihla ngemihla kufuneka ube yimfuneko.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kulungile ukuququzelela ngokuhlwa emva komsebenzi, ngeveki yeqabane ukuze aphumule ngaphezulu, kungekhona nje phambi kweTV ehleli kwiindonga ezine, kodwa ngokukodwa, ngokommandla, kwiqela lezempilo, kwi-sauna okanye kwi-dacha.
Ukungabikho kwesikhashana kwindoda yomntu ngokuthandana ngokwenene abantu, olwalamano lwayo oluphakathi, ukuthembela kunye nokuqonda ngokufanayo akuyona ingxaki. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuthatha ngokuzinzileyo, ukukhupha izicwangciso, kwaye uzame ukunceda umntu wakho ukulungisa.