Indlela yokuphila emva kokufa komyeni? Iingcali zeengqondo ziphendula lo mbuzo ngendlela engafanelekanga ukuba ithathe ukungena kwiintsuku zokuqala, kuba "ukuvimbela ukukhusela" kusebenza emzimbeni womntu. Ukuba umntu uwela kwindawo enjalo yokuxinwa emva kokuxinezeleka, kuthetha ukuba umzimba uyawudinga ukuba ugweme ukukhathazeka okungakumbi kwe-psyche ngokuchaseneyo. Ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumyeni wakhe, umbutho womngcwabo unokunceda ukulahla ingqungquthela, ngenxa yokuba le sizathu siqulunqwe ukwenzela ukuba abaphilileyo bangathethile umntu omthandayo, ngaloo ndlela umntu ukhulula ngokukhululekile imeko yakhe yokudandatheka.
Ngaphezu koko, unyango olungcono kakhulu loxinzelelo emva kokufa kwendoda kukulungelelaniswa kwentlalo yomfazi. Ukuqokelela izatifikethi ezahlukeneyo zokufa, ukuncoma abathandekayo babo, ukulungelelanisa i-wake-up yinto eya kunceda umntu abuyele ebomini emva kokufa komlingane.
Ukutshintshwa komntu ebomini kufanele kwenziwe ngokuthe ngcembe, ngoko ke akukho mfuneko ukuba umntu agijime umntu. Ingozi eyona nto inokulibazisa nje inkqubo yokuqhaqhaza ukukhusela ukusetyenziswa kotywala okanye ukuthatha imichiza eyahlukileyo. Ukufunyanwa kwamalungiselelo ezohlukeneyo zonyango kwiintsuku zokuqala kwimeko exinekileyo kuyimfuneko, kodwa ukwamkelwa kwamalungiselelo anikezelweyo kuphela kukunyusa inkqubo yokubuyiswa komntu kwisimo sokuxhamla. Kwaye ukuba umntu uqala ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala kunye namacwecwe, unokuhlala kulo meko.
Kananjalo uncede ukuphuma kwimeko yokubuyisa ibhayisikobho okanye ukuphulaphula umculo, ngelixa ulungele ukhetho. Ukuba umyeni wakho wayengumntu ovuyoleyo kwaye wabuya wubona i-movie kunye, ukubukela i-movie kunokukuvuselela kwaye kukubuyisele ebomini.
Kubantu abakholwayo, icawa ingaba yintuthuzelo, kuba kukho ingqondo ye-psychotherapy enamandla. Zonke iinkonzo zokungcwaba kwecawa zichanekileyo kwaye zichanekile ngokucacileyo, ezinceda abantu abaninzi. Kwakhona ecaweni unokubeka ikhandlela kwindoda yakho eyashiywe, ebantwini abaninzi banokududuzeka kakhulu. Kwakhona kunokunceda ukunxibelelana nombingeleli onokukushiya izono ezakukukhathaza kakhulu. Ngoko ke, abo bangamakholwa, icawa yindlela enamandla yokubuyela ebomini emva kokufa komyeni wakhe. Ukuba umntu akangekho ecaweni ixesha elide kwaye ukuba engasondelene naye emoyeni, ngoko ke akuvumelekanga ukuba udibe umntu apho, kuba kunokukwenza nje ukulimaza.
Ukuba umfazi olahlekelwe ngumyeni wakhe, waya emsebenzini, ngoko iinduduzo zakhe ziya kulungeleka. Oogxa banokubanceda banike uncedo ekuhleleni imingcwabo, imingcwabo, njl. Kodwa kuninzi ukudonsa umqeshwa onobuhlungu obunentsapho yakhe efunekayo kwaye ungagxina kumntu ngaphandle kokuba yena ngokwakhe efuna ukwenza njalo. Yaye ungabi ngumntu, ukhululekile emsebenzini, kuba kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba umntu ufuna ukulungelelaniswa kwentlalo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukubuya komntu kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zokusebenza kuya kunceda ubuyele ebomini. Ukuba umntu uphula umqeshwa wakhe, oogxa bakhe bafanele bawuthathele ingqalelo kwaye bahambe nje ixesha elide, ukuze umlingani wabo aqaphele iphutha lakhe kwaye axolise. Kwaye kuthetha ukuba kukho imiqondiso yokubuyiselwa kwe-psyche kwaye ngokukhawuleza iza kwiintliziyo emva kokulahlekelwa ngumthandayo.