Ngoxa sidibana, konke kulungile. Ewe, mhlawumbi ungagqibekanga, kodwa, nangayiphi na imeko, wonke umntu uzama ukujonga ngokufanelekileyo, ubonakalisa kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo. Kodwa le ngxabano yamandla ayikwazi ukuhlala ngonaphakade, kwaye ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva siyaxabana. Ukuxabana phakathi kwabathandekayo kuyahluke kumfazi oxabana nomyeni wakhe, kuba ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, ukubonakaliswa kwazo kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwiliphi izinga. Ingxabano ngexesha le-candy-sweet bouquet is sweet and beautiful, umtshato wabasandul 'ukutshata kwi-honeymoon ifana nesiqhwithi sehlobo - esiqhwithelayo, esiqhakazileyo, emva koko sisona siluhlaza kwaye sihle ngakumbi. Ingxabano phakathi komama womntwana kunye no "daddy" oye wagijima unomona, njengobusika obusika; Nangona kunjalo, lo mnqweno uyathandeka kumntu onokwakheka kwe-astringency.
Kutheni sixabana?
Ngaba akunakwenzeka ukuba uvumelane kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi kanye kunye nonke, kwaye unqande ukungcola nokuthokisayo ukuze ufumane ubuhlobo? Kuvela, akukho. Yonke ubomi iyinto yokuguqula, kwaye intsapho ibe yinto ephilayo, iyakushintsha kunye nokuhamba kwexesha. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi abuyekanga kwisinye isigaba, ngoko ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe kuyinto engokwemvelo.
Akukho nto ikumangalisayo kwimpikiswano. Siphikisana ngokuthe ngqo ngenxa yokuba kungekhona nje ukutshintsha kweemeko, kodwa nemida yethu. Sitshintsha iindima kwaye sikhula kwindawo yezenhlalakahle, kwaye sisabela kwiinguqu ezingekho ngokwethu - kuphela kuphela kanye. Ngoko ke, ngaphakathi kwintsapho kubaluleke kakhulu, emva kokutshintshwa kweso shintsho "lwangaphandle," ukwakha imida, ukucacisa imisebenzi kunye nezicelo zezwi omnye komnye. Kwaye akusoloko kuyenzeka ukususela okokuqala kwaye kungenabuhlungu - kaninzi kunxamnye noko.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, ukuxabana nomyeni okanye umfazi akusisisithuba sokuqhawula ubudlelwane. Njengoko ubomi buhlala ngaphantsi, kwaye uthando lusasentliziyweni. Kwaye ukuba badibanisa abantwana, ke kufuneka uqikelele ngendlela yokulungisa iingxabano.
Ukubandezeleka okanye ukungabandezeleka?
Sichitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomnye. Yaye yonke into ejikeleze ngethuba lithile lingabangela isizathu sokuxabana - kwizityuphu ezishiye etafuleni lekhitshini - i-nail polish okanye i-remover-remover, kwiisokisi ezahlukileyo okanye isonka esiqhekezayo. Siphila ecaleni, kwaye asisoloko sineengcamango ezifanayo malunga nokucoceka, malunga nombala ofanelekileyo kumakhethini kwindawo yokuhlambela ...
Ngaphezu koko, xa siqonde le nyaniso inye, kubalulekile kusengaphambili, ukukhumbula iingxabano ezinokwenzeka, ukuvuma ukuba nayiphi na indlela yokuziva ingxaki (ngokukhawuleza) iya kuboniswa. Oku kufanele kube ngumgangatho wokuhlala ndawonye. Emva koko, sesele 'sinyanzele' - emsebenzini nakwi-kindergarten, ukusuka apho uthabatha umntwana, kwisitoreji nakwizothutho. Kwaye kufuneka sibe nokunyamezela, ukuqonda, ukuzinza okunokwenzeka. Ngaphandle koko, lonke ixesha liya kwenzeka kwimfazwe engapheliyo.
Ekhaya akuxhomekekanga kuphela, kodwa kuyingozi. Emva koko, ukuba zombini iyakhathazeka ixesha elide, ngexesha elibucayi (xa kuphakanyiswe amaninzi amabango okanye xa kukho ikhefu elikhulu) zonke ziyaphulwa. Kwaye ngokuqala ngxabano "malunga nomonakalo wesimbozo esingenakunqandwa", ungamangalisi ukuba ekugqibeleni kokubili kwaya kubantu kwaye amabango aqala kwinqanaba "wonakalisa ubomi bam bonke". Emva koko, zombini ubuhlobo, indoda kunye nomfazi, ukuxabana nomyeni okanye umfazi kuqala ngeenjongo ezilungileyo.
Indlela yokwenza ngexesha lokuxabana - indlela efanelekileyo
Ngaphambi kokuxabana, vumela ukuba uzive uxinzelelo lobundlobongela, iimpawu eziqaqambileyo nezingenakumnandi kumlingane. Emva koko, yonke intsebenziswano phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva ichaphazela umba onzima, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuxabana nomyeni akunakwenzeka. Ukuvumela i-steam phantsi kunye ngexesha elifanayo ngokubambisana (kunye nelahleko ezincinci) ukuhoxiswa kwimpikiswano - yile ndlela yokuqhuba "i-guerrilla yasekhaya" njenge-pendulum iya kuvumela.
Kwaye ke,
- Umntu wokuqala uveza imbono - uhlobo oluthi "ukhaba" lwesibini.
- Kule meko, okwesibini unelungelo kwaye kufuneka "ukukhaba" ekuphenduleni kokuqala, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo - kunobuthakathaka.
- Olunye uchungechunge lokuhlambalaza "ekunciphiseni" (ukuthelekisana nomdabu kwiintlobo ezininzi ubudlelwane obuhlukeneyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi-ukwandisa), kwaye ngoku ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe kuya kuba yinto enobunzima ".
- Kuphela ngaphandle kokungena kwiibuntwini sinokuyicombulula iingxaki ezithile zemihla ngemihla ngaphandle kokubandakanya "abathathi-nxaxheba" ngendlela yoMasha evela kumnyango ongummelwane okanye umgcini-nkampani uKaterina, "owammangalisa ngokumangalisayo kwi-corporation".
Yonke ingxaki kufuneka ifumane isisombululo sayo, kwaye ukuthula kuyakhokelela ekubeni ezininzi iingxaki ezinobunzima zibonakala zidibene. Ngoko, akunakwenzeka ukuyixazulula. Ngoko ke, ingxabano, ukuxabana, khusela ilungelo lakho kwimpilo! Kodwa njengawe nawuphi na unyango, ingxabano kufuneka imiswe kwaye isetyenziswe ngokufanelekileyo.