Ingane inikwe i-kindergarten, umntwana uya esikolweni, loo mfana uyangena eyunivesithi, umntu uqala ukusebenza, kwaye emva kweminyaka uhlala phantsi. Usukela kwelinye idolophu, okanye emva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye, indoda yakho ikushiya ... Zonke ezi "guquka" okanye iingxaki zifuna umntu enze izigqibo, ukuphuhlisa iindlela ezintsha zokuziphatha. Sifanele sitshintshe, nokuba siyayithanda okanye cha.
Ngaba kufuneka ufundeke kwiimeko ezintsha zobomi? Ngoko, le yinkxalabo yokulungelelanisa. Ukuyiphumelela ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukuba ungagqizi, ukuqokelela ubuninzi "beenkcukacha zokucinga." Ngcono ukuxhasa umzimba wakho ngamavithamini, iiyure ezongezelelweyo zokulala, ukutya okuthandayo. Uya kubona: ngokukhawuleza inzima iya kugqitywa yodwa. Oku kusebenza ngokufanayo kumntwana omncinane oqale ukuya kwi-kindergarten, kunye nomqeshwa owaqala ukuthatha isitulo somlawuli. Banokukunceda nokuxhasa izihlobo zabo ukuba bephulaphule ngenyameko nangomntu ohlola indawo entsha yokuhlala.
Iintsapho ezininzi zihamba ngokubizwa ngokuthi "ixesha lesidleke esinqatshiwe". Abantwana bakhula baza bashiya ikhaya labo. Abazali abajwayele iingxaki zokuphila zabantwana, ngokukhawuleza bafumane ixesha elininzi lokukhulula. Bafuna ukufumana intsingiselo entsha yobomi kunye namaphupha amatsha oqhagamshelwano nomnye. Ngamanye amaxesha ubunzima bexesha elinjalo banokuqhawula umtshato phakathi kwabatshatileyo, ababemanyene kuphela ngokukhathalela abantwana.
Imiba enjengokuthi "ixesha lesidleke esinqatshiwe" kuthiwa ikhona existential okanye intsingiselo ebalulekileyo. Ngenxa yeemeko, umntu ulahlekelwa yiyiphi eyona nto yayiyintloko yakhe. Inokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane obudlulileyo, ukuhlukana okanye ukufa komntu othandekayo, ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi. Ungaphila ngakumbi? Fumana intsingiselo entsha. Ukuba umntu akanako ukuyicombulula le ngxaki, uya kuba nevalelo yokuphumula okukhoyo, ukungena ngaphakathi. Ukuphazamiseka okwexeshana kule meko kuyonakalisa intsholongwane, iqala ukutshutshisa eso sifo - oogqirha bawabiza ngokuthi i-psychosomatic, oko kukuthi, kubangelwa zizizathu zengqondo, kwaye unika isigxina kwi-patient.
Inkxalabo yentsingiselo idlalwa ngabantu abahlala umhlalaphantsi, ngakumbi xa bebathanda umsebenzi wabo. Ngokwezibalo, malunga nama-70% abantu abadala asebekhulile ngenye indlela okanye enye ixinezeleka. Ukuphuma kwiinkqubela ezikhoyo kuya kunceda oqhagamshelwano nabantu kunye nesimo sokuphila esisebenzayo. Musa ukuhamba ezandleni zakho! Kufuneka uzizame kwimisebenzi emitsha. Ukuhamba, udibana nabafundi ofunda nabo kunye nabo ofunda nabo, tyelela iindidi ezihlala kwezinye iidolophu nakwezinye iindawo. Unokutshintsha uqeqesho, buyela esikolweni, ufunde i-hobby entsha. Ngokomzekelo, omnye umfazi osekhulile wamnceda intombi yakhe imvuse intombi yakhe. Intombazana yayakhula. Ngesinye isikhathi umfazi wayevakalelwa kukuba intsapho yakhe ayifuni ukufumana uncedo, ukuba ukukhathazeka kwakhe kwamcaphukisa intombi yakhe kunye nomzukulu wakhe. Emva koko wafumana umsebenzi njengomntwana kwaye waqala ukufundisa omnye intombazana eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Nanny waba nobuhlobo kunye newadi yakhe encinane kangangokuba ngoku ahlukiyo. Ubomi bunentsingiselo entsha!
Ngaba nabani na abathandekayo bakho banenkxwaleko yokuphila? Yazi, ngoku lo mntu unenkxalabo enentsingiselo, ngokukodwa ekudinga ukunakwa kwabathandekayo. Ungamshiyi wodwa ngeengcinga ezinzima! Unganqikazi ukumkhathaza ngokutyelela kwakho, cela uncedo, nokuba awuyidingi ngokukodwa. Uvakalelwa kukuba ufuna umntu, unika amandla.
... Ne yangaphakathi
Ngoku, iingxaki ezibangelwa zizizathu zangaphakathi zibuhlungu obuhlobene neminyaka. Wonke umntu uyazi iimpawu zeengxaki zeminyaka engama-3: unobuncativisiti, inkani, inkani. Umntwana uyaziqonda ukuba "mna", uzama ukuzimela, ophikisana nendlela endala yobomi, apho zonke izigqibo zenziwa ngabantu abadala. Inkathazo esilandelayo eminyaka engama-7 ibangelwa kukuba umntwana uyanyanzeliswa nentsapho yakhe, ufuna intlalo-egcekeni, kwisikolo, kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Inkxalabo yobutsha izinikezelwe kwimibandela yeencwadi zengqondo, kodwa ke isiluleko esihle kukuba: "Yiba nomonde, kungekhona ngonaphakade."
Ukuba iintlungu zezingane zikhona, njengomthetho, kunokuba zibophelele ngokungqongqo kwixesha elithile, ngoko-ke kubantu abadala abadala imida yemingcele yeminyaka imisiwe.
Ngokomzekelo, ufunde ngeenkolo kwiyunivesithi, kwaye uqhubeka nemfundo kwisikolo esiphumeleleyo, watshata, wabelana ngexesha lakho phakathi kwentsapho nomsebenzi, wenza umsebenzi ophumelelayo waza wazama ukuba ngumgcini weziko. Ewe, ukhula njengengcali, kodwa kungekhona zonke iinjongo ezichazwe ebusheni bakho ziyafezwa nguwe, kwaye ininzi yendlela yokuphila sele idlulile. Kufika ingxaki - ukuhlaziywa kweengcinga zengqondo, iinjongo, iinjongo.
Omnye umzekelo: umfazi uphendukela kwingqondo yengqondo kunye neinyembezi zithi umyeni wakhe akayiqondi - ngokuzenzekileyo watshintsha ngokupheleleyo. Akakwazi ukuthetha naye. Wayexabana nabahlobo bamandulo, uxabana nomsebenzi. Ufika kwikhaya elincinci, uvale egumbini lakhe. Ukuya kwindwendwe yaseBuddhist. "Awazi lutho malunga noBuddha!" - abafazi bakhe umfazi. "Akukho nto, ndiya kuyilungisa," indoda yakhe ibhikisha.
Yintoni ekucebisa lo mfazi? Ngokufanayo nabazali bomntwana ovukelayo, -ba nomonde. Ingxaki yinto yesikhashana. Musa ukuphikisana nomyeni wakhe, khubekisa kuye. Sonke emva kokuba singakhubeki kwisigulane ngobushushu kwaye asimthinteli ukuba aphume ebhedeni! Umsebenzi osondeleyo kweli xesha kufuneka ube "ogulayo", uxoxe naye ngamava akhe, ugcine kwizenzo zokukhawuleza kwaye kunjalo: lungele ukuba umntu ozalelwa kuyo uza kuba kwenye into.
Njengombumba, uguqula iflyflyfly, ikhupha, ifihla kwi-chrysalis, ngoko umntu ufuna ixesha lokuphuma ngexesha leengxaki ukuze aziqonde yena, ukuqonda utshintsho lwehlabathi oluye lwavela emphefumlweni wakhe.
Indlela yokusinda ngxaki?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba inzima iyimfuneko, kodwa ayikho imeko ebuhlungu. Ndimele ndivume ukuba lixesha lokutshintsha nokutshintsha into ebomini bam. Eli lixesha lokusebenza kanzima komphefumlo, ngoko yakha indawo efanelekileyo kuyo! Thatha umzekelo kubazalwana bethu abancinci: xa ulungiselela ukuphinda, i-poplar ifihla kwindawo eyimfihlo, inyoka eguqula ulusu, iyakhuphukela kwi-thicket. Musa ukuxhaphaza izinto eziphathekayo, hamba wedwa kwindalo. "Abafundi banokuthula," u-Yevtushenko wabhala. Uxolo lwangaphakathi luya kukunceda uhambe kwimeko entsha. Isicwangciso sendlela yokuziphatha kule meko sihambelana naso kufuneka sikhethwe kwiinkqubela ezikhoyo. Ukunciphisa umthwalo womsebenzi ubuncinci, bayeke balahlekelwe yimali, kodwa bafumane uxolo lwengqondo. Cacisa kwintsapho yakho ngoku ukuba udinga uxolo kunye nobumninzi kunanini ngaphambili.
Kwimeko yentlekele, umntu uye wandisa ingxabano: zama ukungafumani ubuhlobo. Qhubeka ugxininisa ngamazwi nangezenzo zakho, qaphela kakuhle oogxa bakho kunye nentlonipho.
Iphutha eliphambili labantu abajongene neengxaki zeminyaka yimizamo yokugxeka abanye ngenxa yokukhathazeka kwabo ngaphakathi. Kodwa ukugxeka abanye ngeengxaki zabo kukubonakalisa ukungahlanjululwanga kwengqondo kunye ne-infantilism. Musa ukudimazeka! Zibuze: "Yintoni le nkxwaleko endizisayo?" Kubuhlungu ukuhlukana nesikhumba esidala. Kodwa kuyimfuneko, kuba ithintela ukukhula.