Wonke umntu obophayo ngokubambisana kwamaphupha omtshato wobomi obatshatayo. Hayi, ukuba unokuqikelela ukuba ubomi bentsapho buza kuphuhliswa njani. Yaye phi na ukufumana umhlobo wentsapho yolonwabo? Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha siyaqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba siyakwenza ngokungafaniyo. Ngoko, yintoni efunekayo ukudala intsapho eqinile neyolo:
Okokuqala, oku kuthetha rhoqo. Kulo lonke ishishini, umsebenzi, abantwana, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba. Kodwa xa abantwana belele, sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kwi-atmospheric ekhululekile (ingxoxo yefilimu, incwadi, umdlalo). Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ndawonye ukuya kwimisebenzi yokuzonwabisa: izibini ezitshatileyo kunye, zihlala iminyaka emininzi.
Qinisekisa ukuba uzithandwa. I-Aromovanna, ukuhlalisa umzimba, ukudibana nomhlobo phezu kwendebe yekhofi kwindlu yekhofi esondelene nayo-zonke ezi zinto zivela kwiimvakalelo ezintle, ukufumana izinto ezinonophelo ebomini, kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukuze kuzuze umtshato.
Ukuxhasana ekuxhaseni iinjongo eziqhelekileyo kunye neenjongo zakho zobomi - usapho olonwabileyo luya kubakho nje.
Ingakumbi cinga malunga nokufaneleka komlingane wakho. Esikhundleni sokuzibeka kwiziphene, cinga ngokuphindaphindiweyo malunga nokufaneleka kwayo. Yaye uya kuvuyela ngakumbi ukuthetha nomlingane wakho.
Kufuneka ukuba uziphathe njengokungathi uyathandana. Nangona ukhathele kakhulu, zenzele ukumomotheka kwaye ubomi buya kukhanya. Ukuya ekhaya kukukhupha umyeni wakho (nangona ukwaziswa ngentaba yezitya ezingatshwanga) kwaye ubomi bakho buya kuzaliswa ngemida emitsha yothando.
Ungalokothi ubhekisele kumyeni wakho ngegama lomncedisi. Yenza iindleko ezincinane ngokwakho, kwaye zikhulu, zama ukubonisana nomyeni wakho kwaye uququzelele abantwana asebekhulile kwingxowa-mali yentsapho, uchaza ukuba unayo imali kunye noko unokuthenga.
Ungalokothi wenqabe umyeni ngokusondelana naye, kwaye uqhubeke nokumgweba ngale ndlela. Ukuze angakhonanga kamva ukuba ufuna into ethile kwicala. Kuloo mfazi oqondayo umyeni kulo mbuzo, akuze kubekho iingxaki kumlingane!
Ukulawula ubudlelwane nabazali. Mema iindwendwe, tyelela, ncedise-kodwa musa ukuwavumela kwimicimbi yabo, bangabelani ngemfihlelo eyimfihlo, musa ukukhalaza. Zama ukuphatha abazali bakho ngokufanayo, zombini kunye nomyeni wakho.
Into ephambili kukuba, yamkela umyeni wakho njengoko unjalo, fundisa ukunyamezela nokuxolela iimpazamo zabanye. Umoya wolonwabo lwentsapho, kuxhomekeke kakhulu kumfazi, kwikhono lakhe nangengqiqo, ngobuqili nangengqondo. Kwaye abaninzi banokucinga: "Kutheni umfazi emele akwazi ukunyamezela nokuvelisa? Kungenxa yokuba kungowesifazane, umdale wolonwabo lwentsapho, kwaye ngenxa yolu, kungekhona isono kwaye uya kusebenza. Kucacile ukuba ngezinye ixesha isifo sidibanisa abantu abahluke ngokupheleleyo. Ukuzama ukuxubana komnye nomnye, kufuneka sikwazi ukunyamezela ezininzi iingxaki, ukuxabana, ukuxabana kunye nomonde kunye nentlonipho enzulu kulabo abasondeleyo ekufumaneni iimpazamo kunye nezigqibo ezifanelekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba bangawucimisi intsapho kunye nomlilo onamandla kakhulu.
Ulonwabo lwentsapho alukho, apho abantu badinwa yiyo yokuba baqokelela izikhalazo. Ngenxa yokuxabana, siyazisola, sinezela umlilo kumlilo, iimvakalelo zethu, ukukhumbula izono zangaphambili. Ukwenza izigqibo zokuxolela, kubalulekile ukufunda, ukwenza ngokunyanisekileyo, ngaphandle kokubuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ngaphandle koko, awuyi kusinda umthwalo wezikhalazo kunye namabango, kwaye ukuxabana kwakho kunye neengxabano kwintsapho akuyikuphela. Kwaye ke ubomi bakho bentsapho buya kuba yirekhodi elidala kunye nomzekelo ofanayo, owodwa umhla oya kuwufuna ukutshintsha ngonaphakade. Akusiyo into yokuba izazi zengqondo zicebise abafazi, musa ukulala ngaphandle kokubuyisana.