Inzondo iyonakalisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho. Yintoni umona? Loo mvakalelo ngumnqophiso wokuthabazela okanye ngokuphambene naso, uphawu olungundoqo lokungathembeki komlingane? Ukhwele luhluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye luhlala luchaphazela abantu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujongana nale mvakalelo ngokuchanekileyo nangokuchanekileyo.
Ukukhweleka kwakho kumfana wakho
Ekugqibeleni uSveta waba ngumfazi otshatileyo. Emva komtshato, wasuka waya kuhlala nomyeni wakhe omtsha waza waqala ukuxhobisa indlu nendlu yentsapho, ikhaya, kuba indlu ye-bachelor yayingenakufudumala kunye nentuthuzelo. Xa ehlambulula indlu, uSveta wafumana ipakethe enkulu yeefoto, ngokuqhelekileyo wayejonge. Emva koko, waya kwelinye igumbi waza wazithululela i-cognac, eyayiphuza nge-volley. Yaye yonke into yokuba isandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa kuzo zonke iifoto kwanyatheliswa enye intombazana, kwi cafe, elunxwemeni, epakini ... uSveta wayesazi ngelo xesha le ntombazana esesithombeni, wayeseyintombi yakhe, kodwa ngokukrakra, akafumananga ngcono kusuka kulo. I-Sveta sele sele isigqibo sokuba xa indoda yakhe ibuya ekhaya isuka emsebenzini, ngoko endaweni yokutya izamphosa isikhalazo. Amagama ukuba bubuwula kakhulu ukuba abe nomona ngomntu kwixesha lakhe elidlulileyo asebenzanga kuKhanya.
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo iimeko zenzeke ngamnye kuthi. Emva koko, sonke siyaqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba intombazana edlulileyo yamantombazana, eli lixesha layo elidlulileyo, elingafanele likhunjulwe. Kodwa ungathini ukuba ungabi nomona ngomntu xa ukucinga kwethu kuchukumisa ngokucacileyo imeko ezenzekayo ngoku kuwe - ukuba wamnxela ngamazwi amnandi, kangangokuthi wammbamba, wathiwa ngamazwi amnene?
Ngelo xesha, intombazana nganye iqala ukuziqhathanisa nentombi yakhe. Akuyi kubangela nto kodwa intlungu. Xa umela ulwalamano lwangaphambili lomlingane wakho, wena ngezandla zakho ubhekiselele ngqo entliziyweni yakho. Inzondo iyonakalisa ulwalamano, inceda ukunciphisa ukuzithemba, kwaye kuyacaphukisa umfana wakho. Uqala ukumba kwixesha lakhe elidlulileyo, xa unokuyonwabela imihla yangoku kwaye uphile ngokuzonwabisa.
Yintoni enokuyenza kwiimeko ezinjalo?
Khumbula ukuba kuya kuhlala kukho umntu oza kuba ngcono kunoko. Lo ngumthetho wobomi, kodwa kungeyiyo intlekele kwaye uyithathe njengoko unikwe. Kodwa ungaxhomeki kulo, kwaye nangona kunjalo, le meko akumele ibe yinto echaphazela ukuzithemba kwakho, kuba sonke sinakho isiphelo sethu, ubomi.
Kuwe, kufuneka ukhumbule: intombazana yakho ethandekayo ikunye ngokwakho, ngenxa yezizathu zakhe. Emva koko, ukuba unayo, kuthetha ukuba unelisekile ngokupheleleyo ngezinto zonke ezikuwe kwaye ufuna ukuhlala nawe, kungekhona nomnye ovela kwamanye amantombazana asekudlulileyo. Ulwalamano oludlulileyo ngokuqinisekileyo lusebenze njengamava enkwenkwe yakho, ngoku njengokuba kunjalo, iindibano ezidlulileyo ziye zamvumela ukuba abe nolwazi oluninzi, obulumko.
Nomona. Ngaba uthando okanye ukugula?
Abamelwane bam banesibini esilutsha, u-Olga no-Igor. Batshatile iminyaka engama-4, kwaye konke oku, u-Olga ucinga ukuqhawula umyeni wakhe. Isizathu salokhu ngumona kaGigor. Umyeni wakhe ulawula zonke iinyawo zakhe, nangaliphi na ithuba, u-scandals. Ukukhawuleza emsebenzini - ukukhwabanisa, ukuthengwa kwengubo entsha kwaye ingaba sisihlandlo se-scandal. U-Olga ufanele afune ukuzithethelela, zonke izizathu zakhe zizathu, kwaye amagama awenza nje ama-scandals amasha aze enze umyeni wakhe abe nomsindo.
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Kule meko, umona uye waba nzima. Umyeni kaOlga uhlala ehlaselwa ngumbono wokuthi utshintshi kwaye umfazi wakhe uthembekile kuye. Ingxaki ebalulekileyo kukuba umntu onomona u-100% onesiqiniseko sokunyaniseka kwaye akadingi naziphi iimbono kwaye kunzima ukukholisa loo mntu. Iingcali zithi le ndoda yomntu "i-delirium ye delirium." Emva koko, umntu onjalo kunzima ukuphuma kweli lizwe kwaye ngumona owonakalisa ubuhlobo.
Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko?
Ukuba yonke into ihambe ngoku kude ukuba ulahlekelwe ngabahlobo bonke kwaye uye kwi-salon enobuhle kunye nomyeni wakho, ngoko kufuneka uqikelele ngokucacileyo malunga nokuba ufuna ubuhlobo obunjalo. Ubomi bakho kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba uphile ngokukhululekile, ujonge imihla ngemihla, kwaye ungazilungeli ngokwamanyathelo onke owathathayo phambi komntu. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uziphatha neqabane lakho ngesidima kwaye uzame ngamandla akho onke ukuba umqinisekise ngokunyaniseka kwakho, akukho nto inokuthintela isazela esicacileyo ukuba uyingxenye. Kuya kuba yiphutha, ukuba ngenxa yothandekayo uya kutshabalalisa ubomi bakho.
Ukuba ufumanisa kunzima ukuyiqonda iimvakalelo zakho, ngoko kufuneka uqhagamshelane neengqondo zengqondo. Yaye khumbula ukuba umona uyonakalisa ubuhlobo kwintsapho. Thembela umthandayo uze uphile ngokuvuyisa emva koko.