Yintoni enokubangela isondo ngaphambi komtshato?
Ukulala ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato kuholela ekuphuleni ubudlelwane nendoda efuna kuphela.
Kukho amadoda aphikelela ukuba umtshakazi uyintombi. Kwaye abaninzi abantu bayayifaka. Ukulala ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato kunokukhokelela kwizifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, apho kwiimeko ezininzi kukhokelela ekukhiphe isisu. Kodwa makhe sihlale sicinga ukuba kutheni amantombazana amaninzi athetha ukulalana emva komtshato.
Cinga ngezizathu zokungala. Isizathu sokuqala kukuba uloyiko lwentombazana lolwalamano olusondeleyo. Uloyiko lokuba umthandayo unokulahlekelwa ngumdla kuye, emva kokuwubona. Kukho ukwesaba ukuba izalamane kunye nabahlobo bakhe baya kumgweba kwaye abayi kumqonda.
Amantombazana amaninzi ayesaba ukulala ngesondo, kwaye ayesaba intlungu eyenziwa ngumntu oselula.
Isizathu salo esilandelayo sinokungaqiniseki. Akazi ukuba umntu uyayithanda okanye yinto enomdla othile. Ukuba wayezigcinele enye yedwa, ke kungcono ukumnika ixesha lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba unguye.
Ngethuba lethu kukho amazwe alala ngesondo emva komtshato. Ngoko ke, inkolo inokuma emva kwesigqibo sayo. Akufanele igwetywe kwaye ityala, kuba le sigqibo kunye nayo ingaba nzima. Umntu onothando uhlala ekulungele ukuphulaphula iimfuno zakhe kunye nezigqibo.
Kubalulekile ukuba intombazana evela kumntu ukuqonda nokumxhasa. Akufanele azinze ngokwakhe, ekubeni ngokwenza njalo unako ukuphula i-idyll yobudlelwane. Ukuba le ntombazana ayilungele, kungcono ukuhlonipha nokuhlonela isigqibo sakhe kwaye ungacingi.