Wema phakathi kwakhe nendodana yakhe.
Le yindlela edlalwa ngayo uninzi lwabazala kamasipala. Ngaphambi kokubonakala kwakho kwintsapho yabo, kwakukho ubudlelwane obuhle, nangona kunjalo, unina wakho umyeni wayekholelwa njalo. Wayelawula ngokupheleleyo ubudlelwane babo, wayifaka iisokisi zendodana yakhe waza wapheka isobho. Xa ufika, yonke into yayitshintshile - unyana wayeka ukuxelela unina zonke iinkcukacha zobomi bakhe, waqala ukubonakala engaphantsi kancinane ekhaya, kunye nesitya sokutya samama, esiluncedo kwisisu, ukukhetha ukuhamba kunye nawe ukuya kwiivenkile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umfazi okhulele unyana wakhe iminyaka emininzi aze ahlale naye, unomona. Kodwa akusiyo imvelo ukuba iphazamise ubudlelwane bakho.
Impazamo yomamazala, onomona kuwe, uqulethe ukuba uyazama ukugcina impembelelo yakhe kwindodana yakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Uqinisekile ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukuzungeze unyana wakhe othandekayo kunye nokunyamekela kwakhe. Kwaye into enzima kakhulu kukuba umyeni wakho mhlawumbi akayi kubona ingxaki. Usetyenziselwa ukuba unina uhlala apho kwaye uhlala enika iingcebiso, kwaye wena emehlweni akhe awunalo igunya elifanelekileyo lokungenisekanga kwakhe.
Akulula ukuphuma kule meko. Okokuqala, qondisa ukuba intsapho yakho ayiyintsimi yomsebenzi wemikhosi, kwaye akukho sizathu sokwabelana ngamandla. Umyeni wakho uyakuthanda bobabini, kodwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo nomamazala. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka ngesizathu esithile, thetha nomlingane, yena, kwaye akufanele uchazele unina apho umda wokuphazamiseka okuvumelekileyo ebomini bakho uphela. Uzama ukuchaneka, kodwa ungavumeli umkhwekazi athathe iinqununu zikaRhulumente ezandleni zakho, oko kukuthi, zama ubuncinane kwaye ujonge rhoqo umyeni wakho, ukujonga imeko yeengubo zakhe kunye neengubo. Zama ukungaxabani phambi koomama-mkhwenkwe wakho, kuya kumisa nje kuwe. Zonke ezinye iinkcukacha zobomi bakho zifihliwe ngokupheleleyo kuyo.
Awufiki.
Kungomnye umba ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe akabi nje umona, kodwa uyaqiniseka ukuba awunalo isibini kwindodana yakhe. Le yinye impazamo yomama oqhelekileyo, ojamelana nabafazi abaninzi abaselula. Ewe, umama wendoda yakho akafuni ukuba unyana wakhe asebenzise ubomi bakhe yedwa kunye naye, ufuna abazukulu kwaye akayikukhumbula ukuba unyana wakhe uyatshata. Ingxaki kukuba uye wagqiba ixesha elide ukuba umfazi ohloniphekileyo kufuneka abe yindodana yakhe kwaye, ngelishwa, awufani nale miqathango.
Uninzi lwamaxesha, oomama bafuna ukuba umntakwabo wabo ozayo babe yintsapho yabo entle, babe nothothozo kunye nobuhle, banemfundo emhle kwaye banomsebenzi ohloniphekileyo, babengenalumko, ukuthobela, baxabisa intsapho ngaphezu kwabo bonke, babengumfazi omuhle wendlu, bephupha abantwana kwaye babe neendleko ezifanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, nokuba umalokazana unabo bonke aba bantu, umama-mkhwenkwe othabathayo uya kuhlala efumana ukuba ukugweba - nokuba yindlela yokuziphatha okanye ayikwazi ukugqoka isambatho kuye.
Apha ufanele uqonde ukuba ukhetho lomfazi, okokuqala, lungumyeni wakho, kungekhona unina. Yaye ukuba ukhe ukhethe, uphendule zonke iimfuno zakhe. Ungazami ukubonisa ubungqina bomama wakho, ukuba umele umzekelo womfazi, nje ungangeni kwimpikiswano naye, ungazami ukukholisa yonke into. Emva kwexesha, uya kukhulula okanye uya kukhululeka ekunyanzelaneni naye, oko akusoloko kuyinto embi.
Ungumama omubi.
Enye impazamo yomama-mkhwenkwe-umzamo wokutshintshela oomama bakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama kangakanani, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhulisa abantwana kwaye nantoni na oyenzayo, emehlweni akhe wenza konke okungahambi kakuhle. Akunjalo ukucima i-diapers, kungekhona ke ukondla ngesifuba, kungekhona ukuba ugqoke kwaye uvelise ngokungalunganga. Ewe, umama-mkhwe unokuthi unamava amaninzi, kwaye sele sele evelise unyana ontle. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba ube nolwazi olufanayo kunye nezakhono, ubuncinane ubuncinane kwikota yeenkulungwane.
Abantwana bakho ngabantwana bakho. Uninazala unokwenza kuphela indima ka-ugogo, umncedisi, kodwa kungekhona ootitshala abakhulu. Abazali kuphela kufuneka banqume indlela yokufundisa abantwana babo. Ngoko ungamvumeli ukuba athathe amandla kwaye enze abantwana ngokwakho. Xa uthetha nomamazala, shiya imiyalelo ecacileyo yento yokutya, okokuba ugqoke, yintoni ongayenza ukuba babukele kwiTV. Ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe akaphulaphuli, velise ukucokola kwakhe nabantwana - oku kuya kusebenza kunye nexesha.
Uwonakalise unyana wakhe.
Kungokwemvelo ukuba emva komtshato, ngokukodwa xa uhlala ngokwahlukileyo, umyeni wakho uye waba nengqalelo encinci kumama, uye wafumana imikhwa emitsha, watshintsha indlela yobomi. Impazamo yomama-mkhwenkwe kukuba uyazibona nayiphi na utshintsho kwindodana kuphela. Unokuzama ukuqhuba iingxoxo kunye nokuxelela ukuba unempembelelo embi kwindodana yakhe, nokuba ngaba utshintsho luqulethe ukuba wayeyeke ukugqoka i-tie nakwi-dacha.
Nangu kuphela umyeni wakho onokubeka isicombululo esinqumlekileyo kwimpikiswano. Unako ukuthetha nonina aze amchazele ukuba udala ngokwaneleyo ukwenza izigqibo zakhe kwaye akwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokulungileyo nokubi. Ekubeni unentsapho yakho, kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba umyeni wakho akayi kukwazi ukunyamekela unina, kodwa akayi kushiya.
Iimpazamo zoomama zingonakalisa ubomi bobabini kunye neqabane lakho, ngamanye amaxesha ngenxa yezo mpi zintsapho zonakaliswa. Kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni unyokokazi wakho eziphatha kule nto okanye loo meko, kufuneka ube kwicala lentsapho yakho, kodwa phawula umama wakho ngenhlonipho. Kwaye nendima ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane phakathi komalokazana nomkhwekazi kufuneka idlalwe ngumlingane wakho, emva koko, umsebenzi wakhe wokuqala kukuthatha uxanduva lwakho kwaye unakekele abazali bakho. Ngako oko, musa ukukhawuleza ekulweni kunye noninazala wakho kwiimeko zonke, shiya umyeni wakho ukuba asombulule zonke iimeko zongquzulwano. Ubuncinane kuba umama nendodana bahlala bevuma ukuvuma.